My sob story..let me hear yours!

[CheriWasHere]

I have wanted to have a baby for a long long time and now that I am actually pregnant and I'm feeling very nervous and keep having thoughts that something is going to go wrong.  I went to see my doctor yesterday and she couldn't finish my exam because it was hurting.  Now, I have to go back to finish.  However, I am going to see the OBGYN instead of my primary care doctor.  Not only did the exam hurt, but I left feeling nothing was accomplished.  This is my first time being pregnant and I have sooo many questions.  I had a list to ask my doctor, but it seemed that when I asked her just ONE question she was annoyed and just wanted to get the exam done.   I tried asking another question and she told me, she didn't know the answer and to ask my OBGYN.   I wasn't told what was going to be taking place during this exam and just sort of lead around by an assistant.  She brought me to an open area and sat me in a chair.  The next thing I knew I was having 7 viles of blood drawn!!  I knew they would draw blood..but 7 viles???  After the fourth one I was feeling sick and my arm hurt so bad!   So, like I said I am going to the obgyn instead.  I was told that my doctor should of just refered me to one in the first place!!   It seems this is all happening so fast.  I honestly didn't think I would ever get pregnant and if I did it would be all roses and so far it's not.  I should be enjoying being pregnant!!   I hope after I start seeing the ob things will change!  I need a doctor who will take the time to listen to me and my concerns and feelings.  But, those are hard to find..which is not a good thing.  Well, anyways it's Saturday and here I am pregnant..not sure what to eat, what not to eat, is my blood pressure okay, should I avoid sugars, wondering why heart rate is a bit higher than norm, why my belly has felt crampy for a week now with no releif, if the prenantal vitamin I am taking is good for me, can I take a pain releiver, can I take an anti acid, or what about my asthma meds?   OMG! The list goes on.   I have just been trying to find all my answers in books and the internet.  I guess in a way I feel alone.  My hubby is great guy dont get me wrong..and he is very sweet to me and helpful in everyway.  BUT..he is not a doctor or a female who has gone through all this before..therefore he cannot help me with alot of things. I am thankful I have his hugs to console me!  Maybe when I go out I will buy a few cute baby things and keep them in sight..so when I see them it makes me happy and excited.  I know this feeling of being scared is not good for the baby and me.  And well I am pregnant and that is that and what happens..happens from here on out.    Still....I just wish I had that overwhelming feeling of joy like I am supposed to have!!!  YES I want the baby..omg soo bad.. I just don't want the 9 months before!!   I have always had a fear of doctors and always worried about my health, so I should of know this would happen.   Well this is getting long, sorry but I needed to vent.  And I would love to hear other sob stories...sit down and just babble, type your heart out, let it out!!! ;)   Maybe I will discover that I am not alone and that this is all normal.   Thanks soooo much!
XOXO,
Cheri

[CheriWasHere]

I cannot thank you enough for your support and even taking the time to listen to my sob story.  My heart goes out to all of you who have had miscarriages.  I cannot emagine. But, I commend you on trying again and again. ;)  Bless you!!  It makes my problems look minimal.  
As the day went on today I was feeling quite better.  I talked with my brother and sister  (I have 8 neices and a nephew), and they gave me some good advice and I took it to heart.  I did do some baby store browsing and bought a little white fluffly blanket with the words Baby on it.  I set it on my bedroom dresser with a stuffed bunny ontop..so when feeling down I could just look at it and remind myself of the baby growing inside me. ;)   I also bought that book, What to expect when expecting. Thanks!  My husband bought a few books for him as well.   I am still nervous about all the doctors appointments and all the poking and prodding that is going to be done in my body, but everyone keeps telling me that I eventually will get used to it.  I hope so!!    I know I will have my good days and my bad days..and this prob isnt the last time you will hear from me. LOL   Thanks so much everyone and god bless you!!!  

