Help, I'm 49 years old and pregnant

[Debradesign]

Hi, I'm new here....I will turn 50 years old this September. I have 4 children, oldest is 25, youngest is 8 ( I had my youngest at 41) and pregnant again at 42 which ended in a MC @ 10 weeks. We haven't used birth control in over 10 years... I still have my regular periods, about a week ago I had a 1 day of a tiny amount of implantation spotting (brown/old blood) I thought my period was starting but it didn't..so I get up this morning with very tender breasts and needing to urinate more frequent the last few days, I'm also feeling tired....I thought I was going through menopause..but I've been pregnant before and I know the symptoms, been felt it was highly unlikely given my age that I was pregnant, even though it felt like I was so today just to make sure, I took a pregnancy test and it turned positive right away....I can't get into my doctor until next week, I'm a very healthy/fit almost 50 year old. My question is at my age, what are the odds of MC, is there anything I can do to make sure of a healthy pregnancy? do I even produce enough progesterone/hormones at my age to support a pregnancy? any advice is greatly appreciated! thank you...

[amdawn]

I glad to see this thread continued even with the "age" of it,  no pun intended.  :) I'm 39 and trying for number 2. Already had 1 mc and possibly in process of another mc. Ultrasound was not positive with growth at 6 weeks. Seeing all the testimony of pregnancy at 35+ helps us stay positive. I wish there was something we could do to help early stages to help the baby grow.  Good luck to all the mommas, one love <3

[Laxshmi]

I too am hoping for a last shot. I had my first and only child aged 42, without trying that hard to make it happen! Am 49 now and hoping for a second one with the love of my life who I have met aged 44 (he is 52). I don't think he wants another child really but if a chance in a million happens, I'm sure he would love it. I have been told that I have a good chance of it because I didn't take too long to fall pregnant at 41 (despite being unhealthy - at the time I smoked and drank).

[munawarl]

Iam 50 and hoping to conceive soon. I only have one child. She is 20 years old. She wants me to have a child too. I really would love to have a little boy. My husband says in God's hands only. I have to agree. If God gives me a child, I will be greatful. But if He chooses not too,I can live with that!  

[Hope_filled]

I just found this page and I turned 48 in September.  In 7 months I will be 49 and my husband and I have been hoping to have a baby.  We have been married for 2 years. Before now, I never considered it, but you guys have given me hope to try.  I see all of the &quot;I just found out I am pregnant&quot;, but has anyone had a healthy baby?  THanks!

[Dottiegirl1]

I am wondering if you found out if you are pregnant?

I am also 49 and have not had any children, although have been pregnant in my previous marriage and miscarried.  Tests showed that my husband had multiple problems but that I was fine.  This month I have been experiencing some unusual symptoms, starting last Tuesday which would be halfway through my cycle. I have been randomly nauseous, sore nipples and had hot flashes.  My period is due later this week (today being Monday). Today have noticed brown discharge when wiping.  I am so confused.  I keep telling myself that it's ridiculous to think that pregnancy could happen at my age - and then people tell me about others who have conceived and delivered healthy babies.

[Sandiegohoneybee1212]

My daughter was born when I was 28.  Then at 43  I meet this much younger man nd I get pregnant that month. It was a hard decision but had my boy at 44.  I'm thin md my pregnancy was great.  We snowboard every weekend nd just have s blast.  Im 53 now I have one good tube I found out cause they tied my tubes but only one is tied apparently.  Anyway I had a period this month. But am having waves of nausea for 2 days then vimited once at night.  Really strange. For the last two months my breasts were killing me but after this last regular period they aren't. omg  Could I be pregnant?  I gotta get a test.  I couldn't possibly be.  

[olori34]

I was moved when I  read ur story.. Am 49rs old lady, had a son out of ignorance when I was in secondary school, then i was  17yrs.. Now am properly married to a more younger man... But i ve not being able to get pregnant... Now I have faith and hope in God.... God bless you and your family.

[HeavenlyLuv]

     Since this was a recent addition to the above post I'll answer you 8andwant9--and yes I understand this is an old thread so feel free to pm me so we don't keep it alive.  I just feel like an answer is the best way to  close the thread.

     I had a baby at 45 conceived naturally.  I wasn't trying and actually thought I had the flu and went to the hospital and found out. She was healthy and I had no issues during the pregnancy other than hyperemesis, which I'd had with my prior pregnancies years earlier so nothing new there.  

     Relaxing plays a big part of getting pregnant when you're older.  TTC can really put a lot of stress on you throwing your body out of whack.  In my family women have had babies up to 52 years of age naturally so I didn't think much of it, but some doctors (not all) acted like it was some kind of miracle.  In that way I am lucky since I have in-family examples of success--but you should know even so my questions and doubts are the same.  Do your best to eat healthy, get enough rest and try to relax.

   The internet can be a blessing and a curse. There are tons of people saying babies over 45 are near impossible and donor eggs are the only way to go.  I'm not knocking all of that info nor having children that way, you should just know that a lot of it can be overblown and often people are repeating stats that they hear.  I'm just saying as long as you aren't in menopause you have a chance of pregnancy.  

     Just look on the net for info on women over 40 with surprise/unwanted pregnancies.  Its a growing concern and stems in large part from the medical community (and society) lulling women into a false sense of security by saying it's not likely.  I had asked my doctor for BC at the time (before my accidental conception) and was told it wasn't really necessary. Not going to blame them though...I should have pushed for bc instead of just accepting what was said.

     Don't get me wrong,  I love children but being overweight and having issues with hyperemesis for every pregnancy thus far I had just recently discussed with my spouse that before we even think about another baby I'd want to lose some weight in hopes of it being a better pregnancy. The next month I found out I was 2 weeks pregnant.  

     I was in shock, trust me, but having recently had some significant losses in my family (mother, brother) I felt that this was a wonderful gift back to us. She was and still is.  Now she is four and  I, like you, have decided to try one last time.  Doctors are largely unsupportive and imo this is either going to happen or not, I can't allow them to discourage me.   I won't be going any expensive routes.  Using donor eggs and such are out of the realm of what I want to do to achieve this.

     I'm taking vitamins and following some tips and overall just trying to relax and let it happen.  I do have some challenges but overall I'm feeling positive about ttc.  And you have to love the BD--if nothing else my stress is lower and DH and I are spending a lot of time together.
    
     I signed up here today just to tell you this because I know where you're coming from.  Keep your head up and do whats right for you and don't get discouraged,  there are a lot of us older moms out there and YES it is possible.