Over 40 and TTC

[Braedensmom]

Hi Everyone,

I'm 41 and have one son; he'll be 7 tomorrow.  It took us 15 mos. to get pregnant with him, and I remember feeling like I would never get pregnant.  I had some scares during that pregnancy... mainly unexplained heavy bleeding at 15 weeks (gushing, not spotting).  I was terrified I was going to miscarry after waiting all that time to get pregnant, but everything turned out well (obviously).  =)

My husband and I started trying again late last year.  Much to our shock, we got pregnant after only three months of trying.  It felt like a miracle.  Unfortunately, it was a short-lived miracle because I miscarried at 10 weeks.  It was a symptom-free miscarriage, something I'd never even heard of before it happened to me, but now I understand it's fairly common. This was in February, and now we're TTC again and have been since March.  This month, I thought I might be pregnant because I started burping several days before my period was even due (I had early burping with my first pregnancy and also with the pregnancy I lost).  Unfortunately my period came, only one day late.  It was a short period... only four days long (my normal ones last closer to seven days).  It was also significantly lighter than normal but not light enough to suggest implantation bleeding. I had at least one heavy flow day.  I was disappointed but just wanted to move forward.  The thing is, I'm still burping constantly, and it's driving me crazy.  When I search the internet I find suggestions like "reflux" as an explanation, but I'm doubtful that I suddenly would have developed it.  I have no heartburn and no other symptoms associated with reflux.  My breasts have been a little achy/tingly, but not constantly.  My last pregnancy my breasts were killing me within the first week after missing my period.  I'm so confused.  I'm sure my head could have been messing with me prior to the arrival of my period, but afterward?  Why am I still burping? Why are my breasts sore?  Is it all random?

This whole thing is so scary.  Since I was pregnant early this year you'd think that would give me some kind of security in terms of feeling like I can still get pregnant, but somehow it doesn't.  I'm terrified that was my last chance, and that I'm too old and it's too late.  I can't afford fertility treatments, so frequent, well-timed sex is really my only option.  We've been starting around day 9 or 10 and having sex every other day until day 18 or later.  Any and all suggestions and advice are welcome.  Thanks!

Debbie

[Risa615]

Hi Josie,
Here is the web address, http://womens-place.com/ttc/vitex.php#recipe1  

This month I was going to ovulate early since I got a positive OPK on cd 7, so I went  to my RE office that same day, and I had two follicles that were a good rate eventhough I had just had my period the week before.  

Risa

[One777]

Hi Risa...could you post that web address here....I would be interested in looking through it myself. Thanks :-) Josie

[Risa615]

Hi Debbie,
Welcome! You can also join the group ttc over 40 and lots of us will always have lots to say!

There are so many things to do to get your body ready for a healthy pregnancy.  I learned from others on this sight about macaroot and vitex, but natural ways to help you get pregnant and they aren't that expensive from the web.  Also, I found a great fertility recipe that I keep sharing  that involves baby aspirin and vitamin b 12 and b50, I can send you the web link if you are interested.  I would also suggest you start using OPK tests which you can find on the web for cheap.  Now that we are in our 40's, we ovulate all over the place.  This cycle I ovulated on cd 8!  Other cycles cd 14. Also, are you taking your temperature every morning?

I have been trying to conceive for over two years.  I tried the fertility doctors ways and now i am trying the natural way with support from RE office.  

Risa