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I'm Pregnant at 45.. happy excited terrified & scare to death!

I'm 45 years old and 5 1/2 weeks pregnant (Naturally).  My husband and I have been trying for 2 years a number of IUI's but no success so we just gave up.  I have 2 children from my 1st marrage (age 18 & 14).  I'm scare to death, don't know if I can do this all over again at my age.  My husband is 5 years younger and really wanted a child of our own.  He is so happy but he doesn't understand all the riskes being pregnant at 45.  I know most women my age will have a miscarriage.  And the birth defects rate is so high.  I work 2 jobs to make enough money to send my older son off to college in less than 2 months.  I have high blood pressure and low blood sugar. I'm tired all the time only getting 5 hours of sleep on most nights.  I keep praying and telling myself that if this is what God has in His plan for our family then I should not be afraid.  Are there any women out there who can related??  I need a support group.
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Congratulations Nick! Find a very good "elderly pregnancy" doctor and a maternal fetal care clinic with the ability to do extensive testing. It will either ease your mind as its did for me or allow you to prepare for whatever you may need to prepare for.  That said I'm surprised at how many women our age area naturally pregnant and doing just fine. :)  good luck!
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Hi my name is Nicola I am 45 and have just found out I am pregnant with my sixth child I have a girl 23 and four boys 17 15 9 and 4.  I have  mixed emotions atm I am scared In case I miscarry and scared at the fact of having a baby at 46 as I will be before the baby arrives   I am 6 weeks so it is early days and all the things you read about older women having  children.  After reading all the comments it has given me an uplift God willing all will be well.  I hope you are well    
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Quick update. 27 weeks now baby and I are great. Tired a lot and he could sleep more lol but we're both very healthy and the whole family is super happy.
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ty. still reeling actually...  have only told a few people.  8 weeks nowlots of nausea.  my emotions are all over the board. can't sleep more than an hour.  breasts are so sore...  forgot how much I hated being pregnant atg three times lol. too late now. this is the farthest ive gotten yet with my husband....  this ones atrong... I can feel it...
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Congratulations! I'm 12 wks 3 days pregnant with identical twins! First pregnancy and I'm 41. Natural too. I often say if God brought u to it he will bring you through it. Relax and try and be present. All the best!
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Congratulations! I'm 12 wks 3 days pregnant with identical twins! First pregnancy and I'm 41. Natural too. I often say if God brought u to it he will bring you through it. Relax and try and be present. All the best!
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