Scared and sad.

[Este_kat]

Am so postly 9 Weeks. 2 ultrasound no heart beat...yet, I noticed my stomach is not growing anymore and i have no food craving. Am scared that am not pregnant anymore. Any comments, please.

[alid32]

Way funny mom- I too had to have a D&c as I had what is known as an incomplete miscarriage.  They are necessary some of the time. Telling someone otherwise and encouraging them to not take antibiotics is irresponsible and inappropriate. Are you her doctor? Do you what her specific situation is? No you don't. You shouldn't be giving out medical advice.
Op- I have been what you are going through and am so sorry that you have to experience it. It does get easier with time. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

[Este_kat]

Thank you ladies for all your advise, comments, prayers,  and good vibes. You don't know how much I need it at this time. Going in today for my D&C. Feeling very scared about it. But am asking the good Lord to watch out for me. For everything to come out ok.

[Duenov2014]

Im so sorry for your lost hun. I had a mc last yeare and had to have a d&c because after a month my body never passed the baby. But I Did conceive after four months and currently 31 weeks. Allow ur self time to grieve and when you are ready try again

[littlebabybrower]

I'm so sorry for your loss Este_kat. I've also had 2 miscarriages last year... One at 6 weeks and another around 8 weeks. I was incredibly sad, but everyone is right. .. With time, you will heal. You'll never forget the angel you were blessed to carry, even if for a short time. For me, it helped to name them, because they mattered just that much to me. Idk... Perhaps that could help you too. I didn't have a D&C... But again, every woman and pregnancy is different. Best to be safe... Heal... And get ready for the next one! I'm 16 weeks and my newest bundle of joy is doing just awesome! All my best to you!

[Isthatyoubob]

I'm sorry for your loss, I had a 10 week miscarriage and tried to do it naturally and it didn't work and then they gave me drugs to help and I miscarried some of the material and then some remained for a week or two and I had to have a d&c.  Wish I'd just had a D&c straight off as would have saved the pain of the miscarriage, risk of infection, and hated feeling physically pregnant (still had high hcg) after I knew my baby's heartbeat had died.
Many women complete their miscarriage without help. Before you stop your antibiotics make sure they don't think you have an actual infection because if like me you want to have the best chance of keeping everything good for trying again .

[DANIELluvzSHORTTY]

Am sorry for you loss...i know is really hard,but god know why things happen,ur bby angel is still there for u,in your mind heart and soul...and later in time god will bless u with another...</3

[dextermummy]

I'm so sorry for your loss. Xxx

[wayfunmommy]

Geekmom, yours was an emergency and not typical.

[GeekMom1213]

Actually, some women do need to have a D&C. Not everyone's body completes the process "the natural way". I needed one after my last miscarriage, as some pieces of placenta had not detached from the wall of my uterus. In these cases the cervix will not close, risk of infection is incredibly high, and worst of all the woman can continue to bleed and bleed and bleed. I was hemorrhaging in the emergency room and needed IV fluids to stay conscious until after I went into the OR for the procedure. Doctors performed that procedure because if they hadn't I may have bled out. They didn't do it to scare me, it wasn't done out of fear but of necessity. That's a horrible way to look at it. Why on earth would you say something like that??

OP: I'm so sorry for what you're going through. Please know that you are not alone and that screaming and crying and being furious about what has happened to you is perfectly normal. Take all the time you need to grieve this loss. It sometimes feels like it will never stop hurting. But a day will come when it hurts less. And it will be okay.

[wayfunmommy]

I'm so sorry. I've been there twice myself. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
Also, please know you don't have to have a D&C.  You can allow your body to do it the natural way. You also don't have to take the antibiotics. That's what doctors do to women out of fear.

[clairwin]

I really feel for you and send my love. Its not easy or nice and with time you'll be ok. Surround yourself with loved ones.

[Este_kat]

Yesterday morning I had a miscarriage.... My heart drop when I saw the blood coming out of the bathroom.  Rush it to my doctor.  But...the re was nothing that could be done. Now there telling me that I have to get a clean up also. So my body doesn't catch a infection.  Also was giving antibiotics to start to take. I already scream, got mad, and did a lot of crying. . . .

[gugu2010]

Im thinking of you.

[Duenov2014]

Please keep us posted

[Este_kat]

I'll have them check my hcg levels on Friday. Thank you for your advice.

[Este_kat]

Thank you I'll keep my faith. And thank you for sharing your experience.

[Duenov2014]

Have they tested your hcg levels

[1NAMILLION]

Hang in there, you may still be pregnant...sometimes baby just doesn't reveal their heartbeat at that...give it a few more weeks before anyone tries to convince you that you've m/s. My baby didn't display a heartbeat at 8 weeks but did so weeks later and is healthy. Stay positive and best wishes to you.

[alid32]

I'm so sorry for your loss.  I've been through two miscarriages myself,  one at 6 weeks and the other at 13 weeks. The second was similar.  I stopped getting sick, had no cravings and ultrasound showed the baby had stopped developing.  It was heartbreaking.  You'll never forget this little angel, but as time goes by, the intensity of the pain will lessen. My thoughts are with you.