People never fail to amaze me...and not in a good way.

[wanting4#1]

People kill me...really!  I have been waiting to the minute to be able to post our wonderful news on Facebook.  I knew that today would be the day, if all went well at the NT scan yesterday, since I would be out of the first trimester and know that the baby was okay!

So, first thing this morning, I scanned in photos from the u/s and wrote my status a couple of times...

"is over the moon, on cloud nine and dancing on air; praising God; and thanking everyone who has been on our journey with us..praying, supporting, loving and encouraging us! Charlie and I are THRILLED to announce that "WE ARE PREGNANT!". We are officially in our 2nd trimester and pictures of L'il Monkey are on the way!!"

Most people wrote..Congrats! or some other positive thing, but listen (or read, I guess) what some "friend" from high school wrote...

"its about time isn't you bio clock runnung down. congrats! " (Her spelling errors...I copied and pasted her remarks)

IS THAT NOT UNBELIEVABLE???? I'm so tempted to send her a PM to say something like "I hope not since I want to have another, maybe 2 more..God willing" or "Y'know, I've thought that maybe it is...wonder if THAT'S why it's taken me close to 4 years to get pregnant..but thanks for clarifying the problem for me!"

But I won't...I know it. I'm not going to start a FB war..it's not worth it! (I am secretly hoping that someone else posts something about her comment, though!)

Just amazing to me! Truly amazing...at almost 40 years old, still has no filter or processing of 'think before you speak'!

[Helen72]

Some people just never grow out of high school mode.  These days women postpone fertility so often that I can hardly believe someone would actually write that.  Very thoughtless comment no matter how you look at it.

Enjoy spreading the news!!

[40smama]

There are just people in the world, no matter the age, who say things like that & don't think a thing about it.  When I told people I was pregnant w/Noah, I got so many rude comments.  Of course most of the comments I got were congratulatory in nature but there was enough of the others that when i heard them, I would come home crying!

The thing that helped me is to realize the above (people saying stupid stuff) & to basically cut them out of my life.  Sounds like she might be one of them - there's too much positivity to let these negative comments ruin my pregnancy.  I just had to focus on those remarks.

it's good you didn't start a FB war like you said but I'm sure you're still fuming and it's no wonder.  Just get your back all slick to let comments like this roll off of you because believe it or not, you'll probably get more comments like this one & you don't want them to get you down.  I'm sorry this happened!

[rubyinparadise]

Personally I would de-friend someone who made a comment like that to me, but not before letting them know that I found their comment extremely insensitive. At least give them a chance to apologize for a poor attempt at humor. She could have been trying to be funny, as obnoxious as her comment was.

Honestly, about 20 people from my HS found me on facebook and I'm now down to 6 that I'm still connected to. There are reasons that certain people didn't stay in our lives after graduation. ;)

[jenstam]

I feel for you. Let it be her ignorance!! When I posted that we were expecting our child, our SIXTH child whom we planned and already love so much, I got a response from an old friend saying "Holy ****, are you guys starting a cult?!" Umm, yeah, exactly! Several of my friends stuck up for me about how lovely our children are ;) I was appalled though!!

[Mochica]

I'm on FB too. I wouldn't mind posting on your behalf :)! But for what it's worth ... she doesn't sound like she's worth it. With people like that I say they're missing the "empathy gene." They usually never get it if they don't have it. Who knows ... perhaps she's suffering in some way. (I always tend to get OVERLY empathetic but it helps me not be angry at people.) Maybe things aren't going well for her, maybe she's filled with anger but regardless, it's sad that she's so clueless and this far along in life. (Sigh.)

[SoCalTricia]

Honestly, I think some people just have no idea how what they say comes across. Especially on a forum like Facebook (or medhelp, for that matter). You get no voice inflection or anything, so it's easy to misread the "tone" of people. Honestly, I'd just chalk it up to lack of knowing what else to say. I doubt if she meant anything malicious. Just enjoy all the OTHER comments, and ignore hers. No big deal...

Tricia

[prevatt77]

I'm on face book too.  I'll have NO problem commenting on that post.  Just send me your link and I will post for you.  I have just the right thing to say.

Debbie

[mlb1234]

I could go off and say more but I'll just stick with what a beeyatch!!!  Maybe HER biological clock is ticking.  Yours seems just fine to me by the fact that you are carrying a beautiful baby!!  :)

[tatorbug40]

I added you as a friend...  now you can PM me...  

[wanting4#1]

Thanks, everyone...I'm really not upset by her comment, more laughing at her ignorance!! I've got her on a 'friends list' that doesn't get to see pictures or anything and I've already 'hidden' all her comments (beside this one, because I want others to see and laugh at her!!)

Tator...you made me laugh out loud! I'll send you a PM right now ;)

[tatorbug40]

I will-  I am on facebook-  how do I add you as a friend?  PM me, and I'll add you as a friend and post that!  HOW RUDE!  I am so upset for you!!!  

[usuk]

ummm. i think the clock is running out on your relationship with her. i gave someone else the same advice before in this forum, just tell her that you hope no one ever says anything insensitive like that to her son/daughter one day. that is the only way she'll see your point of view without it being specifically about one person.

[adgal]

All I can say to that is what an idiot.  Honestly.  We all chose to start our families when we did for a reason, and that is up to us and only us.  I would just ignore her and be happy this wasn't someone in my life on a daily basis.  I truly wish some people came equipped with an off button!  

[rdh1981]

Wow, that is rude. It kinda of seems like people do not hold their tongue when "speaking" through the computer. It is like they feel safer and they say things they would never say to your face.  

I would just blow her off and move. Do not let her get you down, this is the happiest time of your life!!!!!!!