Hey girls...thanks for all your support and suggestions yesterday

[dainsey]

Hey girls,
Thanks to everyone for taking the time yesterday to check back on me and give me your thoughts.  
I'm going to try and be positive as being negative isn't going to change anything.  The bad thing is that my RE even gave it to me straight and said that I had a 40-50 % chance of being ok which as we all know isn't great.  If the weather man said 40-50% chance of rain, I'd be outside in my swim suit in the pool :-)  ha ha...  
After I left the RE, I called my OB and spoke to the nurse and the first thing she said when I told her the heartbeat was "Oh that is not good at all".  She said that it really should be at 110 or above.  I wish someone in the medical profession would put out one heartbeat chart that we can all obsess over...ha ha...

It's just soo frustrating that I had good beta's, no spotting or bleeding and then I have the heartbeat problem again.  Same thing as in January.  At least I'm getting pregnant easy.  I had to go thru 3 miscarriages before having my daughter so I guess I shouldn't get too upset until I have to go thru more than that this time trying for #2.  I just wish I could find that good egg.  I know it's age related (just turned 40 :-()....  
Last night it was so hard to sit around being depressed while my little girl was in such a spunky laughy mood...She was cracking me up which was good.  
Maybe due to my age, I should just stop trying and be thankful I was able to have my daughter?  Am I being too crazy thinking I can have another one?
Well at least it's Wednesday! ;-)

[dainsey]

Thanks for all the great feedback girls.  My next ultrasound is Monday with the RE and if it isn't positive news then I go see the OB on Tuesday to figure out what to do.  I'm trying to remain positive and of course, I'm taking all my meds :-)  

[Juliaschill]

I will be 40 when my little man gets here, and my oldest DD will be 21!!!! try that for a crazy span, I am planing her  wedding while she is planning my baby shower!  Don't let age stop you, and GROW LITTLE BEAN GROW, Dr are wrong all the time, I was told after 6 years of fertility treatment that I would never have another baby, and here I am 26 weeks along with the best surprise ever! Best of luck Julia

[usuk]

Don't give up because of your age. Only give up if you really want to give up. Many women in their 20's cannot even get pregnant. If all the mechanics are in order, the good egg will come. 41 seems to be the magic age where a few people had MC at 38, 39 and then bam - a perfect baby at 41. Besides that, you may have good luck with the next week.

[SoCalTricia]

Prevatt - I'm totally nuts...lol. My oldest will be 19 a couple weeks after this baby is born.

dainsey - If this is what you want, then DON'T GIVE UP! And 40 isn't all that old! I'll be 41 when I have this baby...and I won't say that the pregnancy has been a breeze, but everything has gone well and all is healthy. I lucked out and dropped that healthy egg that month - and the same will happen for you! We're all rooting for you...

Tricia

[Tanker Chic]

That is a great story Kelly!!

[kellym]

When I had my Ultrasound with this new baby I said to the tech, I remember you, you did my u/s with my baby boy whom had a hb of 89 an is now 1!  She said, of course I hope I told you that was okay right? (meaning the  89 at only 6w1d)  So, I think that just those couple of days is huge. In fact with the heart beats rising at 3 beats per day, at 6w4d where you are I would have been about 98bpm.  I know they say 50/50, but stay strong. When do you go back??

[Tanker Chic]

As long as you are still getting BFP, I don't think you should give up.. of course you have to do what is best for you and your family, but as hard as this is at least you still have a chance...  

Laying here on bed rest and knowing I could be here for the next 4 months, I just keep reminding myself how much I want this, not only for me, but largely for Jacob... We dont' have a large extended family and with Andrew and I not being very young ourselves it is very important to me that Jacob have a sibling.. If this pg doesn't work out.. I honestly don't know if I will try again or not..  That will mostly depend on whether it will require bed rest or not..

I don't know if any of this applies to your situation or not.. but if so, I thought it might help you...

Also, that OB nurse might not be used to seeing early u/s.. heart beats start off slower and speed up..  

hope you are feeling better soon.. I'm sorry things aren't going smoother.  

[prevatt77]

I would hang in there, things will be okay, I'm sure.  Amanda, that would be my 6th, let's not forget about my 15 year old at home, now that's CRAZY, having two children 15 years apart.  But I wouldn't have it any other way, my daughter is such a huge help with Gavin and just loves that little man to death and he just gets this huge smile on his face when he hears her voice, it's priceless!!!

But if it happened for me it can easly happen for anyone else that is over 40, I was 41 at delivery with Gavin, it was all about getting that good mature egg and Amanda you got your's this time, might be twins or triplets, but hey - you're pregnant and I just know it's going to stay that way.  Just keep your chin up and everything will be okay.

Debbie

[adgal]

Well, if you are crazy, I am certifiable!!  5 m/c in a year and 1/2, one only a month ago, and here I am again...plus I am 40 as well!!  I have those negative feelings as well...on a daily basis right now, you know, waiting for the shoe to drop.  However, I find it helps me to stay focused on all the positive stories I hear here.  Look at Prevatt...over 40, 4 m/c, tonnes of stress with her 5th, yet here is her little man Gavin, healthy and happy.  She is just one example of the many many stories I have heard here that keep me going.  This journey is not necessarily an easy one, but I figure that eventually law of averages will come in to play and that healthy egg will be there.  I am like you, and get pregnant at the drop of a hat.....surely it wouldn't be that easy if all our eggs were in such bad shape.  I so understand why you would feel so upset and stressed right now.  But 50% isn't too bad...it's a glass half full situation.  I am going to send all the postive thoughts I can your way.  Try to hang in there....when is your next ultrasound?  Lots of hugs, Amanda

[blessedmomof3]

I know this has to be so hard for you, and no one can know your pain. That is your pain, and it's different for everyone. However, I think that staying on your meds and keeping positive is a good thing to do. I realy think your RE and the nurse shouldn't have told you things are so grim. You know, I know this Dr who works w/ Cancer patients and he told me he never gives them a time frame (how long they have to live). He said he learned a long time ago, if you tell someone they only have 2 weeks, they are gone w/ in two weeks. If you tell them they will beat it, they beat it. It all has to do w/ the mind. I'm praying, praying ,praying that heartbeat goes up, up, up. Just keep in mind, there is a heartbeat, and your baby is ALIVE!!!!

[LisaRG]

Your not as crazy as I am.  I am 45 and I still want another as well after 3 m/c, last one only 5 weeks ago .
I had my healthy 4 year old DD at 41.  You are not to old to try again - and I am still holding out that this bean is going to hang strong.
Best wishes.
Lisa