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Hi, everyone!I need your help and support.

Hi, everyone!
How are you,what is your news?
Im feeling emty, so sad,upset.Few days ago I lost my baby.Its so painful, when babies are leaving you and go to GOD.
Its worst feelings in the world.I will feel this pain all my life.My life never will be same.I always love my baby so much, my baby will be in my heart forever!!!
Girls, who went through such situacion, how are you feeling now?How do you help yourself to feel better?
Thank you so much for your help amd support!
Just person, who loss pregnancy or lost baby can to understand you very well, support and help you.
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377493 tn?1356502149
I'm sorry your still in so much pain.  Sadly, it just takes time.  I don't think I will ever forget my angel babies, but I have moved on.  I did have to see a therapist at one point.  Don't hesitate to do that if you need to.  
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Hi, girls!
How are you?What is news?
Im still in much pain.I love and miss my sweet baby so much!
Im thinking of my baby every day.
Girls, how are you dealing with seeing pregnant women and new babies?
I cry, when I see pregnant women or new baby.Its so painful, it hurt me!
I want my sweet baby, my healthy baby back!!!
I still have sad days.Now I go through my down.

I hope you will can to share your experiences, I hope you will can to help me go through this so painful and hard time.
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Tammy, thank you so much  for sharing your experience, for your support. Its very helpul for me.
How are you feeling now?Have your babies names?
Im feeling better.Because time is the best healer.But everything is still so fresh.Some days I cry, when I think or talk about my sweet baby.Some days I think and talk about my baby without tears.
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1287412 tn?1272423369
ive lost a few baby's but in saying so im 29 wks preg with number 7. it will never get easy love never but i cope bye crying if i need to cry, dont hold what u feel inside cause it wont help u, u can always plant a red rose bush in a pot or the garden if u own ya home for a rememberance for the baby n i have 4 of them, it sounds very strange i know but when it blooms every yr with the most sentered flowers im at peace with the losses ive had, i wont ever understand y but i know there around when i see them bloom. often i will sit in the back yard and look over at them and shed a tear but it helps me cope.I went through a stage were i couldnt go out to the shops without crying if i saw a baby or just simply a blanket, bottle anything to do with a baby, some times id touch it in break down but u find your strenth within and i found mine in my garden when i planted a rose bush when ive lost a baby. I trim them look after them n they r healthy as so y wouldnt i be happy if it makes me cope that way.
best of luck and remember to take care of u number 1 xxxx
Tammy
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377493 tn?1356502149
I think that just like any other mourning process, it is different for everyone.  There is no right or wrong, and no time line. I can tell you that for me, at one point, I needed counseling to help me move forward.  I will always miss and wonder about my angel babies, but the counseling helped me.  It is up to you.  If it is at the point that you are having trouble functioning, perhaps it is time for outside help.  You know yourself, and you know what you need.  Do not be afraid to get help if necessary.  For me, it was important.  I am so sorry you are having such a hard time, and I wish you peace and healing.
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Hi, girls!
     How are you, what is your news?
     Im not good.Im so sad, upset.I cannot to think or to talk about my baby without tears.I miss and love my sweet baby so much!I think about baby every day.
     Girls, how long time take healing process?What is your experiens?
    
