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Pregnant at 43, need advice on some symptoms
Hi all. I'm almost 5 weeks pregnant (my first time) and am 43. Here's a little history.... I was told that I would never be able to have my own baby after getting back really high FSH levels. This doc said IVF with an egg donor would be my only option. Saw another specialist who was more hopeful, but still was told the odds of using my own eggs were against me because of my age. I started acupunture and herb supplemtents, positive affirmation CDs, and tried relaxing! 4 months later, I became pregnant. We are so happy! But it's scary too because on my first trip to the OBGYN all he did was tell me all the risks and the terrible things that can happen, with nothing positive to balance that info out. I've beaten the odds so far, and I have to remember that!
I have a couple things going on that I'm wondering if others have experienced. Night sweats started a couple nights ago - it's not terrible, but it's noticable. I also started feeling this sort twinge in my lower abdomen, on the left side, just above and to the left of the pubic area. Someone else described it as a "stitch", like you used to get in gym class. Good description! It's not super painful or anything, but it's new, so I am curious about it. It comes and goes. The other question is about breast tenderness. Mine were REALLY sore after conception for about 2 weeks straight, and seem to be less sore now. So of course I'm worried because I want as many standard symptoms as I can get so I can feel like this pregnancy is going to be successful! I would have thought that my breasts would become MORE sore as time goes on, and not less sore.
Any input would be so appreciated!!!
Thanks.
I have a couple things going on that I'm wondering if others have experienced. Night sweats started a couple nights ago - it's not terrible, but it's noticable. I also started feeling this sort twinge in my lower abdomen, on the left side, just above and to the left of the pubic area. Someone else described it as a "stitch", like you used to get in gym class. Good description! It's not super painful or anything, but it's new, so I am curious about it. It comes and goes. The other question is about breast tenderness. Mine were REALLY sore after conception for about 2 weeks straight, and seem to be less sore now. So of course I'm worried because I want as many standard symptoms as I can get so I can feel like this pregnancy is going to be successful! I would have thought that my breasts would become MORE sore as time goes on, and not less sore.
Any input would be so appreciated!!!
Thanks.
Hi everyone. I'm so glad I found this site. I'm 43 and already have two beautiful children of 9 and 11 years. Periods have been regular since my last child, except for a couple of times when I was feeling a bit stressed. I'm writing because this month I'm a bit worried. I have had this awful cold and cough and have taken a lot of medication. My period was due five days ago and it hasn't turned up yet. I had a bit of normal cramping a couple of days before I was due so I rushed out to buy my pads then... nothing. The cramping is still there, I have had a lot of night sweats (which I thought were associated with the cough etc) backache, boobs tender. I took a hpt yesterday and it was negative (for my other children I tested a day after due date and it showed up pos). Also today (after napping in chair before I went out to do a course at college) I nearly fell asleep during the lesson and also was fighting to stay awake on the bus home!!! Am I lazy or is there something not right here? Am I going through my change? Could I be pregnant again? I have been with same partner since my son's birth and using the very unsafe pull out method and have not got pregnant. If I am pregnant I'm worried about all the medication I've been taking for about 3 weeks.
my symptoms seem to be lessening too.
my breasts/nipples were sore for first 4 weeks, now i'm 9 1/2 weeks, and i don't feel pregnant at all. no soreness or swelling. my morning sickness was all day every day, and now is just gone.
and i thought i should be urinating all the time, but i'm not.
so i'm worried too. i feel like there is nothing i can do, but to wait for my 12 week ultrasound which is on the 12th of Nov.
i looked up the sore boob thing in my preg. book, and it says it usually starts up at the 13th week, so maybe it will come back at 13 weeks.
nausea dissapates after 1st trimester, so i'm thinking maybe it just went away early, knowing some people don't even get nausea, and i didn't have any nausea with my first pregnancy (son is 11 yrs. old now).
i'm going to post this as a thread and see how common loosing symptoms is. stephanie
my breasts/nipples were sore for first 4 weeks, now i'm 9 1/2 weeks, and i don't feel pregnant at all. no soreness or swelling. my morning sickness was all day every day, and now is just gone.
and i thought i should be urinating all the time, but i'm not.
so i'm worried too. i feel like there is nothing i can do, but to wait for my 12 week ultrasound which is on the 12th of Nov.
i looked up the sore boob thing in my preg. book, and it says it usually starts up at the 13th week, so maybe it will come back at 13 weeks.
nausea dissapates after 1st trimester, so i'm thinking maybe it just went away early, knowing some people don't even get nausea, and i didn't have any nausea with my first pregnancy (son is 11 yrs. old now).
i'm going to post this as a thread and see how common loosing symptoms is. stephanie
Hello Ladies,
I have been reading your posts and have gotten the nerve to post something for myself. I just want you to know that I appreciate being able to read about your experiences. I am almost 36 years old and my husband and I are trying to have a baby. We were married (the lst for both of us) a few years ago (age 33). We wanted to be married a couple of years before trying to conceive. I conceived a baby in Feb. of this year and lost the baby at 11weeks. Of course I was devestated. I was overjoyed when I found out I was pregnant again in September. We waited four months to try again based on my ob's advice to wait three cycles. I just had my second D&C last week at 8 weeks pregnant. All my life all I've ever wanted was to be a wife and a mother, but wanted to wait until I was blessed with the right man to marry. So in the mean time, I focused on my career. Now that I am married... I want babies. I keep hearing comments from non-medical folks and doctors alike.... reminding me of my age and how much of a high risk it is. As though I have done something wrong by waiting until I found the right man to marry and have children with. I am so upset. But, it has been a comfort to me to see your posts and to see that it is indeed possible that I too could have a successful pregnancy at 36. I am the youngest in my family and my mother had me when she was 35. And back then that was not common. So, surely today I should be able to give birth too. I do believe in God and I do believe that He is able to get me through this and hopefully bless me with children of my own. I truly do understand now, more than ever, that children are not an entitlement, but simply a gift from God to be treasure every day.
