getting married at age 36

[babydoll12]

Hello

I am very concerned, as am be turning 36, and will be getting married in a couple of months. I love babies, and so does my fiance and his parents. He is the oldest out of 2. and for them this already means alot, and this responsiblity concerns me more deeply, that will I be able to give them that happiness.
Is having a baby hard, at this age, and any problems associated even if pregnancy takes place.

I have had normal cycles which started from age 12, and still continue to have normal cycles.
Have not been sexually active, as is in our culture.
I have had cervical smear tests, 1st came as abnormal cells, suggesting dyskariosis, and later on had another one, which suggested a normal smear, no warts or anything in vaginal area and cervix was told to be normal too.
My mother had 4 normal babies out of which 2 are twins.

I recently had a mammogram done, and was told I have multiple cysts in my right breast. It is upto me to have them aspirated/ or leave them as they are until they cause significant pain.

I just want to make sure that I am just fretting, as it is, and my chances of becoming pregnant are fairly ok.

Also, is there a way I could know whether or not me or fiance have strong physical chances, as someone was telling me that there are tests which tell that sperm count, that allow the male to know he wil do ok, in the baby making process and what is there for the female.

I have other few concerns also, but I would really appreicate if were answered these primarily.
As late in life as I finally thought of tying the knot, (as had promised to be with my mother for life, but she passed away, few months ago, and engaged me to my husband to be), so I want to know and be completely aware of things, rest I know is all GOD's doing and HE knows what lies in the future for me.

Many Regards

[babydoll12]

Hey ladies!!

thanks alot, for taking time to write to me, it means alot.
and especially so reinforcing and reassuring statements.I know all is associated with age, and then your own health, so I thought why not gain more knowledge from onsights of ladies like urselves. So any good vitamin companies recommended? or I could use any? I think stressing over my mother passing away, the month she was going to wed me, is taking its toll too, as my hair falling and then I dont feel like eating, and when I think the wedding is just round the corner, God!!

And I'l pray for you, germanababy to have good delivery and a beautiful helathy little girl, with all God's blessins, and yeah it was meant for you to conceive after the marriage, which turned out to be perfectly timed.

Speak laters
Regards

[adgal]

I got married for the first time at 37, my husband is the same age.  Neither of us had been married before, nor do either of us have children.  I am now 40 and pregnant with our first child.  It has been a bit more challenging, and I am assuming it has to do with age.  I conceive very easily, but have had trouble carrying full term.  The others advice to you is great.  Keep your body as healthy as you can.  There are so many women here your age and older who have had successful and healthy pregnancies.  The fact that you have regular periods is great news!  36 is still young, and I am sure you will be just fine.  Best of luck to you and welcome!!  Amanda

[GermanBaby]

I got married when I was 36 years old and my husband is 44years. We tried to conceive right when we got engaged. It took 6 months. We conceived the month we got married - I guess God wanted us to be "properly married" first :-) I am due any day now.

I was told that when a man is "older" his sperm move slower so the chances of conceiveing a girl is higher - however in our case we are expecting a little boy.

I think if you try for 6 months and nothing happens I would seek out what could be "wrong". But I am no expert in fertility in "older" people so others can tell you when you should start to be concerned.

[babydoll12]

Hey everyone !!!

Thanks alot for those re asssuring experienced comments and suggestions, over the neverending autobiography which I left back in the post :)

I am at present 35, but I felt I should know more about the pregnancy agenda, as is the fate of every woman (eventually).
The pre natal vitamins and that ovulution strips sounds like a good idea. As I think everything to keep the immune system and hormonal system going.

And my best of wishes and prayers for all you expecting mothers, especially Joanne, I hope you go through with the whole pregnancy very swiftly.
I do understand about the tests as per the age is concerned, and hope I will have to meet fewer than few if none.

Hope to see more communications and replies to my queries (if any arise), from you refined and loving ladies.

Thankyou again and many regards

[SoCalTricia]

You have no history of reproductive problems, so there's no reason to believe you will have issues. Of course, there's just no way to know at this point. You will only know when you start trying. But, rest assured, 36 is very young and you will more than likely be fine! I had children at 21 and 31...thought I was done but married someone who wanted one of "ours". So, here I am, 34 weeks pregnant at 40 years old (I'll be 41 in a couple of weeks). We had no problem getting pregnant (within a month of trying), and my pregnancy has been relatively uneventful (other than the testing due to my age).

Good luck with everything and congrats on your marriage!

Tricia

[prevatt77]

I was 38 when I decided to marry my husband, he had no children of his own.  We tried for two years in that two year period I had 4 miscarriages.  I was able to get pregnant at the age of 40 with my own eggs and delivered my son on my birthday, which made me 41 at delivery.  He is a healthy 6 month old baby boy.  Your age is only 36 which is two years younger then me when I started to try and two years is a lot.  I'm sure you will be just fine when you start to try.  Good luck to you!

Debbie

[oceanv]

Hello,

I just wanted to say welcome.  I wouldn't worry, it sounds like you've never tried to get pregnant (or not)  so really there's no way to tell until you get married and begin that aspect of your life together.  If I were you though I would start pre-natal vitamins now as they recommend starting them BEFORE you try and get pregnant.  Also it would be good to maybe start tracking your cycles so that you know when you're likely ovulating (you can use ovualtion predictor strips / kits for this).

You're really not that old!  In fact your Doctor (once you become sexually active) will probably want you to try for at least six months the old fashioned way before recommending any futher testing. The other ladies on this board will have better information about the testing for you, I didn't have to go that route.

Good Luck,
Joanne
I'm 39, got pregnant in fourth month so really you're going to find that you're one of the younger ones on this list :-O)