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should I quit work?
I'm 7wks, and just had a miscarriage scare last Friday. I took the weekend off work ( retail). My husband's hours are changing at his job, and he will have Monday and Tuesday off now. My boss has said that I might as well forget trying to get those 2 says off. This is our first baby, and I really want time off with hubby. He thinks I should talk to my boss, and if he still refuses to give me the days off, I should just quit. I know the money would come in handy, but do I really need the added stress? We can make it financially with just his paycheck, but the extra money would make it nice to buy more baby items. What should I do?
I think if u can make it without u working then u should quit.u don't need the added stress. I promise everything u need for the baby will come. I like to say god will not bless u with a life without providing wht u need.
If ur hubby is telling u to just quit if u can't get the same days off, then perhaps u should just go with it. At least it'll be a mutual decision u both made and everyone is happy in ur family.
I work in a hardware store. My boss is my uncle, and has always made it possible for us to have 2 days off in a row. We don't really get holiday traffic, in fact or business goes down in the winter. I think I just want out, I'm tired, I've been here 13 years, and I'm just getting burned out. Our business is failing, and no matter what suggestions I make to try to get the business more successful, he ignores me. I feel stressed to the point of breaking trying to get him to listen to me.
I have been in retail management for years and from your bosses perspective giving someone two days of in a row just because they want to be off the same time as their husband is difficult to work out and being as holiday season is about to kick in, it's a unreasonable request (just trying to give you a different perspective not trying to be rude at all). Now if you just requested one of those days it might be a little more practical. Or even say to your boss that you want either Monday or Tuesday off (you don't need both) and it's up to him/her which day they give you off based on the store needs. Your boss is more likely to work with you then. Those days for me have always been the hardest days to get coverage because of the college students and just general availability so if someone with that availability all of a sudden changed it put a strain on the store. Now I don't know if your boss had done other things to justify quitting but try to sit your boss down and talk it out. I'm sure they don't want to loose a good employee right before holiday
Keep the job as long as you can work. Save as much money as you can in the meantime. Babies cost a lot of money! I worked 12 hours shifts full time until a couple of days before my first was born even with an early miscarriage scare. It is good for you to keep moving. Give your husband a list of things to get done for the baby on his days off so that you can have quality time on your mutual time off. But also talk to your doctor...if there is a reason for you to be on bed rest, follow his orders and quit.
I agree with bsconcerned that spending more time with your hubby is a good reason for quiting job. However if some medical condition arises so that you can't continue with your extra workload then definitely you should quit your job.
Do u get benefits with this job such as maternity leave or fmla? If so, under fmla u can have ur doctor put u on a restricted schedule due to health (miscarriage scare) and have him specify number of hours worked per day, am vs. pm and days off. It's paperwork but if u really want to continue to work this is an option he can not refuse.
I should mention that I work for my uncle. He knows I'm pregnant, but still doesn't seem to care that I need to back off from some things work related. I'm thinking about going to part time, that way I can all being some money in, but not have as much stress, hopefully.
Before you quit if say speak to your doctor of potentially placing you on off work orders/bedrest given the miscarriage scare and stress from work could add to ur scare....then after some time u can reevaluate
I decided not to work at all during this pregnancy due to being high risk for gestational diabetes and high blood pressure. I didnt want to take the risk for the health of me or baby when I know that we can make it with just hubbys income alone.
I don't think wanting the same days off as your hubby are good enough reasons to walk out of your job.. that's just my opinion. But the worst case scenario would be you realize how much you need the money then can't get hired anywhere else pregnant. Your financial situation could change over night.. you could end up with added medical bill, not realize how much you have to purchase for your baby.. end up with twins and need a lot more than anticipated.. something with your car or your house etc.
With my first pregnancy, I had a job that was stressful and very inflexible. I quit at 32 weeks, but wish I would have done so earlier. You'll have to weigh the pros and cons for your family, but for me, the reduction in stress and the extra flexibility were worth having to find room in the budget for baby items.
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