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circumcision debate
Hello everyone,
Dh and I have been debating this for a while. I don't want our boy to be circumcised because I don't think its necessary. But, he's worried that our boy will be teased at school if he's not - he thinks most boys are circumcised. What is the "norm" these days ? Thanks for your opinions !
Dh and I have been debating this for a while. I don't want our boy to be circumcised because I don't think its necessary. But, he's worried that our boy will be teased at school if he's not - he thinks most boys are circumcised. What is the "norm" these days ? Thanks for your opinions !
i have 5 boys none are circumised ok, not once have they been teased. if its not medical reason to get it done leave it be. cleanliness wise if there tought to wash properlly then they will be fine too. best of luck and tell your husband its not often done and he may get teased for being done ok has he thought of that one. decades ago yes they all had it done but sweety were now in the 20th centery. ask your hubby to join us lol its good for him to care so much lol...
We didn't discuss what we expected a circumcision to look like. The doctor only took a little off the end, his 'anteater'. The doctor said it would prevent ballooning and infections, the little guy could pee straight and it shouldn't get caught in his zipper. What else did we want? Circ here is 85% and we wanted it to look like a circ. But we let it go, and it was fine, so when the next little guy came along, he got a little off the end. The boys are nine and eleven now. They look and function intact without the common problems and frustrations a long or tight foreskin can cause. No complaints from the boys. I've known guys who hated their anteater foreskins, so I call a little off the end intact improved.
Actually, we had our first son done, but our 2nd son NOT circumcised. we chose to let him grow up and when he's a teen we'll let him choose to get it done or not. My first son needed it because of his skin disorder and risk of infections and stuff.
DH is circumcised also.
It's around 200-300 to get it done here and they only do it before 1mo old. When he was 3w old we thought he was WAY too aware to get it done since they don't use any anestesia.
DH is circumcised also.
It's around 200-300 to get it done here and they only do it before 1mo old. When he was 3w old we thought he was WAY too aware to get it done since they don't use any anestesia.
We just had our sone done last week.....He would have had it done in the hospital but was born preemie so we had to wait a bit. I live in Ontario and paid $240.00. My hubby is but the only reason we had it done was because his much younger cousin (10) wasn't and kept getting infections so he had to have it done last year and boy did he suffer. He walked around with toilet paper tolls in between his legs. Little munchie didn't even cry, none of the babies cried that morning that we had it done. It's healing well and he never even seemed to notice that anything had happened. It's such a personal choice. i hope that you and your hubby can come to an agreement. Either way, he'll be just fine :)
Take care
Take care
I haven't faced this issue personally because I only have daughters, but two of my friends recently had boys and neither one of them were circumcised. I think it's not as common in the US as it was when most of our husbands were babies. Back then they were saying formula was better than breastmilk too.
My opinion was that I'd let my son stay uncut as a baby: if he wanted to be circumcised, he could have it done, but if he wanted to be uncircumcised he couldn't have his foreskin sewn back on.
My opinion was that I'd let my son stay uncut as a baby: if he wanted to be circumcised, he could have it done, but if he wanted to be uncircumcised he couldn't have his foreskin sewn back on.
melimeli....LOL.
When my son was circ'd, they used a topical numbing gel. Didn't help a bit. I think using the excuse that it's for sanitary purposes may have been valid back in the days when houses didn't have running water but I think we should all be able to keep ourselves clean in 2010. I work in a nursing home and the worst thing I've seen on an uncirc'd penis is that old men with dementia need help keeping it clean.
When my son was circ'd, they used a topical numbing gel. Didn't help a bit. I think using the excuse that it's for sanitary purposes may have been valid back in the days when houses didn't have running water but I think we should all be able to keep ourselves clean in 2010. I work in a nursing home and the worst thing I've seen on an uncirc'd penis is that old men with dementia need help keeping it clean.
ok, maybe its my lack of sleep, but when melimeli posted something about "men all over the word" and their "private parts falling off " I just got a visual and laughed. If that did happen, Michelangelo's sculptures would be altered. They could just put a leaf in front of the thing...
again, apoligize in advance for humor on delicate subject due to lack of sleep with newborn twins... : P
again, apoligize in advance for humor on delicate subject due to lack of sleep with newborn twins... : P
Ok this was on another circumcision thread we had about a year ago.. I remember because the video is very telling I hope you watch it...
