addiction during pregnancy

[Janie1976]

I'm 9 weeks pregnant probably 10. I drink twice a week. 6 beers. I really need advice. I honestly don't know what's wrong what's right. I need to know the truth about certain things but please no harsh comments. I've drank like this for years I'm 36 years old. I guess my age doesn't mean anything I'm just asking for a little bit of help

[rihrih]

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[saraanon]

Good luck, hun.  All I have to say is that everything you eat/drink passes thru the placenta and into your baby, a baby that is so tiny it weighs hardly anything.  Some women get lucky and have babies with no problems at all, others don't, and you don't know who will get lucky and who won't.  There's a newer classification now called 'fetal alcholol effects' which is less severe than fas, but still leaves a child with deficits.  There isn't a safe amount of alcohol in pregnancy.  Like someone else said, i wouldn't put alcohol in my infant's bottle, so why would I put it in her when she's still inside me and growing.  Again, I wish you lots of luck.  Seek out the support you need...it's out there and you won't be judged.  

[hjkj2013]

I have a close friend who was born with fetal alcohol syndrome. He cried weekly because he couldn't understand why his birth mother would purposely drink and make him "slow" as he said. He had a myriad of psychological and physical problems. His birth mother actually was put in jail because of her drinking during pregnancy...you may want to check the fetal rights laws in your state while considering your 'choices'. In south dakota pregnant alcohol and drug abusers can be committed up to the duration of the pregnancy. Wisconsin has a law that allows police to take a pregnant woman into custody and to court if they believe her actions will harm her baby. Not saying its right or wrong or judging your choices but your child has rights too...Mothers dont always get what they want...they need to put the child's needs ahead of their own.  I pray you make the right choice for your baby as mothers need to do.

[cher01]

I wish your hubby wld just bring home (or not at all)  what you already tasted so that you are not tempted to 'taste '. He needs to be supportive rather than a temptation.

[angelab2012]

There's a woman I know who's an alcoholic.  It's very sad.  She drank and did drugs with both her kids the entire pregnancies..  Both her children have  fas. And have a hard time. Learning concentrating. With many different aspects in life.  She could have prevented it.  They both have been diagnosed its definitely fetal alcohol syndrome..  I'm not judging u but try ur best to stop for that little life :)  growing in u...  It's sooo worth it:)  also the doctor at ANY time can test u for drugs and alcohol and the baby when born without u even knowing..  And nowadays they WILL involve DCF and most likely remove the baby from u. Not tying to scare you..  GOOD LUCK.  :)

[michelle81781]

It is allways best to cut out all drugs and alcohols that arent okd by your dr. I drank, mostly beer on and off when ever i felt like it. Hubby and i both did, he still does, but i stopped since we found out i am pg. I have had a drink or 2, like 1 swallow type drink, when he brings home something i never had just to try it and see if i like the taste ect. but im tring to look at it like this, if I wouldnt give it directly to my newborn i better not have it now.

[skyler411]

I would say you need to stop! If you only drink twice a week then your not an alcoholic at all! Before I became pregnant I drank rum and coke just about every night. .I was worried that I might not beable to quit but with the morning sickness and feeling so tired I haven't even thought about it! Not to mention what it could do to your baby !! I know I could not live with myself if something bad came from me wanting to drink knowing I was pregnant!! It's only nine months out of your life..I know you'll do the right thing ! Good luck to you and best wishes

[PennyS78]

My little brother has f a s. He doesn't have the knowledge of right and wrong and spends a lot of time in jail. I would be honest with your dr and see if they can test for it so you can be prepared for it. I am not judging you just letting you know that it is a real problem. He looks mostly normal but has had a hard life. I hope for the best for your baby Good luck with your pregnancy.

[cher01]

Thanks for the information. Its painful to imagine that on a child fir the rest of their lives.

[tiff62305]

I am adopted and so is all my siblings my one brother who is now 15 was born with fetal acholic he was born at 2 pounds on feeding tubes. Massage therpay physical therapy you name it he went through it to stop his with drawls he would just scream and cry it was horrible to see him go through. Today at 15 he's in a special school  his IQ is real low he has anger issue out burst inportate stuff he does. And this something that will never go away. I would in vise you to look on to what can happen from your choices.  Because not only can you destroy this child life. They will take the child away . Please get help now . I wouldn't wish what my brother goes through everyday of his life on anyone

[missi_m]

I'm not a drinker but this pregnancy has me craving alcohol. I've had 2 halves of lager and a few mouthfuls of wkd. That's over 5 months.

Good luck x

[cher01]

If I were you I wld give my child the best and put my possibly harmful ' wants ' out thru the window.

[cher01]

I don't drink so my comment might be out of touch. My advice is weigh the risks and ask yourself whether its worth it. Wld you like to live with a child who might have fetal alcohol syndrome and know that you cld have prevented it. While its not 100% that you child wld have it don't you want to do the best you can do for him /her.

[New24888]

It's not a good idea to drink it has bad side effects on the baby. Just think this little person is counting on you to do right by it. With that said I am sure many people still drink and their kids are fine just a silly risk.

[thirdtimemum]

Do you mean 6 beers at once twice a week? If so, that's probably not a good idea while pregnant.I am someone who used to drink 2 glasses of wine every night,and boy, do i miss that! I have abstained from alcohol during this pregnancy, and even more so now i have gestational diabetes, but i did have a small glass of bubbly christmas eve, and new years eve. I don't believe that can do harm, but any doctor will tell you there is no safe limit, and its better to avoid it. I just think about what a great liver cleanse i'm having, and how bubs is getting the best chance, and after he's born i'll definnately be celebrating with a glass of champers!

[julz2123]

My best advice would to educate youself on the risks of drinking while pregnant. Learn about infant alcohol syndrome and other risks associated with alcohol use. I hope things work out.