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I've been dating this guy for 4 years now. We had a son last year. Our second son is due in one week and he cheated on me with another girl and left us a week before our second was due.. he tells this other girl that the second baby is not his.. when he dosnt deny the baby to me or his parents... I guess he's been seeing her for a few months now. She strongly believes that it's not his and me and him havnt been together for 2 years. He comes around somtimes to take his son to the park. But I was just wondering.. how am I supposed to handle this..emotionally
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Aw.. I feel sorry for u hon... *hug*
If possible. .... get the DNA results. ... show it to his woman....and kick out this jerk from your life. He doesn't deserve you!!
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Iam with mariya on this get a DNA test done and show them and then be done with it..
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What If he won't agree to it?
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Do you have any combs or brushes he used? They may be able to use a piece of his hair for dna testing... I might be totally wrong but maybe...
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If he won't agree. Court can force it. You will need legal aid help otherwise that will cost you money. A mate of mine went thru the same. Her ex saying the baby isn't his and he refused a dna test because he knew it was his and didn't want his woman to believe my mate. Court forced him to do it. It's like a warrant.
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Yeah, I'd be expending my pent up rage by organizing court orders and taking his pathetic *** for all he's got.
Also, try keep yourself in good company, with friends or family, or join a single mom's community for support.
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I'm so sorry, man... I know I don't know you, but you sound like a strong woman... Do not stand for his bull... Sounds like if he's not denying it to his parents, he knows it's his, just trying to butter up that girl (which is exactly what she is, no woman would ever hurt another woman like that).... But I also agree with everybody, force that DNA test and you just handle you and your babes... I promise your life will be better without him... Good luck
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Thanks(: Its just so much drama to deal with I'm having this baby any momment! And she just thinks I'm lieing.. but what I think about is how is he suppose to keep the baby a secret?  The newborn clothes the crib on one side and a regular bed on the other side for our oldest son. The photos? He lives with his parents now and there going to have pictures of the kids all over and newborn toys and formula? She hasn't met his parents but has been to the house while there not home. So it's like how long does he really think he can hide this baby?
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He's hella trippen... And she's hella stupid for buying into his lies... But don't worry, that's HER problem now. What's shocking to me is that she can believe him, he must have a mouthpiece for sure. I'm sorry you have to deal with this, it's not right in anyway, you keep pushing on and keep up being a good mama <3 don't let her ignorance or his cruelty bug you at all... Don't let them rent space in your head, raise the rent and kick those mfs out
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I wouldn't worry about what she thinks at all... If his parents and him as well know its his it will become evident, if she is spitting drama at you I'd pose a question to her... "If I'm lying and you think I just want him, ask his parents or his family. Oh you haven't met them yet? Sounds like the only secret here is you. Aren't you gonna feel pretty stupid when BOTH my children are with him and his family, and your just sitting there in the dark." Don't let her get to you, she is no one and you don't have to prove a thing to her. The people who are important and will matter in your childrens life already know the truth. Good luck sweetie
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Thanks all of you for the wonderful advice! It hurts that he did this on our second child about to be born and that she seriously thinks it's all a lie. But the truth always gets told some time or later. And my kids are my main focus . Thank you <3
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But what I really want to do is send her the photos of him holding the new baby and ask her if she still thinks I'm lieing
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