TTC after miscarriage and 35

[Mammaof3boys]

Hi there, I just turned 35 in February, I have a almost 8 year old, 6 1/2 year old and a 19 month old.  I miscarried in November at 11 weeks (would have been due in 2 more weeks from now).  It took 2 1/2 months for the bleeding to stop but after blood work and ultrasound they said everything looks good.  I am overweight and since the miscarriage I had put on 20lbs.....we have been TTC since February and nothing yet.  I already have an age span with my kids (I would have had them a little closer together if possible) and I don't want a huge age gap between my 3rd and 4th but of course its not happening as quickly as I would like...also I could probably afford to lose 20lbs before getting preggo however I found its been hard and I can't afford to wait a year before TTC.  Could weight be a preventative of getting pregnant?  I have been taking temps and using OPK so my timing is spot on...the longest it took us to get pregnant in the past was our first (10 months)....I have been experiencing anixety and stress and also wonder if that has anything to do with it.  I hope God blesses us with another beautiful healthy child but and I have heard after 35 it becomes harder but was wondering if there was any personal experiences and advice I could get.  Thanks ladies.

[Mammaof3boys]

Thank you ladies for all your comments, I have started an exercise routine...watching what I eat is hard sometimes but will make it a priority....I really hope to lose at least 20lbs over the next little while and become preggo soon, I need to lose more than that to get to a really healthy weight but this will be a start....I have three beautiful healthy boys just wish for one more healthy child to complete our family.  God Bless and we will be in touch.  

[carpediemforlife]

I agree with the comments above....dont stress. I am overweight and 35 and had 2 m/c I walk daily and eat good. Im 12 wks preg and lost 18lbs.  Im not trying to lose weight on purpose.  I honestly think that the stretching and walking are really helping me ALOT. Im not reducing calories or doing anything extreme.  But I enjoy my routine that I have right now.  So think about getting into a routine and really pay attention to your diet....and I bet you will get pregnant as soon as your focus changes.  All the best of luck to YOU!

[adgal]

Well its true it can take a little longer to conceive over 35, thats not necessarily always the case. I have conceived 3 times naturally since Nov. and I am 39 now.  Stress is definately a factor...how many times do we hear about couples trying and trying, and when they stop worrying about it, thats when it happens.  But I know, its easier said then done to not stress about it.  You have only been trying 4 months, and thats not very long really.  Just take good care of yourself, eat healthy, and keep trying.  I am sure you will conceive again in no time.

Good luck to you.

[jifnif]

well, stress is def a factor and weight can be as well.  It's never too late to start taking care of yourself.  Even if you are trying to get preg.  Eat healthy, lots of veggies and fruits.  Drink plenty of water.  If you don't already, take some long walks and enjoy some basic beginner yoga.  You really need to focus on de-stressing and loving yourself.  It sounds corny but you will be glad you did.  Free your mind up a lil.  I have an 18yr old, a 20 mth old and am 26+ weeks now.  I have had 2m/c and 1 ectopic.  I am also 38 and things aren't like they used to be for sure.  I think that is why it is so important to stay healthy.  Walking is great for getting things moving.  I gained some weight in between losses and kept saying I would worry about it after I got prego. Well, that is a lot of stress on your knees and your bod.  Think positive and try to de-clutter your head.  Best wishes.  :)

[tahariel]

Stress can be a factor. Try to relax, even though that can be a challenge. I am sorry for your loss. I lost a baby at 17 weeks, then it took a while to become pregnant again which I think was due to an excess of workplace stress. (Within 6 months of leaving that job, I was successfully pregnant.) There is a 5 1/2 year age gap between my 1st and 2nd. Not what I wanted, but that's just the way it worked out. Then I was 35 when I became pregnant with our 3rd and we were not even trying!  Eat healthy, continue to exercise, make healthy lifestyle choices and everything should be fine. Best wishes!