undecided and confused...35 yrs or oldwe responders please

[shihtzulover1000]

I just found out that im 7 weeks along im not in a relationship with the dad he doesn't have any children and is5 years younger than me. We have been friends for a long time and are both hard working and financially responsible. However he is worried about the major lifestyle changes a baby will bring. I have2 kids already 18 and10 can't decide what to do. Any advice?

[1Truckinmom]

Oh and I'm 37 lol

[1Truckinmom]

My daughter turned 18 in March and I'm 20w5d and the sperm donor has high tailed it out of site! I'm doing it all by myself with my daughters help. The dad wanted me to get an abortion  but I could not do it and live with myself so I decided to do it alone. I have faith it will all work out. One thing that terrifies me tho is when I have to go on maternity leave cause I don't have any short term insurance because my company doesn't even offer it. I'm scared we will loose everything we have but  goin to try my best in the mean time. Not sure if this helps but just know you're not the only one in this situation. It will all be ok! :)

[radiocat9]

I'm 39yrs and having my first baby. I'm friends with the dad and we are not together but we are coparenting. We are lucky to have a situation where I can move to his house for my maternity leave, to help with costs and he is willing to contribute financially for food, school, etc because it's his baby too. After the baby is born and I'm ready to go back to work, I might move out again. When I stop breast feeding we are sharing custody so I have some days each week that I can work. I'm lucky that I have a coparent I know and trust so well and the baby will be very loved. It's a modern world with so many choices so think about what you both want and what's best for the baby and make your own decision. One but of advice though, talk everything through, don't be afraid to ask for help, then talk everything through again later so you are really clear about what you've decided to do. Some people who aren't in a relationship get a legal document drawn up to avoid any future problems. Just search yourself and be honest with each other about what your ideal situation would be.

[Star3789]

I'm almost 18 weeks now but I anguished over making the decision in the beginning, I'm 39 with health issues and money problems, I also have two teens (who r mad about me having another baby).  But nnow I am so happy and can't wait for my baby :)  it might take some time to figure this out, it took me a couple months of flip flopping.

[sarah2272]

Its a hard decision you have in front of you. But sometimes its good to think of what the positive side is... there's almost never an ideal time to have a baby. .but somehow we women seem to make it work. ..

[1adrienne]

No one can decide for you, but I can tell you your not alone. I'm on my 2nd marriage, already have 3 kids that live with us my husband has 3 ( not living with us). Now were having twins, I'm 35 youngest is 10. Were happy and know we will work it out. Going to try the stay at home thing. If we can't do it, then I'll go back to work. Good luck to you!

[shihtzulover1000]

Yes he will support my decision 100% im also certain he will do his best to be a good father. Im worried mostly because I don't have any family except for my kids and just concerned about how i would work it out with childcare. Considering for now I work nights. I do love children but also afraid to start over. :/

[Jrob0530]

Decision is all yours. I'm in the same situation in reverse, he has teens I don't have any and we both have good jobs. I decide this is what I want and he's had my back 100% but we have both kept our own places. Baby steps literally and I couldn't be happier :)
Currently 35 weeks..

[kcwayman]

Your the only one who can make that decision. Do you want to raise another child? Does he want to be involved?