Should he stay or should he go?! HELP NEEDED!!

[Spritelife]

I was very confident in my career, with my teenaged daughter & the life I've built as a single mom. I fell in love and was swept off my feet by a younger guy & now I'm starting my third trimester. He's been wishy-washy at best! Some days he wants to be a dad, some days he wants to run away. He's admitted the pressure's too much (he's 28, I think he should be ready to handle it!).

His business just pretty much fell apart because of technology changes and he's fallen into an on and off depression.

He says he wants a family & to be with me. The problem is:
1. His best friend told me he doesn't want a relationship, he just wants to sleep around.
2. He said he feels, "Like his life is over & he hasn't done anything yet."
3. Before he goes anywhere he is constantly asking his friends, "Are there hotties there?"
4. He rarely treats me like I am beautiful or celebrates this pregnancy with me.

I don't feel like this is the life I want for myself or my kiddos. He doesn't talk about feelings with me & we've tried to go to counselling but something always comes up. Yesterday they had the wrong doctor down and we had to reschedule. I'm feeling so unloved & hopeless. Is this enough?

[Sheba27]

I'm bad at making decisions sometimes, because I want to weigh all possible outcomes. But often I find I've already made my decision and that I just need to have it validated by others or i need to admit it to myself. I think you've already made your decision, that this isn't a lifestyle you want for you and your children. It's a tough choice to be sure, and counseling may fix it, but he's already not confiding in you and is reluctant to go through with counseling or even show affection for you. No matter what decision you make or what happens with this relationship, I'll be thinking of you and I wish you all the best.

[jellis32010]

Going  through this alone  is hard as you already knew that. If I where in your shoes.. I would probably  go on about my way you can't make  him grow up or be ready. Sounds  like  he has other priorities right now. You don't need the extra stress of this.  Go with your heart or gut feeling.  If he stays will he be of any help  to you and kids/baby? You are the only one who can say what is best and when enough is enough.  I wish you lots of luck.

[jlkmom]

Don't ignore the signs, he's telling you to run!!

[GodbeyMommy]

Just ask yourself if it were your daughter in the situation would you want her to stay with a guy like him?

[showty]

Let the extra baggage go. He's not worth the headache. Best of luck to you!!

[Liane88930]

Always remember what you want and how you want to be treated. Don't compromise yourself, your feelings, your standards to lessen your value. Don't expect another to change in order to rise up to meet  those standards you create for yourself.  They will either be there or not. If the answer is not, then let go- life is WAY to short! Love yourself first and ALWAYS!

[alid32]

I hate to encourage anyone to go it alone,  but you deserve far far better than what this jerk is giving you mama.