Oh my gosh...I SOOOO feel your pain. I could have written your post. This pregnancy, for me, has been an emotional train wreck. My husband and I will absolutely NOT have any more kids because I seriously think we would end up divorced. I can absolutely relate to your feelings of despare and depression. And, although there are brief flashes of happiness, your overall demeanor is just BLUE, right?
I started taking Zoloft about a month ago. It has helped somewhat, but I think my dosage needs to be raised. (I'm only taking 12.5 mg.) The other thing that has helped is physical activity - even thought it's the LAST thing you want to do. And I've gone to a counselor a few times. And, honestly, girl...if you want to cry, just CRY. Write down what you're feeling even if you never show it to anyone. Sleep if you need to sleep. Do what you need to do to get through the day. I really wish I could hug you right now, because, like I said, I have been right where you are through most of this pregnancy.
And I can also relate to the money issues. My husband blew out his knee playing softball right after I got pregnant. He had a total ACL repair in January and has been on disability since then. Because he had been laid off so many times in the previous quarter (he's a carpenter), his didn't qualify for much disability. Needless to say, the burden of paying ALL the bills has fallen on me. And while I'm not losing my job, we are facing furloughs (hours without pay - basically forced time off), which will take a decent chunk out of my check. And I'll probably be on disability myself in a few weeks. So....I really do know what you're going through.
If you need to talk, feel free to message me. And hang in there, sweetie. My mother has always said that when you look forward with good intentions, good things fall into place. Periods of difficulty ALWAYS pass, as long as you keep your eye on a positive future. Good luck, dear....
Tricia
First, I'm really sorry that you are feeling like this. Depression is an awful thing to have and worse, when no one seems to understand around you.
I know that there are safe medications (I think, but won't swear to, that wellbutrin is one of them), but I think your first course of action would be to schedule an appointment with your OB/GYN. If he/she dismisses this as typical pregnancy symptoms, contact another doctor (a family doc or internist may be able to help, too!). Don't stop until someone listens to you.
I've been where you are (not with the pregnancy on top of it, but the feelings) and you are right, therapy isn't enough. Sometimes, I just need to the meds for long enough to feel like I can combat it on my own, again. But it's better to get this addressed now then before the baby comes and your hormones do even more to your mental state!
Good luck and I'll keep you in my prayers!