by crysandjeff, Jan 31, 2009 09:29PM
People often circ for the what if's.What if he gets an infection and he has to be cut as a teenager. Well, what if. We dont cut our little girls breasts off because she could get cancer. It is unnecessary and I applaud Canada for making you wait two weeks and pay for it. I wish that people would leave this for boys to decide when they are older. I can not think of one man that would sign up for it so why would we do it to them? Would you,given the option, remove your baby's ear. Then why part of his penis.A part I must add that covers the sensitive, nerve filled glands and protects them. Men who have been circumsized lose sensitivity in their penis' and therefore there sex life is altered. Babies are given, at best a burning injection to dull the pain.If an adult needed his foreskin removed he would be knocked out and then given narcotic pain relief, no such relief is offered to babies.Follow this link, watch the video and decide for your self , I could not even watch the whole think it makes me sick.:http://www.dailymotion.com/video/x1yzx6_birth-as-we-know-it-circumcision_people
by crysandjeff, Jan 31, 2009 09:29PM
People often circ for the what if's.What if he gets an infection and he has to be cut as a teenager. Well, what if. We dont cut our little girls breasts off because she could get cancer. It is unnecessary and I applaud Canada for making you wait two weeks and pay for it. I wish that people would leave this for boys to decide when they are older. I can not think of one man that would sign up for it so why would we do it to them? Would you,given the option, remove your baby's ear. Then why part of his penis.A part I must add that covers the sensitive, nerve filled glands and protects them. Men who have been circumsized lose sensitivity in their penis' and therefore there sex life is altered. Babies are given, at best a burning injection to dull the pain.If an adult needed his foreskin removed he would be knocked out and then given narcotic pain relief, no such relief is offered to babies.Follow this link, watch the video and decide for your self , I could not even watch the whole think it makes me sick.:http://www.dailymotion.com/video/x1yzx6_birth-as-we-know-it-circumcision_people
ummmm that majority of the world doesn't get circumcised and I don't see their privates falling off from disease haha... I think that is a lame excuse as most of the world doesn't do it.
It is a personal choice, however, keep in mind that there is risk of infection and other medical problems to those uncircumcised, throughout life. From a medical standpoint, yes it's best, from a personal standpoint, we had our little one done and he didn't even flinch. They use a local numbing agent and our child was completely oblivious to what was going on. No facial expressions, no crying, etc......
Hope that helps.
Hope that helps.
Thanks for all your responses - really really appreciate it !
Going to get dh to read them and then we'll continue our discussion. I figure if uncirc - we just have to teach our boy to clean himself properly - just like we'd teach little girls to wipe front to back.
Going to get dh to read them and then we'll continue our discussion. I figure if uncirc - we just have to teach our boy to clean himself properly - just like we'd teach little girls to wipe front to back.
No circs for our boys. Their daddy was done at 2 years old...remembers it vividly and would never want to do it to his boys, his younger brother wasn't done. Worldwide far fewer men are not circumcised than are. Hygiene is only an issue if boys are not taught to clean themselves once the foreskin retracts which for my oldest happened naturally when he was 6 1/2.
I initially was going to have our son cir'd but after reading the literature and finding out the facts I decided not to! My husband is from south America and they don't do it in his home country ( only if for religious reasons if you are Jewish or Muslim I believe) and am fine with it. I think they originally started practicing that here in this country when they thought it would be healthier, but now reasearch has shown that to not be supported.
LOL meli. The funny thing is that my husband can't believe it is done routinely to little boys, either, and he's circumcised. After we had made the decision not to have it done to our son, my husband would comment when changing our son's diaper about how glad he was that we hadn't harmed him. It is not like men are across-the-board incapable and must have surgery done because they are too stupid to wash under their foreskin and take precautions against STDs.
This exact same post is up on the Aug '10 Mommies boards. I had my first son circ'd because I didn't know anything about it and my hubby wanted it. I have 4 younger brothers who aren't circ'd so I wasn't quite prepared. You can imagine my face when they brought him to me afterward. :O. My father was circ'd around 5 years old and I think it traumatized him. He refused to have my brothers done. So, when we had our 2nd son I did my research and had my hubby come with me to talk to the pediatrician, midwife and L&D nursees. They all told him it was purely cosmetic and there can be complications so we decided against it. I hadn't given a lot of thought to the social norms. My brothers never reported having problems and 2 of them were in the military. My boys have noticed the difference in each other but that's about it. I did look up percentages though. It varies depending on where you live. The national average is 65%.
In my mommies group where there are 12 moms, 8 of which had girls and 4 had boys i know that 2 of the boys are circumsized, i'm in bc so they had to pay $400 neither experienced any complications.
We circumised Cruz without thinking twice about it! I just think it is a healthy decision! An uncircumised man can carry HPV and not even know it, this could later affect his future wife! Iknow why people choose not to, but for us it was an easy decision!
Hi Sue...I have two boys 21 and 18 I did not have them circumsised either because I to felt it unnecessary.....I have spoken with both of them because I needed to know if I should have this one done if a boy...they said the didnt get picked on in school and they dont mind it at all...
I'm told by my sister that the little boys in her sons' groups of friends are about half of them circumcised and half not. My teenage nephews are not circumcised, and when we were making this decision about our son, I asked them about the teasing angle. They didn't know what I was talking about, apparently guys find other things to tease each other about nowadays than they did when I was in high school. My husband is circumcised but he didn't want our son to be.
We circumcised both our boys. Mainly becuase DH is and I didn't want them to feel "different". It is still more common here in the US but is definately becoming less so. There are some states where medicaid won't even cover a circumcision.
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