Single friends fading away now that I'm pregnant

[sam_mommy]

I'm 5 months pregnant with my first baby which I am really happy about. My husband is a wonderful man and we have a great relationship. The problem is that ever since we were married last year, my two single best friends have been distancing themselves from me. They stopped calling and seem to never answer their phones. They are also never available for visiting anymore. I'm pretty sure I haven't done anything to offend them and I'm really hurt by their behaviour. When we were all single together they used to talk very negatively about their married friends or their friends with babies.

We used to be super close and now that they have (as I see it) terminated our friendship I don't have anyone to talk to about how I'm feeling or the things in my life that I just need to talk over with a girlfriend. The pregnancy has really been amazing, but loads of issues have also been coming up and I feel very lonely not being able to talk about them with a girlfriend, especially one that knows my past. Should I confront them about their withdrawal? Or should I just write them off?

[inlovewithhubby]

I'd like to text with you. I have 9 children and am pregnant with 10th. Sometimes I would like to talk with other expectant women especially since I'm surrounded with children 24/7.

[tripletsmom7]

I completely feel you, goings through a issue like that with a few of my friends.  But, then I realized this is a very exciting and important time in my life, an if they don't wanna be apart of it that's fine.  I've always been there for them no matter what, and now shoe's on other foot I don't get same.  So I just stop worrying about them calling or coming to visit.  I'm 5 months with triplets and got important things to worry about.  Plus meet cool cool woman off here an we text every two days and it really helps.  Also these forums and doing research helps.  I wish you they best and if you needs somebody to talk to im here :)

[sam_mommy]

Thanks, these have been really helpful. Since my post I have accepted the fact that my single friends are drifting away; and I realised too that it is difficult to share my pregnancy experiences with them because they just don't have anything to say on the matter (not having experienced it themselves).

Hubby and I have recently met a lovely family that we get along with really well and I am finding it great to have a woman to talk to who's been there and done that (have kids). It's lovely to share stories about our pregnancies and it is really nice to have someone to learn from too.

[cookies44]

Also I have enjoyed these forums to talk to people.

[cookies44]

Also I have enjoyed these forums to talk to people.

[cookies44]

I have been there well still am. Once I got married last August and found out I was pregnant in November of last year, my "friends" disappeared. Actually my really close best friend. I confronted her once about how she hadn't talked much and she apologized and all but did it again and so I just let it go and realized I was so much better of without her or her twin sister who had already shut us out a year before because she is stuck up her boyfriends butt.  Now I just focus on family and my baby boy due in a few weeks. Plus I am the kind that I am best friends with my animals because they don't talk LOL.  So if your close with family it will help.