A blessing or a curse?

[YvetteY]

I just got off the phone with my DH.  He's pretty stressed out at work these days and he said he was thinking of taking his full 12 weeks off for baby bonding time.   My first reaction was "Oh my goodness, NO!".   I think he will drive me nuts.  What's your opinion about being at home for 12 weeks with your husband.   Geez!

[adgal]

As much as I adore my husband, I don't see it working at our house..lol.  Especially with a new baby...he is one of those men that can't seem to do or find anything without asking me now.  I swear to God, the longer we are married, the more incapable he seems to become..lol. Nope, love him to pieces, but he would drive me crazy!!  A week or two would be nice though.  

[SoCalTricia]

I'm with Rachel and Whirlygirl. I'd love to be able to spend 12 weeks with my husband. He has actually been off work for four months because he had knee surgery. He's going back to work next week. But, it has been great having him home. He cleans, cooks, does laundry...our son has never had better grades and he has excelled at baseball this spring. We've gone on several camping trips, and all I have to do is throw my clothes in a bag and leave! On top of all of that, he really is my best friend and my favorite person in the world to spend time with. I'd love to have that first 12 weeks with him and our baby to bond!

Tricia

[YvetteY]

Well we shall see what happens....I will cross that bridge when I get to it.  Initially it freaked me out.  Don't get me wrong I like when he's around, but he starts to drive me nuts with all his golf stuff.  Well who knows, he may suprise me and/or he could just be saying that he's taking the 12 weeks off because he's having a stressful week.   We'll see, right!!  

[usuk]

my first thought is...would he really be home for 12 weeks non stop? when i worked at home i had grandiose ideas of how much i could accomplish. but in the end life took over and i was not really at home as often as i thought. i would say tell him that is a lovely idea and hope either it goes well, or after 3-4 weeks the novelty wears off and he goes back to work.

[whirlygirl734]

I agree with rdh1981 100%!!!!!  My hubby is a saint to have around the house!!  He does laundry, dishes, vacumns..everything!!!    And I don't even ask him to do it.. he just likes to help out!  It may help that he was single and already owned his own home at age 21 and had to do all of those things himself. :)      He works the norm 7-5pm mon-fri..but I love the days that he gets to come home early.  I would love it if he could spend more time at home; Especially after the baby comes!!!!!  And so would he!!!   And like rdh said...he would get the clue when to "go work in the garage"!   LOL  Even so, it's not like just cuz he is at home we would be connected at the hip..I am sure he would go do his thing and I would go do mine. But, it sure is nice when we both meet up in the kitchen and he is right there to plant a big kiss on my forehead in the middle of the day!!! :)   Okay, now I miss my hubby.    High Five rdh.. I think we got pretty lucky to have such wonderful men!  

[rdh1981]

Okay, I hate to sound sappy here, but my hubby is my very best friend and I would love to have 12 weeks home with him. He knows how to read me better then anyone else, so I think he would get the clue on when it is time to "go work in the garage"! I think it would be awesome!

When Cooper was in the hospital, Scott and I spent 7 weeks straight together and he was my absolute rock, so I think it would be even more amazing to do it in a less stressful situation.

By the way we are not just starting out. I have been with him since I was 14 (married for 5 1/2 years), so believe me this not just "puppy love" talk!

[jenstam]

2-3 weeks is nice. After that it's nice for them to go back to work and have special time with baby. My DH was home for 6 weeks with the birth of our son. I was sad to see him go back after 6 weeks off but then enjoyed my alone time with our son as well. We got a little testy with each other after a few weeks.

[Helen72]

You will need all the help you can get!

[kellym]

CURSE! ha ha, My dh is home a lot. Although for my 3rd C-section I did tell him he could stay home for 2 weeks, I think. No More!

[mlb1234]

That would definitely be a curse!! lol!

[YvetteY]

Yeah I know.....I think I could take about two to three weeks with him 24/7.   But maybe Diabolicafemmia is right about using him to sneak off for a nap and what not.  I suppose he may be more helpful than he normally is.  




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[YvetteY]

Oh that's right you DH is in military.  That would be crazy.  I know Ioved it when my Dh got stuck up in Alaska for three weeks.  But I did start to miss him after two.  The house stayed so clean and I just had to worry about myself! It was pretty nice.

[Diabolicafemmia]

you may have a different viewpoint when you are able to sneak away for naps and send him to the store when you dont feel up to it.... but alas...I would go crazy. I have a hard enough time adjusting to him being home AT ALL, he returned in Dec from his (3rd) 15mo deployment!

[udbe2]

I think I could handle a few weeks but I would have to agree with Tanker... anything more would drive me nuts espcially if you have other family member's there too.  

[Tanker Chic]

A couple of weeks would be nice, but after that, I think he would drive me nuts... :)