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727562 tn?1302986438

What keeps you from giving up?

I am currently in the two week wait and have been several times for the last two years!!! My husband and I got our first BFP in April of 2009 after trying for 5 months but miscarried in May. We have been trying ever since. Some months I will decide, this is it and stop for a little while and then decide to try again. So I will say in total since the miscarriage we have actively tried 10 months! Sometimes I wonder what keeps me going after month after month disappointment! I know my reasons for not giving up is because I believe that it's going to happen for us again and I feel that if we stop trying then it won't ever happen for us again! When I stop trying I don't mean just not say we're trying, I take serious preventative measures because I don't even want to obsess about the possibly when I'm trying to not get pregnant. However, I always change my mind and get back on the baby band wagon!! Sometimes I think about my age and want to give up but then I think my age is sometimes my driving force! I know it's wierd but my family thinks that I'm nuts for wanting a baby at 36!! I don't think that is old at all!! So my husband and I are patiently waiting on our blessing from God and we have faith and believe that it will happen! We just want it now...LOL!! What keeps you from  throwing in the towel and just giving up?
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503649 tn?1304357466
I also had 5 m/c and then delivered a healthy baby boy 2 years ago, I was 41 at delivery.  It's hard, but I made the decision that I wasn't going to give up.  My RE told me it was just back luck and I was getting an old egg and that it would happen for me.  I'm so glad I listed to him.  Follow your dream, keep trying and it will happen for you too.  Good luck and keep your faith.
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377493 tn?1356502149
I too had a rough time of it.  5 m/c, then a beautiful baby boy, and just recently another m/c.  I have been asked so many times why I keep going and 'doing this to myself".  It's because my desire to have children is stronger then the pain I suffer every time it doesn't work out.  So for me, there is no other choice.  Like you said, if I don't keep trying, then there is no possible way I will have another.  For me, giving up is not an option.  

I agree with happynifer...I would see a specialist.  There is so much they can do now..women that in the past wouldn't have been able to become moms now do everyday.  
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1278093 tn?1294320384
7 years, 3 m/c, 1 failed adoption.......infertility stinks...big time
but sitting here holding my 15 day old baby girl (that resulted from IVF) makes it worth every second.
hang in there.
and since you are over 35 i'd recommend seeing a fertility specialist sooner rather than later.
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