Trisomy 13

[English70]

I am 41 yrs old.  I am 13 weeks pregnant and had a nuchal fold measurement of 5.6 with no signs of nasal bone.  CVS done last week and I received the call this morning that the baby was Trisomy 13 and not viable to life.  Anyone else been through this?  We would like to conceive again, what are the chances of this happening again? Not sure I could go this hell again.

Thanks so much for your stories as I am heartbroken!

[Greetac]

I am 26+ weeks pregnant with a T13 baby boy.    He has many complications and probably will not live long past birth.  I know this post is from a couple of years ago.  I am wondering how you are doing?  And did you go on to have another baby?

[stacey10]

I have been thinking about how the two of you have been getting along, I wasnt sure if you would come back on to post and glad that you have,  I have to agree with you, thank goodness your little one passed by herself, that would be a little (not much) comfort to know, but in a way makes it a little bit more bearable.... it will take time, but when your ready, you will know, I wish you all the best for both your  physical and emotional recovery, we are all here for you :)

[English70]

So my procedure has come and gone.  I miss the little girl I never got to hold or see so much.  I take one day at a time as that's all I can seem to do at this point in my life.  I thank God that her heart stopped on it's on a couple of days before my D & E, made things a little easier to take.  This was one of the most difficult things I have ever had to face in my whole life.  I look forward to the months to come as I will try again for the baby I so desperately want.

[cutter1974]

I am thinking of both of you on this day and what you are growing thru.  I am sending you loving thoughts.  

[buggie216]

My thoughts are with the both of you...im so sorry for your losses :(

[stargazy]

My thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time. We had to make the same decision in 2009 with a natural pregnancy and positive for trisomy 18, and just had D&C last week at 10 weeks after U/S without heartbeat after a donor egg transfer.
The outpouring of support from my MH friends has been a tremendous comfort to me. Please reach out of you need to talk! Hugs!!

[stacey10]

am thinking of you both

[Baladi]

English,

My heart goes out to you.  I am at 22 weeks and my little girl has been diagnosed with Trisomy 18.  It has been the most painful thing I have ever endured--this would have been my husband's first child (my second but I really wanted to give him one).  Know that everything you're feeling is OK; I have gotten great support at the trisomy18.org site.  As someone already mentioned, I can see that livingwithtrisomy13.org has a support forum as well.  Take advantage of connecting with others who have suffered through this.  Many of them have wonderful happy stories about subsequent successful pregnancies after the loss of their child.

My own procedure is scheduled for tomorrow.  It is the hardest decision I have ever made, but I understand why it needs to be done.  My thoughts are with  you for a speedy medical--and emotional--recovery.

[Zaidd]

I am sorry to hear what you are going through, don't give up hope...
God bless.

[English70]

This has truly been the most difficult thing that I have ever had to go through in my entire life.  Thanks to all your sweet comments as they have brought me much comfort.

[sadiegirl69]

I am sorry...This must be so hard for you.  

[English70]

FISH results are positive also.....

[sadiegirl69]

But, given the nuchal fold and nasal bones in conjunction with the CVS, they test may be correct.  I am so sorry.  I know it must be heartbreaking.

[sadiegirl69]

Have you done any research on cvs?? You might want to look into some of the controversies surrounding this test.  I have a friend who had this test and was misdiagnosed with trisomy 18. She went for a second opinion and waited foe the amnio, which has a much better diagnostic success rate. Needless to say she had a healthy baby. I am NOT trying to give false hope,  bit this particular test is controversial.  The theory is that the placenta "quarenteens" bad cells so you will get a high level of false positives. There may be a reason you haven't miscarried yet. Just put your mind at ease and look into it.

[cutter1974]

You are in my thoughts!
I just recently had 2 miscarriages in a row and had DNC's both times.  I understand the frustration on waiting and loss.  *hugs* to you.

[cutter1974]

You are in my thoughts as well.  I just had 2 miscarriages in a row and had DNC's both times. And I understand the pain and frustration on waiting and loss. *hugs* to you!

[stacey10]

thinking of you x

[Ecologic]

I am a bit surprised that they waited so long to schedule the D&C, knowing the results. I have had 2 D&Cs and they were always scheduled for the next day - it makes it a bit easier psychologically.

I'll keep you in my thoughts!

[ChristineMP]

correction it was livingwithtrisomy13 .org

[ChristineMP]

You are so in my thoughts and prayers. I honestly cannot even imagine the pain you are in (((hug)))

I read some about Trisomy 13 after I read your post...so incredibly, unimaginably sad. I found a website that offers Trisomy 13 education and support...trisomy13 .org I think it was...good info

[English70]

So.... I got the call today, my procedure is set for Wednesday.  I was also told my little one is a GIRL!  So many thoughts running through my head at this time but one sticks out over them all...... I will never rock her to sleep.  Please continue to keep me in all of your thoughts and prayers.....

[Pum]

I'm so sorry you're going through this. After the d&c just take one day at a time and be ready for some symptoms from the drop in hormones. I underestimated what that would be like.

Take care.

[English70]

Thanks to you all for your sweet comments and advise.....still waiting for the D and E procedure to be scheduled.