427454 tn?1315500950

Not a question wanted to share some very sad news with you ladies

I lost my little man on Tuesday morning around 8:04 a.m.  I thought I was constipated only to discover I was in permature labor.  I waited to late to go to the ER, and the sack had already started to come out.  I delivered him vaginally,  however; he was to young to survive outside the womb.  I was 19 weeks.  I am so heartbroken trying to figure out what went wrong.  How could I have gotten the heartbeat, only to lose him.  I am asking God for strength to carry me through, and to help me heal.  Words could never express how I am  feeling  right now.  I did travel to Chicago to visit my mom, with my doctor's ok.  I came with my baby, and now I am  leaving  him behind.  Ladies, I am asking for your prayers please...

Love Yolanda
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Avatar universal
I am so sorry.  May god give you and your family strength.  My prayers are with you.
803938 tn?1403748253
I am so sorry about your loss! Take time to mourn, only time will help you heal. You're in my thoughts.
1021834 tn?1379292300
That is so heartbreaking.  I can only imagine what you are going through, but  I wish you strength and healing and peace to get you through these hard times.  God bless.
1655861 tn?1332952834
Tears stream down my face reading your post. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I'm so sorry for what you're going through!!! It's so unfair, I know! Be strong and have faith that whatever happens, it happens for a reason <3 Sending love - Joanna
480331 tn?1310403529
Yolanda,  I couldn't even begin to imagine the way you feel.  I pray your heart heals soon, and you will soon find comfort and peace with such an unexplainable loss. How devastating, I am deeply sorry for your sadness and pain.  God bless!  Pam
1554498 tn?1327900374
Oh my I am so very sorry for your loss. I pray that God will bless you through this time & I will keep you lifted in prayer. God bless!!!
719902 tn?1334165183
I am so sorry for your loss. I will pray for you and your family.  
1363945 tn?1318881582
Iam truely sorry for your loss my prayers are with you.
1416390 tn?1333901604
Bless, I am very sorry for your loss.
Avatar universal
I am so very, very sorry for your loss (((hug))) You will be in my prayers.
427454 tn?1315500950
Thanks ladies, it feel as if someone has stuck tons of knives in my heart for no reason at all.  I am trying so hard to understand, how could something be going so well end up so wrong.  I know God does not make any mistakes, but I cont to beat myself up wondering if it was me, and the traveling...I feel that was my last hope of trying to conceive...My husband is set on not seeing me every go through that again.  If only I knew the why's it would help easy my mine.  What makes a baby deliever early?

I have soooooo many unanswer questions.  I just ask you all continue to pray my strength.  This has been the hardest thing I ever had to go through.  Although I have had several miscarriages, never did I get the heartbeat, and see the baby with all toes, both legs, eyes, etc...Has anyone been through this and it worked for you later?  Thanks
Avatar universal
I'm so so sorry to read this dreadful news.
Avatar universal
   I am so sorry to hear of your loss, I cant imagine what you are going through right now, but GOD knows. My prayers are with you and your family.
Avatar universal
This is truly heartbreaking news.  I will say a prayer for you and your family, and for God to give you the strength to get through this incredibly sad time in your life.  
Avatar universal
I'm so sorry for your loss. I have there. I m/c my daughter at 21 wks. I feel your pain. I hope you have someone to talk to. If we I'm here. Esp. the late nights you get up needing to talk. My prayers r with you in your time of need. My condolences r with u & your family.
1521759 tn?1298337665
I am so sorry for your loss Im writting to you and cant stop crying I know what your gping throw I loss my baby at 19 weeks its the hardest thing I will have you and your little Angel in my prayers may God give you strenth.
1712052 tn?1312342728
My heart goes out to you... what i held on to and still to this day.. My autistic son told me when we thought we where going to lose Morgan... and the constant treat with this pregnancy... He told me that God told him that all baby's who dont get to live in this world get to be angels at His side... hope that his words give you some comfort.. as it does us....
427454 tn?1315500950
Thanks for your words of comfort...Those are such beautiful words from your baby boy.  I am trying to understand the why's, and if it was something I did wrong?  Maybe, I shouldn't have taken the trip, I am beating myself up with so many things I shouldn't have done.  I know it will get better, I just hope this pain I am feeling easy up soon.

Thanks to all you ladies who has offer me a listen ear.  It helps to talk to others who  have experience your pain and situation.  This miscarriage was so different from the other 10, simply because I never went this far along with the others.  How could something going so right end up so wrong?  I know God is in control, and He will give me peace soon...It just hurt so bad right now...Thanks
377493 tn?1356502149
Oh Yolanda.  My heart hurts for you so badly right now.  I wish we knew why things like this happen to such good people. I wish I had some wise words or answers for you.  Sadly all I can offer is my thoughts and prayers and a hug.  I am so so very sorry my friend.
377493 tn?1356502149
Oh, and I do need to add.  No, this is nothing you did wrong.  Nothing at all.  Travelling at this stage is very safe and women do it all the time.  You did not cause this.  Please do not add that to what must already be incredible pain.
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