spitting up blood

[Njsweetnlight]

I'm currenty 22 weeks pregnant and my husband and I have been arguing lately a lot. I work fulltime on my feet all day and he's looking for a job. Well the past week he's been playing video games and on the computer doing photoshop stuff which he says will bring money in later. Well I asked him to call this job and he started yelling to stop stressing him and to shut up. We then got into a childish yelling match until I got so up set I threw up everywhere due to pregnancy and blood was everywhere. I never threw up blood in my life and especially when I was pregnant. I called the doctor and they said I broke a blood vessel, has anyone ever experienced this before? I'm so stressed that the baby is harmed due to us not handling things as adults. I can't work all day come home clean cook wash clothes and attend school full time and take care of other kids.....NO women is superwomen I wish he would leave!

[goodluckbear13]

Yes I have had almost the same argument. I also throw up blood when upset. Hang in there.

[goodluckbear13]

Yes I have had almost the same argument. I also throw up blood when upset. Hang in there.

[ChristineMP]

(((hug))) I am so sorry. It is hard enough to have all that stress...let alone be pregnant at the same time. You are in my prayers

[mum2beagain]

I had vomiting with blood in my first pregnancy due to severe heartburn. All this stress is not good for you or your baby. I agree some kind of counciling may be a step in the right direction for the two of you

[adgal]

My mom once threw up and broke a blood vessel.  It was scary, but I don't believe it causes any physical harm long term.

The stress is not good for you, pregnant or not.  I also think marital counseling, and perhaps counseling on his own would be beneficial.  Is it something he would agree to?  Also, my primary concern would be for the children that are already here.  This is not the sort of thing they should be witnessing, it is very unhealthy for them.  I will assume there is no violence?  Only you know if this situation is salvagable or not.  You will have to decide whether you can stay in this marriage or not.  As much as I hate to see a family ever break up, sometimes it is for the best.  There is help out there for you if you need it, and yes, most of it is free.  Please take care of yourself.  The current situation sounds so unhealthy for all involved and either he needs to pull it together and help out more, or you need to decide what is best.  It's tough, I have no doubt.  Take good care, and I hope this works out.  

[trying43]

Ask him to go to counciling...its offered free at most churches and most pastors or ministers are certified councilors.  Its a good resource whether u r religious or not and its free!  I know a lot of people can't afford to go so its good info to have.  Hope all gets better soon and good luck to u.

[Njsweetnlight]

Thanks, yes we are married so it makes things harder. I have no family at all in the state I'm in so noone to turn to but this was my house before we got married so that's why I asked him to leave. You are right stress is not good especially when you have another life that can hear and feel evrything.

[trying43]

Im sorry u r dealing with this...do u have family or friendsno that can help?  If he wont leave maybe you could stay elsewhere.  Are y'all married?  If not there are resources that can help u find housing etc. Stress is not a good thing and maybe it would be best to get out of the situation until cooler heads prevail.  Good luck.

Ps.  As far as the blood vessel my dh does that when he is sick and throws up.  Its pretty scary but glad u called about it.