[PamelaBee]

Ok...take a deep breath...the first thing you need to do is find a good OB...talk to other women you know, or call your local hospitals maternity ward and ask to speak to a delivery nurse...they know them all.  I know a mound of emotions are probably going on with you, but don't get overwhelmed...everything will come naturally, and you will get all the help and support you need, at least from this forum : )  Today is Sat, so obviously you can't talk or be seen by a Dr or prenatal nurse, so compile a list of questions or concerns you have and post them to the forum...we will get you through most if not all of your concerns.  You're going to be fine, and as soon as the surprise factor kicks in, you're going to embrace and love this pregnancy!  Warm wishes to you!  Pam

[YvetteY]

Hello...hang in there!  I know this is scary time.  Which really is not cool becasue you are suppose to enjoy pregnancy.   I've had five miscarriages in the past couple of years.   I am currently pregnant at almost 23 weeks and of course i've been worried the whole time.   I guess it's just hard to relax because of previous pregnancy losses.  

I wanted to respond quickly to your post....I also have asthma and I am seeing a pulmonologist during this pregnancy.  They say asthma can get better, get worse or remain the same.   During this pregnacy I've had two bad asthma attacks.  I am taking the following meds right now....Proair, Singulair and Advair for asthmas.  I am also taking prevacid for the occassional heartburn.  Right now I'm on a taper down dose of prednisone and should be finished with this in a few days.   So asthma meds are okay during pregnancy.

I've been eating pretty healthy...lots of salads, fish and chicken.  I'm taking a prenatal vitamin and a calcium supplement.  

They are doing a lot of testing on me.  Primarily because of my age and because I have to taking medicine to prevent clotting during this pregnancy.   I am 43.   Not crazy about the testing...it seems to add a lot of worry.  Yesterday at my 2nd Level 2 ultrasound I was told that the baby was growing accordingly but it is smaller than it should be.   We were also told for the first time that the baby has a two vessel umbilical cord.   This is our latest worry!! UGH!   But apparently since there are no other issues it probably just means we will end up with a small baby.  

So I guess my point is pray a lot and take it day by day.   It's a waiting game.  Hang in there and good luck with your pregnancy.

[kellym]

I don't know where you are from so I don't know why you didn't see your obgyn to begin with.  Everything will be fine until your first appt.  Just make sure you avoid alcohol and smoking. Those are the main concerns.  You can pretty much do anything you have been doing up until now. Everything in moderation. Congrats!

[LisaRG]

You should demand to only see an Obgyn.
Someone should have told you what to expect.  Yes they draw a lot of blood - they check for EVERYTHING from HCG, AIDS to Syphilis, and many more.  These tests are required by law.
Just be kind to yourself., take prenatal vitamins for now - healthfood stores sell them.  You can also take regular tylenol if you REALLY need some pain relief.   No alcohol or smoking.  You can drink a very small amount of coffee, although some women prefer to go completely caffeine free.  I could not do that - so cutting back worked for me , including chocolate which has caffeine.  Try not to over indulge in sugar, but its not the end of the world to have treat ( provided you are not diabetic).
Rest as much as you can, feet up, but also it is good to take slow walks to help your metabolism.  You can read " what to expect when your expecting" it will help with a lot of your questions.,
Hope this helps,
Lisa

[wantsababy929]

My husband and I had 3 lost pregnancies in a year and a half.  We finally concieved in may of 08,  we now have a beautiful baby boy.  While I was pregnant I had to give myself many injections and take meds to ensure that this pregnancy did not result in a miscarrage like the others.  I had so many sonograms and other tests that I lost count.  They must have taken 20 blood samples from me.  So I understand your fear.  I was unable to really enjoy my pregnancy because I was always afraid that somthing bad was going to happen.  I also had a lot of questions,  my Ob/Gyn was a great source of information.  If yours does not make you feel comfotable find a new one.  They delivers babies everyday but this is your first and of course you have a lot of questions and fears.  Pregnancy is definately not all a bed of roses,  it is one of the hardest things I have ever done.  I thaught it would be easy, boy was I wrong.  As for what to eat,  go about your regular diet,  try to eat a balanced diet.  Stay away from unpasturized cheeses, and don't eat a lot of fish.  My Dr. said fish once a week not more then 5 oz is ok but not any more then that, due to mercury.  Any over the counter prenatal vitamin is good, just follow the directions on the bottle.   This sight was a great source of support and information for me.  My thaughts are with you for a happy and healthy pregnancy.  Try to relax and go with the flow.  

Melanie