Planning for Baby # 2 at 41

[prevatt77]

Hello All,

Most of you already know me on here, but I haven't been on in a while.  Well my husband told me that he wants to try and have another child.  Gavin is only 10 weeks old and he was a struggle to have.  We had 4 miscarriage and this pregnancy was a struggle also.  I'm not sure what to do.  It was very hard for me and the thought of being pregnant when Gavin is still an infant seems impossible.  I don't get much sleep now.  Plus, who is to say that I will get pregnant right away, I don't want to go through all the miscarriages again and I would be at least 42 at the delivery of the next child (depending if I get pregnant right away).  I just don't know what to do.  What do you all think?  Also, what are others experiences?  Talk to me girls....

Debbie

[momof8215]

Hi there, it really is ultimately your decision because you have to go through all of it. Tell your husband that it's not completely out of the question, but that you need a little more time to think about it. With the little one still brand new, tell him that you both need to enjoy him for moment.  Let him be the baby for awhile!  Age is just a number...in a few months or a year, you  may feel differently and your body may be ready.Best of luck with whatever you decide. God bless!!

[adgal]

Hey girl, good to see you posting again!  A very wise on line friend gave me some great advice not too long ago..."Amanda, do what your heart tells you, and if this is what you want, do NOT give up or let anything stand in your way".  Great advice...sound familiar?? lol.  You need to do what's right for you.  If you want to have another, don't let the "what if's" stop you.  Love ya my friend, and you know I wish you the absolute best no matter what you decide!!  

[YvetteY]

Hey there...yup it's a choice you will have to make.  I am going to be 43 by the time my baby is born and I would have really like this one to have been a twin for the sake of this child having a sibling and what not.   Because I really don't think I will have the energy to do it again after this baby get's here.   I would really like to have had another baby after this one get's here, but geez...I'm not sure what I am getting myself into with this one.  

Hang in there!  You'll eventually figure it out.  Too bad the men can't carry the babies!  I'd like to see how many would be asking for another one.

[SoCalTricia]

I think it's such an individual choice...and YOU have to be okay with it to handle everything emotionally. The baby you just had is so new, that your hormones are still out of whack...and, Lord knows, we don't think clearly when our hormones are out of whack! LOL!

Seriously, my advice is this: don't let your husband pressure you into it...but do keep an open mind and avoid ruling it out at this point. When this baby is a few months old, you may feel differently about having another. Maybe you and your husband could work out a deal you are both okay with. For example, we'll try until "X" date and if it hasn't happened by then, that's it. Whatever you decide, good luck...and let us know!

Tricia

[PamelaBee]

Hi Debbie, welcome back.  I think you may know my story, I delivered my 1st at 43, and am currently 19wks pregnant with #2, at 45.  I thought I was done after my son was born, and although I didn't have any problems TTC or with the pregnancy itself, I just felt that at the ripe ole age of 43, I was done.  Well, that didn't last very long, hence #2 on the way.  I think as long as you are up for it, and you feel ready to start conceiving again, go for it!  As you know, it may not happen as soon as you like, but you never know, it just might.  I would have never dreamed in a million years I'd be having babies at my age, God only knows, I didn't wish to be pregnant at 43 or 45...but I am, and it's a blessing I'm grateful for every single day!  So, my answer and vote is YES!!!  Have another!!  : )

[prevatt77]

Also, forgot to mention... I already have a 15 year old girl, so this would make child # 3 all together.