God bless, and I will continue to read your updates.
I have been reading your posts and have gotten the nerve to post something for myself. I just want you to know that I appreciate being able to read about your experiences. I am almost 36 years old and my husband and I are trying to have a baby. We were married (the lst for both of us) a few years ago (age 33). We wanted to be married a couple of years before trying to conceive. I conceived a baby in Feb. of this year and lost the baby at 11weeks. Of course I was devestated. I was overjoyed when I found out I was pregnant again in September. We waited four months to try again based on my ob's advice to wait three cycles. I just had my second D&C last week at 8 weeks pregnant. All my life all I've ever wanted was to be a wife and a mother, but wanted to wait until I was blessed with the right man to marry. So in the mean time, I focused on my career. Now that I am married... I want babies. I keep hearing comments from non-medical folks and doctors alike.... reminding me of my age and how much of a high risk it is. As though I have done something wrong by waiting until I found the right man to marry and have children with. I am so upset. But, it has been a comfort to me to see your posts and to see that it is indeed possible that I too could have a successful pregnancy at 36. I am the youngest in my family and my mother had me when she was 35. And back then that was not common. So, surely today I should be able to give birth too. I do believe in God and I do believe that He is able to get me through this and hopefully bless me with children of my own. I truly do understand now, more than ever, that children are not an entitlement, but simply a gift from God to be treasure every day.
God bless, and I will continue to read your updates.
hi, it is refreshing to have someone in my age group to talk to. I will be 42 in January and is 6 weeks pregnant, awaiting the results of my hcg tests. At 5.4 weeks the dr had not seen ftal pole. I am hoping that this will change for the better when I go back to the dr.
With regards to brest soreness share your experience, but am trying not to be too concerneed.
Congrats and hpe everything works out for u.
With regards to brest soreness share your experience, but am trying not to be too concerneed.
Congrats and hpe everything works out for u.
Kelly,
Thanks for your post! Glad to hear about all that you wrote. Good luck to you on October 16th! I noticed that you are in Phoenix. I am too and would love to get the name of your OBGYN, if you are happy with them.
Thanks!
Thanks for your post! Glad to hear about all that you wrote. Good luck to you on October 16th! I noticed that you are in Phoenix. I am too and would love to get the name of your OBGYN, if you are happy with them.
Thanks!
Wendy,
Congratulations!..... Sorry to hear your dr was so insensitive. MANY women actually a large amount are having or starting families after the age of 35!!!!!!!!!!! so this is no longer a strange occurance. This has become soooo very common. Though I will say it is much more worrisome with all the testing that they do. I am 38 and 8wk pregnant, with my 4th my other kids are 8ds 19dd 22ds. My dh has no children of his own, so I went vthrough a tubal reversal this past june so we could have one baby together. I was afraid of a tubal pregnancy at first , thankfully a U/S confirmed the baby is in utero and last week we got to see our lil peanut heartbeat! That was tooo cool!. You might be able to see your at your next U/S too. I would as well find another dr (obgyn) what a a##, what nerve they have. My breast were really tingly the first few weeks, and very full feeling, I know longer have the tingly and the fullness is there more so at night, and they are sore on and off. I have read that the symptoms will flucuate. So I would not worry, I too get the twinge pinch pulling lil pains, doc always says its just the uterus growing, as long as you have no bleeding you are fine. We go on Oct 16th for our NT testing, nervous but hope we get good news and find out what the sex is!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Well good luck to you, know there is alot of here in your same shoes, so post here with any questions or comments. There is always a great person here that will answer you.. and welcome to the oldies....lol
Kelly
Congratulations!..... Sorry to hear your dr was so insensitive. MANY women actually a large amount are having or starting families after the age of 35!!!!!!!!!!! so this is no longer a strange occurance. This has become soooo very common. Though I will say it is much more worrisome with all the testing that they do. I am 38 and 8wk pregnant, with my 4th my other kids are 8ds 19dd 22ds. My dh has no children of his own, so I went vthrough a tubal reversal this past june so we could have one baby together. I was afraid of a tubal pregnancy at first , thankfully a U/S confirmed the baby is in utero and last week we got to see our lil peanut heartbeat! That was tooo cool!. You might be able to see your at your next U/S too. I would as well find another dr (obgyn) what a a##, what nerve they have. My breast were really tingly the first few weeks, and very full feeling, I know longer have the tingly and the fullness is there more so at night, and they are sore on and off. I have read that the symptoms will flucuate. So I would not worry, I too get the twinge pinch pulling lil pains, doc always says its just the uterus growing, as long as you have no bleeding you are fine. We go on Oct 16th for our NT testing, nervous but hope we get good news and find out what the sex is!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Well good luck to you, know there is alot of here in your same shoes, so post here with any questions or comments. There is always a great person here that will answer you.. and welcome to the oldies....lol
Kelly
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