37 weeks HOW DO I GET MY BABYS DAD BACK

[donna666]

hi,Could anyone help please? I split with my babys dad just after I found out I was expecting due to arguments and moved out. We did Start seeing each other again taking it slowly however suddenly he stopped communication with me for three months with no explanation.I caved in and contacted him recently as the most important thing is our unborn son and would like them to have a relationship,we met up and the reason for no contact on his part was due to false information about me being involved with another man (untrue I may add) we slept together and now I would love us to get back together but hes now saying we should concentrate on our son and maybe in time things might change but I've had so many empty promises and think it's funny how suddenly his unborn son is a priority yet for three months not even one text to see how the pregnancy is going! what should I do? is it my hormones?am I over reacting? id love us to be a family unit but feel like im making a fool out of myself

[kramelia]

Thank you! Btw your feelings are perfectly rational. This is a time meant to be shared. Not having him there is a grieving process. The first child is the scariest and the hardest. But you are already being a good mom by trying to evaluate the situation and knowing how complicated it is!

[donna666]

Thank you so much for your response. Means a lot! I am sorry to hear you have gone through difficult times yourself. You sound experienced and been so strong and got through so much! I understand its hard for some men to connect with there unborn child untill they are here its just the unknown I guess being a first time mum and when hormones and feelings being involved not a good mixture. Hes is an amazing dad to his two daughters from a previous relationship so I know he has the potential to be just the same with our child.I wish you all the best with everything and im sure in time we will both have happy endings. Children are so precious and so lucky to have them as some people can't. take care

[kramelia]

Ive been in a similar situation. I am 36 weeks pregnant and i just finalized my divorce last week. It is my ex-husband and i's 2nd child. He was absent pretty much the entire pregnancy. I cant give you any advice because honestly its such a personal thing. I can speak a few things from experience. First:  there are a lot of men who really dont connect with the idea of a baby until its born. Its very different because we experience it so personally but for men it's only a concept until birth. That being said it could be that or it could be that he genuinely has no interest. Second: the primary focus is the the baby, which im sure you know. So as much as it ***** or it may be hard to accept him only wanting that, if he can be a good father its good to encourage that. But nothing makes being pregnant and not having the dad around better. It hurts a lot. But dont accept less than you deserve. Being a family would be the best for the baby and it would make it so much better for you, but if he wants you he should want all of you, not just sex. But to suport and love you.