My game plan...comments or suggestions welcome!

[adgal]

So as some of you know, I have just found out I am pregnant again.  I am super excited, but super nervous as well.  My history isn't good....I get pregnant easily, but have a tough time making it out of first trimester.  Prior to having Ryder I experienced 5 losses in a very short period of time.  So, not worrying is impossible, but I am trying to make this easier on myself.

I spoke briefly to my family Dr. this morning.  AF would have been due friday so we are waiting until then to do a beta.  If he gives me that first number, I will completely stress that it is too low when logically I know that it is the two sets of numbers 2 days apart that matter.  So, on his suggestion, I will have a beta on friday, one on monday, then meet with him tuesday to go over the results (rather then trying to interpret them myself).  That way I have the big picture, not just the one number to worry about all weekend. At that point and time I will make an appointment with my OB (if everything looks good), and am not going to have an ultrasound until 7 weeks (unless there is some reason too, such as suspected etopic or something).  In the meantime I have started my progesterone supplements, and had always continued taking my fish oil, prenatals and baby asprin.  

Any other suggestions to try to keep my stress level down?  First trimester is really really hard for me.  Fortunately, having an amazing 9 month old helps...he keeps me super busy, plus if he winds up being the only child I have I will still consider myself very fortunate.  Still, I am worrying already over this one....

Thanks ladies!  As always, your input is appreciated!!

[LosingMyMindInGA]

No advice here becuase everyone else has already covered that.  I just wanted to say congratulations and send you a lot of SSBD.  

[staned]

Congratulations. I heard yoga and acupuncture help with stress. Just curious, did you have blood clots and that is why you take the progesterone and aspirin?

[blueeyedtabbycat]

yay!! great numbers Amanda!!! Relax and enjoy your time with Ryder alone before the new baby comes:) I said that like your having a baby next week, lol!! You know what I mean:)

[adgal]

Well, I got my beta numbers back from friday (even though I said I wasn't going to..lol, I can't seem to help myself).  13 DPO was 37, which is just fine for that time frame.  In fact, right around the same time with Ryder they were 33.  So I feel good about it, and my Dr. was happy with it as well.  I had the second blood test today, almost exactly 72 hours later (and I mean almost to the hour) and I am very confident that are going to have risen a great deal.  My HPT (yep still taking them..lol) yesterday was at least twice, if not 3 times as dark as the one on friday.  So right now feeling pretty good.  No spotting, no problems, and starting to have some stronger symptoms.  Some nausea, breasts getting a little more tender and an unblievable amount of clear discharge..I keep thinking I'm bleeding it feels so heavy, but I go and check and it's just clear.  So far so good...I am happy today!!!

You ladies are truly the best...the support I get here is incredible and I am so so grateful to you.  XOXO  Amanda

[Alexis2358]

I'm sooooo super excited for you.    You are always such a helpful, optimistic god send to all of us on this site, with such a wealth of information.     You couldn't be a more deserving individual for this exciting news.     As far as how not to stress....OMG, Im finally 16 weeks after 2 prior m/c's and not a day goes by that I don't worry and stress and say a prayer about how thankful I am for this moment.

I got a doppler too and love love love it.   I feel little movements here and there, wish I was to the stage where I felt them more often, but the doppler has been my constant friend, always reminding me that my little boy is with me.    My DH nicknamed him chopper because his heartbeat sounds like a helicopter.

If you're having positive pregnancy tests this early, chances are its going to be a very strong pregnancy.   My 2 that I had m/c's on....didn't show a faint line until 2 days "after" AF was due.     My betas were very low to start.   This pg showed up very dark "the day" AF was due, so probably would have been there prior, but I didn't test.    My betas started out very high and nearly tripled in 48 hours.    Everything has been great so far.

I'm so excited and wish I had news on how to not worry, but even after a healthy CVS test....I can't stop worrying either. :)     Let me know if you come up with a good idea :)

I'm excited to hear your beta numbers...when do you test?

[adgal]

Thanks again so much.  Scotland, I remember you well...never forget a belly buddy!  Can you believe our babies have gotten so big already?  Good luck on ttc again, would be great to go through this again with you.

Pum, thank you...sometimes it is so much easier to give advice then to take my own.  I am working so hard on staying positive and calm, but I fully admit I have my moments!  I too hope you are joining me!  SSBD!!

[Pum]

Congratulations Amanda. I sure hope to be joining you soon.

Take care and love the good attitude. Take your own advice and realise there's not much you can do, right or wrong, but just enjoy the ride.

[Scotland2009]

Congratulations!  I'm really happy for you.  I was on here the same time you were when you were expecting Ryder.  Our little girl is now 7 months old and we are trying for another now.  Stay positive and I'm sure everything will go your way.

