FINALLY - I had a doctor's appointment_BUT still confused

[Nickey1]

Hello All,

OK, here's the deal.  I had a miscarriage in June 07 due to fibroids, and I'm not almost 9 weeks pregnant.  I finally had my first doc appointment on Friday, and am now considering find a new doctor.  She did a sonogram with one of those old machines that was located right in her office.  She was able to see a heartbeat, but barely.  She said it's because of the age of the machine, and those darn fibroids, which are STILL there.  One positive note, is that by 9 weeks last year, I'd already been to the ER and over night visits several times, it all started at 6 weeks, so far, I haven't had ANY pain or anything.  However, she doesn't seem to be concerned with my situation, even considering what I went through last year.  The only thing she's saying is that many women go full term with fibroids, which is what I was told last year............I don't know, I just feel like she's kinda just going with the flow (which may be smart) but I'm in a panic in the mean time.  Should I just go with the flow as well, especially since I'm not having any complications?  

On a side note, I'm starting to feel bad, like I caused the miscarriage last year.  I was in pain, and so much panic that I went to the ER so much, and as a result I stayed doped up on medication alot as well (strong stuff like morphine, tylenol 3, etc...)........I can't help but wonder now if the fibroids caused the miscarriage, or the overload of drugs??????????

I think I should just wait it out, besides the doctors nor sonograms won't be able to change anything that may happen, if the fibroids are going to cause problems, it's nothing they can do......maybe I'll just wait and see what happens, I think I'm afraid either way.......I want the several sonograms I had before for some reassurance, but on the same token, I don't want to stress over every little thing......

What do you ladies think?  

OH, she gave me a referral to a high risk doctor just to consult about the fibroids, which AGAIN if it's going to be complications, there will be NOTHING she can do about it, so I don't think I'm going to go.........suggestions, advice, needed

Thanks

~Nickey~

[pcarsey]

Don't have fibroids but I do have a cyst that hasn't gone away. I too don't think you should be so hard on yourself. Like biz said, there are lots of women who take drugs all the time while pregnant. No it's not right but you know.. some have fibromyalgia and can't live in pain the whole time so they take pain the whole time they are pregnant. You are going to have a beautiful pregnancy and a beautiful baby!!

Go see the specialist, what hurt would it do? probably none, and they will know more then your regular ob!

I'll be thinking about you! Good Luck!!

Patty

[bizbiz]

I have dont have fibroids (that I know of!) but I understand how nervous you are feeling. Anyone who has suffered a miscarriage before always feels scared and nervous that it will happen again.

Dont blame yourself for the miscarriage - they told you it was due to the fibroids, not the meds. I know this is a terrible thought, but you only took the meds for a short while - imagine all the women who are addicted to drugs and use heroin throught their whole pregnancy!?

My OB also said the same thing to me: what will happen will happen, theres nothing you can do about it, just enjoy your pregnancy. I thought it was really harsh when he told me, but he is right - no point stressing about things I have no controll over. BUT, if you feel as though you OB is a little blase or has too flippant an attitude towards you then I would find a new OB. Maybe dealing with an OB who is more thorough and has the patience to go into more detail with you and is willing to discuss things with you might help in relaxing you and putting some of your fears to rest. I felt this way about my OB on my first visit and I felt like saying to him " I know that YOU dont care if I lose this baby, but I REALLY, REALLY do"!! Thats when he gave me the 'what will be will be' line, and I gues I kinda relaxed a bit then.

[dainsey]

Hi there,
I just wanted to give you some hope on being pregnant with fibroids.  I have 5 fibroids...they are pretty good size and the doctors all thought they would give me trouble during this pregnancy but they haven't at all.  I'm 38 weeks so they didn't even cause preterm labor.
Hope all goes well for you with this pregnancy.

[lhughes]

I think you are overthinking...sounds like me!  Here's my suggestion... you are already 9 weeks, have a heartbeat.  That is GOOD.

Go ahead and make an appt with the high risk doc.  No sense in wondering, go talk.  When we were pg with my last one, Lauren, and found out I had cancer, we went to discuss the situation with a high risk OB who handles cancer patients.  It was reassuring even if we didn't need her (thankfully).  PS...also had a fibroid during my first pregnancy which gave us little Kathryn.

So, go talk, talk can be reassuring from someone who handles that type of stuff.  You might not *need* them, but it never hurts to discuss the issues to ease your own mind.

Stop worrying about what caused the last miscarriage...you may never know what the real reason is.  It happened, it's sad, it's a loss, you didn't actively cause it, you were having issues.  I'm not omnicient, so I don't know why things happen.  They just do.  And they happen to many good folk...my doc said 1 in 5 have miscarriages (we were also unlucky first time out).  Mourn for the loss of the child that might have been, then focus on the child that is growing inside now.  You won't forget the other baby, but you need to forgive yourself if you think you might have been a factor, which you probably weren't from the description.  

Best of luck to you and the baby!  May she/he be just fine and screaming like a banshee to let you know they have arrived in a few short months.  :)  Seriously, good luck and I hope all is well.