Pregnancy after 40

[Faith3940]

Met the man of my dreams a few years ago and know we are will spend the rest of our lives together. He has a son in college and we are both nearing 40 years old. I was on the pill and VERY surprised when I turned up pregnant a few months ago. After some denial we both we're looking forward to this baby, especially me as I have always wanted to be a mom!  Unfortunately, after few weeks of cramps and spotting, I am no longer pregnant. We viewed this pregnancy as a gift sent from above but now I really want a child and don't know if we should actually try for one at our ages and how safeties would be for the baby. Does anyone have advice or perhaps you conceived later in life?

[silly4mybabys]

Keep your head up I'm 40 and 26 weeks prego with my 6th. I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks right before this baby. We're very excited! So very possible to have success!

[Isthatyoubob]

Ps the chances are much higher for having a healthy baby than not but the chances of having genetic problems  are higher than for women with younger eggs.

[Isthatyoubob]

If you want to try then crack on ASAP as fertility treatment is a slow frustrating process.  I started when 32 and am 36 and at last carrying my first in its second trimester.  Plenty of women have children at 40 but our chances of success go down as time goes on so decide quickly.  Will you always regret not trying? If the answer is yes then get onto an expert today! (And really really good luck!)

[clairwin]

Im sorry thing's didnt go right first time round for you. Im 36 and have two teenagers 14 and 17. This time although I feel the aches and am tired more I feel im more ready and relaxed becoming a third time mum. Ash060115 is right, age is a number.
Go for it while you can or you may regret it later on. Good luck to you.

[vampzbite]

Hi, im so sorry for your loss...  My partner and I have been trying for years to get pregnant and the hospital refused IVF help as i just turned 40... After must argument and two cancer dcares with them they agreed to give me tablets and im now 20 weeks pregnant and they atent worried about my age they just see you a few extra times...ive had no problems not even morning sickness... I say go for it...you'll always wonder other wise and no pregnancy is the same some 20yr old could have a terrible pregnancy while a 41yr old has an easy one... no one knows. I wish you luck!

[ash060115]

my aunt had her third baby when her youngest was 20years old. She was 41 when she found out she was pregnant.  :) she had a beautiful baby girl.

And my uncle 48years old and his girlfriend 42yrs old are in the maternity hospital now awaiting their first baby :)

Age is only a number x

[babymacias15]

I m/c 9 mos.ago. and surprise we are expecting again. I too felt exactly how you felt. I am 40 & 10w6d along. We contemplated in trying again but BC we are 40&41 were unsure. Talk with your man and share his you really feel.

[aali4]

Aww. Im sorry to hear about your loss. Dont be intimidated by your age. Although there are a lot of younger mothers, that doesn't make you old!! I say try again!! If you're healthy, you shouldn't worry. Congratulations in advance! :-)

[TMMB]

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[TMMB]

The odds of having a child w Down's syndrome go up after 35, but the chances are still remote. Mist babies born to mothers over 35 are perfectly healthy. Moms, themselves, don't have that many more health concerns, either.

[mykids4dars]

I am 41 and expecting my fifth child. It will actually be my boyfriends first. We are both excited about it. If you are healthy and both want it i would say go for it. Good luck. The only difference is I feel the aches and pains more than I did 20 years ago and get tired a little more often.