[blueeyedtabbycat]

So glad your appointment went well!! I hope you can breath a little easier now and try and relax and enjoy your pregnancy:)  Sending you warm happy thought!!!

Can you feel them?? lol:~)

[adgal]

Thanks again.  Today's appointment was really good.  It was my family Dr., not my OB, but he confirmed the pregnancy, sent me for my bloodwork and referred me back to my OB.  He happily told me all about his wife and how they had their last two kids when she was 44 & 45, and had also miscarried several times prior.  I love positive Dr.'s  My OB is like that as well...she miscarried then had her kids in her early 40's.  So I am surrounded by very positive medical staff.  You know, having that does truly make a difference.

Corrine...seriously?  It's still a 6 hour drive, but I love visiting Montana!!!!  Keep me posted...if you are that close and we don't actually meet I would be soooo disappointed!

Thanks again ladies.  It was odd, today a feeling of absolute calm came over me.  I am happy and excited, but not overly nervous anymore.  What will be will be...

[tatorbug40]

holy smokes,  i don't come on here for 2 weeks and you get knocked up!!!  I am so freaking excited for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  I might be a close neighbor someday soon-  a move to montana has been discussed for our family!  I'll babysit for you!!!  :)

[brigadiva]

Congratulations!  Take it easy and let yourself be pampered... best advice I can give :oD Best wishes for a healthy pregnancy!

[FarahFZ]

congrats!! as you know i am a nervous wreck myself, but what has really helped my "unfocus" on beta nos and spotting issues is actually a novle... find on of those that are hard ot put down.. though i dount u will have enough time to read with a baby, but it fills ur brian with somthing else wheile the baby's asleep... I'm going through the Girl with the dragon tatoo trilogy... silly i know, but my son's 11 now and is always busy with after school stuff or homework.. so not to many other distractions, besides work of course!!

wishing u the best for the ENTIRE prgrenancy.. hopefully u will have another little ryder to cuddle next yr!! :)

tc.. F

[adgal]

Thanks so much Rachel...love you too honey!

Did a digi this afternoon (12DPO) and it came up pregnant, so starting to feel better.  We shall see what those beta's say.  

Thanks again for all the support everyone...it's so nice to have somewhere to turn and people who understand.

[rdh1981]

Awesome game plan! Relax, Relax Relax!

All I can add is that I told my little Angel Coop to watch over your little bean!

I love you girly!

[pb95]

Congrats.  B complex vitamins helps the body deal with stresses and also would help morning sickness!  Good luck!

[oceanv]

Congratulations!

[adgal]

Thanks so much.  I have a really good doppler from when I was pregnant with Ryder so that really helps down the road a bit.  I used to listen in every day and it was amazing!  

[trying43]

Congrats. After 2 m/c here I understand the anxiety.  At 10 weeks with my first son, dh bought me a hospital grade doppler so when I was anxious I could listen in.  I also spent a lot of time in my bible, thats just what worked for me.  Good luck to you.

[adgal]

Thanks so much for all the comments and suggestion and especially the good wishes.  Now you see why I never tell anyone not to worry..lol, I would be a hypocrite.  It's actually not as bad as when I was pregnant with Ryder...maybe because I am so busy loving him!  DH is being supportive and giving me a good outlet to talk it through instead of just getting impatient (he tried last time, but got frustrated a bit with me).  I have been taking a pregnancy test daily (lol, I know, but I can't help it!)  just to watch that line darken up, and it is, just not as quickly as I would hope.  

Thanks again everyone, I sure appreciate the support!

Amanda

[lisa0114]

CONGRATULATIONS!!!! I am happy for you and your family.

[nola0805]

Congratulations on your pregnancy!!!  This is so wonderful and could not have happened to a better person.  You must be so excited on top of all the worry.  My only advice (besides the good old distraction) is to take the techniques you learned to help you manage your PPD and apply them to your current situation.  I know it is a little harder given your history, but some of the techniques will be helpful.  I have a good feeling about this pregnancy - try to stay positive.  My mom always told me (and I am prone to ruminative worry myself) to not "waste my worry" - I know it's easier said than done but those words of wisdom helped in some dark hours.  I will be thinking about you and sending all the sticky dust in the world.    

[Helen72]

I am so happy for you!  BIG congrats!
First trimester is always stressful and I hope this time there will be no bleeding, no hematomas, none of that stressful stuff.  I pray it's smooth sailing from here for you.

[KarenDiane]

Congratulations Amanda! That is awesome.

I don't really have any advice, just wanted to tell you how happy I am for you.