pregnant alone and lonely

[lucky_leo]

i am about to turn 40 and broke up with my boyfriend when he found out i was pregnant, he wanted to have a baby but didn't want to be a man himself, i found out he has been lying to me, dealing and using drugs and doing things behind my back. i would like someone to tell me how to stop feeling so lonely, this man was abusive also, that didn't bother me as much as the lying did but i still am having a very hard time getting over him. he was bad for me in so many ways and is now incarcerated but i CAN NOT stop crying for him and missing him. please help me i feel so alone!

[Marcilyne]

I just feel like crying . . . .

[LosingMyMindInGA]

It's going to take time and the pregnancy hormones aren't helping matters.  I think it would be very beneficial to talk to your ob about what you are feeling.  It could very well be that you have slipped into some degree of depression which is not good for you or the baby.  Your doc can help you manage that.  Just try to keep focused on this blessing growing inside you.

[babydust2009]

Hello Lucky,

CONGRATS to you. Please take of you , and your baby. You have this little Angel inside you that will depend on you to stay calm, and try not to stress. God knows what's going on with you. Trust in hime , and he will take care of you.. You dont want this looser in your life ..We are all here for you.... God Bless you, and your baby......Mary.

[Surprise42]

Sorry to hear that you have been in an abusive relationship and although I wish you were not feeling sad I believe you are now safe and protected now that you ex is now around you and your baby will be safe.  In time you will heal and perhaps find a better someone to help in the life of raising your blessed baby.

[Risa615]

Please read the book, "Codependent No More." It is one of the best books I have read on Codependency.  You will learn alot about yourself and you will realize you deserve more.  I know it is hard to leave a bad relationship, but you are going to be okay.  Congrates on the baby!  The baby needs you to be happy and healthy inside and out.
Risa

[Super_sally888]

Luckyleo,

you are going to live up to your name.  You have broken up with this man because there are better things meant for you and your baby.  It is great that you have broken up now.

I am a single mum.  It is not easy, but it is ok!  You are going to have such a wonderful time with your baby.

Stay busy.  Start gym, prenatal exercise class, painting class, cooking class, scrabble club.  Anything where you can meet and connect to other people. Volunteer at a some community service offered in your community....  again, anything to meet others.

Best wishes and super congratulations.

[PamelaBee]

Hello, congratulations on your pregnancy!  I'm sorry to hear you're going through this.  You don't need me to tell you that you're going through a sea of emotions right now.  Finding out you're pregnant should be one of, if not, the most important and happiest times in your life.  Unfortunately, you have feelings for someone that obviously isn't prepared, mature or ready to undertake such a beautiful and special time.  You need to take care of you, and your baby.  I know it's hard to listen to your head instead of your heart, but you have another life inside you that is completely, and solely 100% dependent on YOU.  What you do or don't do will have grave effects on your baby for the rest of their life, and of course you.  You already know this guy's a loser...he's abusive, a liar...do you want someone like that in your child's life...in yours?  Please....talk to anyone and everyone that will convince you to move on.  Don't undermine your strength, pray for guidance.  Do what's right for you and your child without some messed up, good for nothing but a headache male.  If he's abusive to you....fill in the blanks.  Best wishes to you luckyleo.    

[AnnieBrooke]

I think you don't miss him, you miss the idealized image you had in your mind of him and the relationship; in other words, you're more likely pasting his picture on that image than really reflecting what was.  If you think about it, you are missing what you wish you had, not what you really had.   Build something new for yourself that has in it the things you want -- life with a baby, stability, peace and calm -- and you will see that being with a lying phony was never part of the picture.