just need to talk

[tomnjerrymommy]

So this will be our third baby, i am 6 weeks and 3 days. I tell him i need to call the dr because when i wipe i see pink , he blurts out i really dont want this baby. Im like really what a time to say that, now my feelings are hurt. Granted we werent planning on this, the day i was gonna have consult to get tubes tied i find out im pregnant. Feeling overwhelmed and worried.

[1momma4chicks]

Could it be that he is scared & overwhelmed & he said that out of worry? Men tend to say & do some strange things because it's not supposed to be acceptable for them to have weaknesses. They don't get it that when they say things like that, it comes out as mean & not fearful. I totally agree with lilpianogirl85, he needs to hear from you how his comment sounded to your ears & how deep it cut. Good luck with him & your pregnancy.

[tomnjerrymommy]

Thank you i know i was in my feelings at the moment.

[lilpianogirl85]

Remember this is an adjustment for him too. I agree with mummainoz. He might have just said it the wrong way. I think saying you don't need him and blah blah is a little bit of an overreaction to his feelings. He is allowed to be worried and have his unions he is the father. And remember you are overly sensitive right now and he might not be thinking about that. I would sit down with him and day honey I know this is unexpected and a surprise but what you said really hurt and I need to know if you are going to super me through this. I'm sure he will he just had a moment of weakness, he's allowed to have them :)

[nicnac1225]

Pink can be normal I had it around 7 weeks. Try not to worry x

[tomnjerrymommy]

Thank you ladies, my first appointment is friday but i am gonna call in the morning. Your so right i dont need him, but my children do.

[Rose_080414]

You should only worry about you and your baby. Trust me I know what you are going through. But get yourself checked and be there for your family. In all honesty women don't need the men it's them who need us. Be strong go see a doctor think positive.

[mummainoz]

Did you go to the dr? I would replace in your mind what he said with 'this was unexpected and I'm still adjusting to the idea' and just get on with it and get yourself seen to. We really wanted this baby but now we're having complications I think both my husband and I have flipped between joy and being totally overwhelmed at least once. We did the same with our first and by the end we were on the same page. Good luck and sending you positive thoughts!