Thanks for your sharing and help and support.
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Thank you for your answer.Its helpful.
Did you also have scary dreams?If yes, how long?
How are you feeling now?I hope you are fine now.
Today I called to my doctor and told him about my scary dreams.He said healing process will take time.Soon I will get better.Also he recommended me go to group support pregnancy loss.
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377493 tn?1356502149
Zirka, I had several losses prior to having my first child.  I have had two more since having him. I completely understand what you are saying about being afraid of losing your kids.  I had and do have terrible anxiety around this issue.  It's like I am half convinced something will happen to take him away from me.  I have had to go into therapy, and for a while was on anti anxiety medication.  Both have helped me so much.  I urge you to talk to your Dr.  It's awful feeling this way.  Take care, and I do wish you healing.
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Hi, girls!
How are you today? What is your news?
Im still so sad, miss my sweet baby.
Since I lost my sweet baby, I have scary dreams, where Im feeling greatest fear to loss my kids.Almost every night I have not peaca, I wake up and go to check my kids.
I affected by loss my baby very well, I never had such scary dreams before.
Girls,who on same way, how are you coping with your scary dreams?What help you to sleep good? How long you have hard time?
     Thank you for your help and support!
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Hi, girls!
Since I lost my baby, I feel blame.I couldnot to protect my baby from major genetic health problem, I couldnot to save my baby.My doctor tell  me is not my fault, its just bad luck, its just my age.But Im still have not peace.
Girls, who feeling same? How are you helping to yourself?
I need your help.Thanks.
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Hi, girls!
Thank you for your support!
Im also very sorry for your lost.Its hardest time in our life.
Every day I think about my baby, every day I look at Heaven and have talk with my baby.Nobody knows WHY it happened with my baby, just GOD knows everything, just GOD has reason for it.Also Im praying to GOD every day, and yes, Im feeling a little bit better.
But I still cannot to see pregnant women, babies.Its so hard and painful!I cry when I see babies or pregnant women.
But thank GOD so much for my so cute kids!My a little sons help me go through this hardest time.And I also feel very sorry for women, who lost firstborn.She feel much worse then me.Because she feel so emty, nobody come to her and say "Hi, Mama!how are you?", nobody hug and kiss her.Hugs and kiss of other our kids help us to go through this hardest and painful time in our life.Girls, are you agree with me?
Girls, if you have other kids, you are so lucky!Because just our kids make our life the best life in the world!
Girls, I dont know how you are, but now Im feeling strong fear to loss and these my kids.I pray to GOD every day  and ask HIM to save my kids, to give them  strong health and happy long life.
Girls, you are right, just GOD and prying to HIM help us go through this hardest and very painful time in our life.GOD make us stronger then we are.And GOD always together with us,always help us go through hardest times in our life.
Girls, thank you so much for your help and support !!!
Im very sorry for your loss and Im prying for you also.
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427454 tn?1315500950
I am so sorry for your lost...I lost my baby last month at 19 weeks.  It was the hardest thing I ever went through.  My strength came from prayer, family, and my medhelp friends.  I think about my little man daily, and wish every day that I could still have him in my belly ready to deliver in Nov.  A wise woman told me that I didn't know what God was saving my baby from, and that alone gave me peace.  We know that all things work together for the good of them who love the Lord.  It gets better, and you will once again smile:-) Trust me because a few days ago, I didn't want to hear any of that.  You will be in my prayers...
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377493 tn?1356502149
I'm so very sorry.  I too have been in your shoes..sadly many many of us have.  It can be difficult, and you are so right when you say that those that have been through it are the ones that can understand.  What always got me through it was hope.  I had such a strong desire to be a mother, and I knew the only way was to just keep moving forward.  And after 5 losses, I got my miracle.  It's true you never really forget.  I do promise you the pain get's easier and fades.  I still think of the ones I lost, but my focus is on the one that is here.  The weird thing is that if I hadn't gone through what I did, I would not have him...and I know he is the child I was intended to have.  

Things did get pretty dark for me at one point and I did go to counseling for a while.  Between that and the ladies here, I did get through it, and you will too.  It's ok to grieve, to talk about it and to do what feels natural for you.  Don't let anyone tell you to get over it or move on.  Grieve as you would any other loss..in the way that works for you.  I wish you peace and healing.
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1655861 tn?1332952834
I lost two babies. Precious little angels <3 I saw their heartbeats and was so hopeful but it ended and I never got to see them :-( It took a lot of time to heal. Prayers are definitely helpful but unfortunately we feel so angry sometimes we blame God. Try to keep yourself occupied at all times and don't let your mind play tricks on you. It's nobody's fault, it was meant to be that way. I am now pregnant with twins and I truly believe that God is giving me these babies to heal the pain I felt for so long <3 It will be allright! Look forward to the future, it has many good surprises for you <3
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I am so sorry for your loss.
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1363945 tn?1318881582
Hi there, so sorry for your loss i lost my baby in september last year so i know how you feel it is a pain that you fel will never go away but believe me time is a great healer, i never gave up hope of conceiving again and am now 35 weeks pregnant with my baby boy,dont know if your religious but the power of prayer was a great comfort to me not to mention my lovely medhelp ladies and my close family and friends i wish you lots of luck. :)
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1472764 tn?1287588186
I lost my baby in October. A few days later I went and saw my priest. He said my baby was in Heavena nd was much happier than we ar eon earth.  He said God needed my husband and me to help Him make that human soul and that He needed that soul in Heaven with Him.  The priest also said that my baby is watching over my husband and me like we watched over it for the first eight weeks of his life. Hope you start to feel better. I'm now 23 weeks pregnant with a little boy.
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