before the baby surprise

[denyce89]

Im 39 weeks and a women my boyfriend thats 11years older then me had of course a life before me...a few days before my due date a women came out to him saying that her 11 year old daughter is his and my bf had no clue this is all new to him the kid she claims is 11 yrs old sohahappened way before we ever met...with us having our son sunday I dont know how to feel think or look at him I really cant be angry because it was before me and this women offered to pay for the d.n.a says she wants nothing from him just for the girl to meet her dad but im feeling like I hope its not his and feeling insecure about this what should I do or think????

[denyce89]

It just bothers me this is my first baby im 25 hes 36 this a new to me we got in a huge argument before this came now it's come up she waited 11 yrs like come on...its just bothers me when I know it was way before my time

[maggie574]

I agree...the best thing to do right now is to focus on your baby. I just wanted to add a little food for thought on the waiting 11 years bit. Giving the benefit of the doubt, it could be that the child is finally old enough to demand from her mother a relationship with her father. If that's the case (and maybe even if it's not) try to remember she is an innocent 11 year old in this and deserves protection, love, compassion, and support. Hopefully that is something that you and your bf can work out. The mother can deal with her own mess, but that little girl is probably very confused and hurt.

[denyce89]

Thank you so much...I have thinking about this stressed assuming things its horrible

[lilpianogirl85]

Honestly hun, and I'm not saying this to be mean, but let him deal with it for now. You have so much going on preparing for your own baby. You can always hope he isn't the father but at this point until the DNA test comes back try not to worry about it. Once you get the result and you have settled down with your new born, them you can get involved and deal with it. But until then let him handle it (as long as it doesn't interfere with the baby you are having which is definitely his). Chances are she just wanted attention since she waited 11 years to tell him so just don't give it to her until you know for sure it's his. Good luck with her and your new baby!