Stillborn delivery...

[militarybrat74]

I was carrying triplets..but I lost 2. My doctor told me I would possibly be delivering the alive one and the 2 dead ones. My question is..what happens to the 2 that are dead? Someone said I have the responsibility of funeral arrangements...I'm confused. Never been in this situation before. Does anyone know?

[militarybrat74]

That does make sense and I think I'll find out more things after this upcoming ultrasound too..thanks for shedding some light!

[RockRose]

military brat,  I think at this point you do just have to live by faith.  It seems possible that if the doctor looked at the clot you passed and said it was one of the babies,  it's possible you were originally carrying 4 instead of 3.  I bet you'll know a lot more after your next ultrasound.

Best wishes.

[militarybrat74]

I had an ultrasound October 8th and both dead babies were still in there. All 3 sacs were visible and a baby in each one. You can tell the 2 are not a live. But the one is. My question is..I was told the 2 would pass as clots. I have even been rushed to ER because I was bleeding. Doc told me I had passed one. But ultrasound shows all 3 babies. So..how did I pass one? Just really confused. Have full ultrasound the 27th. Will look at back of baby neck and at her back and see about down syndrome and other problems. Also will see if all 3 babies still visable...Living by my faith more then ever

[RockRose]

I'm so sorry for your losses,  and prayers for a smooth rest of your pregnancy with your healthy baby.

Since they stopped growing very early in pregnancy,  these embryos won't be classified as "stillborn" but rather miscarriages,  and the funeral home won't be involved.  

It's very likely that by the time your deliver your baby the remains of the two others won't be able to be distinguished from the placenta or other birth products.

[militarybrat74]

The doctor told me first the babies would pass out as clots. Then...said I would deliver them because they didn't pass...I'm confused

[shinieshoes]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I don't think the babies would have been developed enough for a funeral unless you just want to have one. When I lost my baby at 6 weeks it just came out as clots. Again I'm so sorry for your losses. Prayers going up for you.

[militarybrat74]

I appreciate the fast responses. I'm devastated over losing the 2...I lost one at 6 weeks and the other at 7 weeks. I'm 17 weeks now and baby number 3 is doing great. Strong heartbeat and all. My sister and I were talking about what happens to the stillborn babies and neither of is knew. This is going to be very difficult for me..Thank you all for the kind words and the information..

[elimaries1]

Most hospitals will have a list of funeral homes that can help you, unless your family has one they've used in the past.  The funeral director for the funeral home we chose went above & beyond for us by coming to the hospital to simply say hello & give condolences before meeting him at the funeral home after I was released from the hospital.  Our expenses were taken care of by them except for the urn, but I wanted a specific Disney Princess one that was specially made for us. I'm so sorry you have to go through this.

[elimaries1]

You do have the responsibility for their funeral arrangements.  Most hospitals will ha

[missnancymarie]

A grief counselor may come speak to you and give you info. So sorry for your loss.

[missnancymarie]

My baby was cremated. I was 18 weeks when I went into preterm labor. The funeral home did it for free. My Hubby took care of the details. I was too broken up to do so.

[livzzma]

I would contact the hospital at which you will be delivering. He/she may have all the info and resources in one place for you and may make the process a little less stressful. Sorry for your loss! Best wishes.

[CM6755]

Most funeral homes donate caskets for babies. My friend chose to have her stillborn baby cremated and they purchased an elegant miniature urn for her.