Forgive my ignorance...

[TMMB]

Hi ladies. Sure I should know this by now, but is it considered proper ettaquitt for me to organize and throw my own shower? Thanks and best wishes.

[giraffe1020]

Proper etiquette would dictate that you do not throw a party for yourself where you ask for gifts. If you choose to follow that, an alternative would be a meet the baby party after the baby is born. People will likely be bearing gifts but it wouldn't be like you were asking for them. Things like bridal showers and baby showers are something others typically host for you.
However, the only people that may comment if you throw your own shower are those that follow these rules. If you are surrounded by people that won't care either way, you could go for it with no stress.
I had sent a registry card in my wedding invitations not realizing it was a faux pas. No one said anything but it would have been rude of them to. So, likely no one would say anything to you anyway.

[mondaysgirl]

I'm from the UK and its new to our area, I m on number 4 and have never had one love the idea though! If I were you and it looks like no one is going to do it for you I would, life's too short and people don't have to come if they feel your being rude. Sorry if I've missed something through not knowing much about them but surely they can chose to spend what they want on a gift? GOOD LUCK whatever you decide xxx

[TMMB]

Thanks ladies for all the input.

[wayfunmommy]

Etiquite wise, no, it is not proper to throw your own shower. It's never proper to ask people to give you gifts. If you don't care about etiquite, do your own thing.

[yankeegirl218]

My husband and I are planning and throwing our own shower. A couple people offered, but our list was as large as 150 individuals including children (since we both have large families). It was thought of as inconsiderate, by my husband and I, that someone else should have to take on such a large party when we chose to have so many people attend. I do not think it's bad etiquette, as long as you have the right intentions. In my case, to put someone else out due to the growing cost. Good luck and sit back and enjoy it. They're all there to celebrate baby with you, regardless as to who throws the shower :)

[Suly787]

You can plan your whole babyshower if you will like to, just make sure to have a great support team that will help you with a couple of things. I'm planning my own baby shower and my sister is helping me because she knows many things about decorations and other things. So far is turning out just like I want it.

[1momma4chicks]

I organized my own & mailed out invitations but my mom & mil paid for the facility & a lot of the food. I did so because mine & hubs wedding reception kind of got taken over by the mil so I decided the baby shower would not end up the same. I guess you could say it was an act of rebellion on my part but it turned out well because I got what I wanted & didn't feel "run over". Mil was happy because she had some input & didn't feel left out.
I guess every situation is different & maybe to some it's not proper but I think it's all in how it's handled.

[zoedeborah]

Hi im 36weeks!! Well I had mine thrown for me last week and it was the most through fullest thing that my friends and family done for me, let then organize it for you, the last thing you need now is to me stressed out over little things like this. Your your time to be pampered

[OctoberBaby5]

I wanted to throw mine bc im to controlling to have someone else do it :/ but my mil and mother said "the fun part is having it be a surprise" they dont get the only fun part for me was planning it :/ now I feel like its their babyshpwer cause theyre doing eveything THEY want im just showing up to open the presents.. but I know that sounds super ungrateful so I don't tell anyone.. and also I did feel like it wasnt appropriate for me to do it anyway  

[Natty929]

Funny you ask that question,  I'm 38wks preg. And I haven't had a baby shower, however, my girls told me I should have thrown my own. But like how you're feeling I didn't see it as proper etiquette. It felt as if I were being desperate or something. I'm originally fr  Wash, DC and moved to Florida so my friend list is literally one hand full. If you have supportive friends I don't see what the problem would be. Sorry for writing a story, I pray all goes well with your decision.