paternity matters

[Preggers3]

I am 5 months pregnant
and i had sex with only 2 people 3 days apart
i had sex with the first person for about 45 seconds, we did not use a condom, he was not near ejaculation and had not previously ejaculated earlier either, he also went pee too about 10 seconds before we had sex
the second person i had sex with did not put on a condom until over half way through intercourse, he did go into the condom but i dont know if he had ejaculated earlier on in the day
i cannot and am not taking a prenatal dna test but i cant figure out who the father could be

[Sheri1972]

If you don't want to do a DNA test, find out the blood type of both men, and then wait until your child is born and see if you can tell that way.  Someone I knew had this predicament... he was unsure if he was the father of his wife's baby.  She swore he was.  He wanted a DNA test. She was A type blood.  He was A type blood.  Baby was B type blood.  Oops! ;)  No DNA test needed.

Guess what blood type the suspected father was? :P

Sheri

[popeyesgirl06]

Wow! Another hot topic.  This board just kills me and we are supposed to be grown. As for Preggers3~ I think you already knew the answer to this before you posted. Not always will people say what you want to hear but then again we (as posters) take that chance when we put ourselves out there.

I hope for your sake and the sake of your baby that all works out for the best.

[Regggie]

Along with the paternity test you will need to have, you should also have an AIDS test. Having unprotected sex with multiple partners should cause you worry more about AIDS than paternity. No one ever died from lack of paternity testing......
Good luck to you, seriously.......good luck.

[carpediemforlife]

One - I truly hope you have a healthy baby and happy pregnancy.  

Two - I think you owe it to you and your child to find out as soon as you can who the father is. And it sounds like its what you want to do. And chances are good its the 2nd guy from your details. But a test will tell the tale.

Three - IM SURE YOU ARE AWARE.... please be careful in the future.  Now your decisions will not just affect you but your child as well.

If you need anything from the girls on here....even if its just to vent or ask anything....drop us a line! All the best to you!

[luv2bmommy]

smile baby, it'll be ok! =0)

[have 2 kids]

I don't agree with alot melimeli has to say BUT I was thinking the exact same thing.    I seriously doubt we were the only two to think that.

[denise_m09]

Preggers3,  

I agree with adgal and luv2bmommy, you need to get a paternity test.  I hope you get the results you want.

To melimeli:

Who made you God to come and pass judgement on this young lady?  Does her situation possibly reminds you of a similar situation from your past? Everyone makes mistakes.  Thats just the way the world is.  We aren't here to pass judgement on anyone on this forum.  Women write in to ask questions--to seek help.  This woman didn't come on here to be ridiculed for something she's done.  Its already done, now she will have to deal with it.  And knowing GOD is an awesome GOD, he will help her get through whatever obstacles that comes her way.

I'm pretty sure you've made choices in your life you've regret.  Remember how you felt when someone passed judgement on you.  Like i said before, this is a forum to help, not to bring people down.

I've noticed that you are the only one who had to resort to foul language to get your point across--I wonder what that says about you.

[melimeli]

actually yea I do...  haha... don´t worry about me girlfriend.. if you don´t like how I answer don´t read my posts...  I don´t try to tell you how you should answer questions...  I am about reality.. not trying to be friends with everyone... she said only 2... that is a really f uc ked up way to state things... also... if you want to be like that..

why are you judging her by saying it is a bad decision.. she never said she was sorry about it...  why are you saying it is so wrong?    

see what an idiot you sound like?  We all answer how we like...  if it offends you.. get a thicker skin or stay on the under 35 forum where all is accepted and encouraged

[luv2bmommy]

i agree with adgal, you will have to wait until you can take a paternity test. in the future, practice SAFE SEX!!! seriously, you only have one body!

[luv2bmommy]

do you have an answer to her question or are you just here to rub her bad decision in her face. ever heard of mistake?

[melimeli]

only 2 haha.. what is it usually more???  sick.. heard of aids??

[Preggers3]

thank you =)

[adgal]

The only way you will know for sure is to have a paternity test.  You say you can't have a prenatal one, so I guess you will have to wait until the baby is born.  Its an unfortunate situation.  I hope things turn out ok for you and your baby.