I'm Pregnant at 45.. happy excited terrified & scare to death!

[kitty808]

I'm 45 years old and 5 1/2 weeks pregnant (Naturally).  My husband and I have been trying for 2 years a number of IUI's but no success so we just gave up.  I have 2 children from my 1st marrage (age 18 & 14).  I'm scare to death, don't know if I can do this all over again at my age.  My husband is 5 years younger and really wanted a child of our own.  He is so happy but he doesn't understand all the riskes being pregnant at 45.  I know most women my age will have a miscarriage.  And the birth defects rate is so high.  I work 2 jobs to make enough money to send my older son off to college in less than 2 months.  I have high blood pressure and low blood sugar. I'm tired all the time only getting 5 hours of sleep on most nights.  I keep praying and telling myself that if this is what God has in His plan for our family then I should not be afraid.  Are there any women out there who can related??  I need a support group.

[FancieT]

God bless you and I believe you were chosen to have another baby by God and he will bless talky and you hubby and your baby to be...you can do it...my two are 18 & 13 and we are having a baby in April. I was a single mom for 14 years and I made it so can you! Keep praying and you will be fine.

[sastamey]

Hi ladies.  I just turned 46 and my husband and I decided we'd like to try for another baby.  We have 3 kids, 27, 19,16.  But after reading so many negative comments and the slim chance of conceiving, high chance of miscarriage and birth deformities, have felt very discouraged and a little depressed. Just today I had an appointment with a new on/gyn (moved to another state) and debated for days whether to even mention it to her that we'd like to try for another baby, for fear she would basically laugh at me. But I did and surprisingly she was very positive about it.  Of course she did tell me the statistics but said she has lots of patients well into their 40's having babies. She specializes in high risk pregnancies.  It was her suggestion to do blood work and an ultrasound to check everything out to see if everything was working properly for a potential pregnancy.  Also, said are things we can do to improve chances.  Though I am not getting my hopes up not knowing what my blood work will show, I am also feeling a lot more positive about it.  And to think I basically just picked her out of the phone book.  Glad I chose her.  Now will wait for ultrasound next month and news of blood work.  Love reading over 40 pregnancy success stories.  Hope to be one! :)

[kitty808]

Thank you so much.  Baby Ethan is now 7 months and doing well.  Take care and God bless.

[kitty808]

Congrats!!!  Hang in there... So you are about 16 weeks right?  Pls take care of yourself and the little one.  Stay relax & try not to do too much .  I know it's hard on your body.  I had a really hard time but was able to hold on til 35 weeks.  My little boy is 7 months now & is doing well.   God bless you and your little one.

[Sagitwist]

Congrat To all with successfully get pregnant after your 45. I am so happy for you all as I know there is so much out there same age wanted to have a baby.
And I am almost coming 46 in a few months.
Sadly I was also trying real hard to get my first baby, which i guess, the god hasn't granted me yet...
I went ivf twice and failed, now am on TMC trying natural.
I was depress and heart broken again as I tested yesterday it was negative. TMC told me to hang in there as long as my period DIDNT come it still has chance.probably still early to test on day 28. Some people need longer time to get result. So I am now fingers crossed Hoping and praying it hard that little bean still there and stick sick
Exhausted of this emotional roller coaster for so many years.
When can I get it? I want to be a mummy...
Any remedies what you all are eating, eg food fruits and vit?
I have taken melatonin and dhea till big o . I also take TMC medication including heap of vit.

Sagi

[Popeniuk]

I totally agree. HE will protect and watch over you. I am also 45 and first time pregnant. Have struggled with infertility for many years. Had 4 m/cs and just came off the adoption list after 3 yrs...and Surprise. I also have only one tube because of a previous eptopic. This is definately our "miracle" baby!! Good Luck to you and Congratulations. ( I am 13 wks 2day)