How many weeks to you tell your PG news?

[slippinandsliddin]

I was wondering at how many weeks did everyone tell others about their news- especially for those who have miscarried/not first child. Did you just tell a select few? Who?

I am 11 weeks right now- and only my partner/me/Dr. know. Honestly, I would like to wait until probably New Year's Eve to tell everyone ... although I will more than likely tell my sibling.

I have various reasons: felling like I will JINX it if I tell too early- somethig could be wrong/go wrong, not wanting to hear ANY negativity about our age-etc .... My partner also has a viscious ex (lives out of state) - that we have had police involvement with because of her and her family - so even giving out my due date to some people ... is VERY unlikely. (Oy!)

As always- thanks for sharing!

[suzanna40]

Only my partner and I knew and we sadly lost our boy at 19 weeks.  We ended up telling our nearest and dearest our sad news and I so wish that we had told them earlier as we would have had the joy of sharing our news not just sadness.  I think if we became pregnant again I would tell my closest family and friends early on, but leave everyone else until after 12 weeks.  Best wishes to you and yours.

[kristine625]

That's a very good question.  Last pregnancy (my fourth mc) we didn't tell anyone.  I insisted on it because it made me feel better that fewer people knew.  

The first preg I told about 50 people right away.  Then, I had to tell 50 people I had miscarried.

The second preg we told immediate family right away.

The third preg we didn't tell anyone, but after I miscarried my DH started calling all his family and telling them that I had miscarried.  I was a little peeved about that.  We had many conversations about that and finally I got him to understand how important it is to keep it to ourselves.  He doesn't agree but is doing it anyway.

[rubyinparadise]

I told my mom and sister as soon as I got my BFP. Everybody else found out around 12.5 weeks after my NT scan, including DH's family. (We told his 86 year old mother really early last time, then we had to tell her we lost the baby, and that rather sucked.)

As for friends in general, we just sort of let the news start to trickle out after we told  family, but we have never made an announcement (eg on Facebook or anything). We have friends on Facebook who have had multiple miscarriages, can't conceive, or even, are close to 40 and just haven't found Mr. Right yet-- which is a source of very similar sadness for those who want(ed) to have children. So I'm trying to walk the line between sharing the good news and being sensitive about it.

After that initial urge to tell the entire world, I actually settled in to really enjoying having the news to ourselves. :)

[slippinandsliddin]

Still no mention outta me yet- 11 weeks n counting.

[adgal]

You are all so much better at keeping things quiet then I am...within hours everyone knew...including the guy that works at the convenience store, the mailman, strangers walking down the street..

[Courtcoop]

oh..and everyone else after 12 weeks

[Courtcoop]

I told all friends and family at 7 weeks...couldn't help it, needed support

[mamom15]

I told close family and friends immediatly as we wanted to be included in their prayers .  My co-workers at work guessed from allmy throwing up.  I used to throw up in the ladies room, my trash can and parking lot so the whole building knew even if I did not want to share, some people asked and I said yes.  I hate lying

[PamelaBee]

Both my pregnancies I told close friends and family immediately, I was SO excited!!  I was working with my first pregnancy, and I did not tell my boss or coworkers til I got throught my 1st trimester.  Congratulations!

[Heather5]

After two miscarriages in the past, we also waited until 12 weeks before telling anyone.

[People_Person]

We lost our first baby at 17 weeks earlier this year.  We are now pregnant again and found out last week.  We told immediate family right away figuring 1) if something were to go wrong we'd end up telling everyone anyway and 2) the more prayers as early as possible the better.  Good luck to you!

[adgal]

Even after miscarriage, I can never wait to tell those closest to me...or anyone for that matter.  I pretty much told everyone I knew the day I got my BFP.  I think most wait until at least end of first trimester though.  

[JourneyJoJo]

We waited til 12 weeks as the risk of m/c drops dramatically after that point (from what I've read).  If I was really unsure, I would have waited until 20 weeks after the Anatomy scan or maybe just til16 weeks after I received the final results of the NT scan + 2 sets of bw.