I am trying to get pregnant at 42 and I have questions

[Bren02]

Hi there... this is the start of my baby making process.  I had surgery to open my tubes and stared on Clomid and my doctor says all systems are go!  Do I stop drinking coffee and wine right away? how many attempts does it take?? What should I be doing and not doing??????????  any help will be appreciated.  And some happy new from others would be more than welcome.

[wendyandmatt]

I just started "trying' at 38. I haven't been NOT trying ...

But now I am 39. We just had IVF (1st). I went to my OBGYN right away and told him and he prescribed clomid I think. It was awhile ago. I too used OVkits for that year, until I got the specialists and they take blood constantly so they tell me everything. THese shots are getting old but it is worth it.

I too quit coffee etc (eVERYTHING) right away, and take prenate, etc. I heard recently to take baby aspirin.

[40smama]

Natalie - You are so welcome - I pray for SSBD for you as quick as possible.  Don't let this loss make you afraid of being pregnant.  You probably don't have those fears but gosh I really did a number on myself.  I'm sure your next pregnancy will go smoothly.  I have an idea of how hard your m/c was - bless your heart.   All the best to you!!!

[natalie910]

Jen-Thanks, I'm hoping that baby dust will help!! The m/c was very hard on me emotionally but we're ready to ttc, just over a month b/4 we can try again.
Thanks again :)  Good luck to you too!

[40smama]

I don't want to be gloomy/doomy.  There are just some of us women 43+ who've had to admit some harsh realities in our fertility journey.  Luckily it isn't everyone - thank God for that - but there are women like myself who've had a helluva time getting pregnant and had to resort to more aggressive methods.

To the OP - hopefully your ttc journey goes smoothly.  In my opinion, I would consult a re (reproductive endocrinologist) in two -three months if you don't get pregnant.  Unfortunately for me, I waited until I was 43 to get really serious and it turned out to be not a smart decision.

natalie - I wish you all of the baby dust in the world on your upcoming ttc.  I've been through a late miscarriage - there's nothing like it.  It was truly heartbreaking.  Don't take to heart too many of the stats, etc.  You're young - in your late 30's but still very fertile.  God bless you  & i wish you SSBD - jen

[natalie910]

Salenea, Pam, socaltricia, 7preg, meli, savanah and miranda-You were all very positive and I appreciate it. We're going to take this time, 2 cycles, to relax. I can't wait to get a bfp and post it, I know I'll need support b/c I am nervous since the m/c. There is always a negative poster, I've learned to ignore it, thanks to you girls :)

[SoCalTricia]

Oh, and I agree with Selenea that it isn't a rare thing for women to make babies in their 40s! Maybe not as common as in your 20s and 30s, but certainly not UNcommon! And it isn't always necessarily difficult. I got pregnant the second month of trying, and I'm 40. I will be 41 when the baby is born (I'm 18 weeks now). And getting pregnant this time was just as easy as when I was pregnant at 21 and 31. :-)

Tricia