f/u visit after m/c-help

[Luckejem]

Hi ladies, well just an update. As many of you know, I lost my baby on Nov 14 and today I went to my f/u visit.  My records were transfered over to my doctor and yet, no answers to why I m/c'd. The doctor told me that it could have been an infection or my fibroids but now he is telling me that I might have some polyops which can cause an infection and now he  wants me to wait 2 cycles so they can perform a saline sonogram. I was like "what  the hell.." he also said that if I do have polyps it might have to be removed. At that time, I wanted to scream but instead asked him if there was anything else. Guess what.. there was something else. He also said that due to 2 terminations in my past I could also have an incompetent cervix, (OMG, is God punishing me). I like to think that as women, we do what we have to do-- did I think wrong. Anyway, has any of you ladies experienced anything like this, will appreciate any input, Thanx a bunch..!

[YvetteY]

Hi...I am sorry about your M/C.  You do know that they happen for various reason....and most likely not the reasons your doctor told you.  You probably miscarried due to your age.  Did you see a reproductive endocrinologist or just a plain ob/gyn.  

You could have miscarried due to hormonal reasons, and/or bad egg.  More than likely the later.  I've had 5, starting trying when i was 39/40.  Now I firmly believe all my miscarriages were due to "old" eggs.  Research miscarriages and read a book about it.  It will really help.  

God isn't punishing you...never think that.  In fact I don't think he has too much to do with all of this...it's just our bodies and how they work.   Good luck and keep trying...you're still young enough so keep trying .    See an infertility doctor to give the process a boost.  

[adgal]

First off, I do not believe you are being punished for anything.  You obviously did what you felt you had to at the time, what you felt was best.  You are the only one that can say if your decision was the right one.  I have no doubt it was a difficult decision, and that you did what you felt you had to.  Please don't beat up on yourself. Also, a termination is similar to a D&C, and I have now had 2 of those.  I have heard a lot of conflicting opinions, but my OB (my old one and new one) have continued to reassure me that if done properly by a physician, they should not have any long term negative affects (as long as there were no complications).  I believe the same is true of a termination.

I am also currently going through testing, although in my case it is first trimester m/c, so a bit different.  In a situation like yours, although it sounds scary and frustrating, in some ways its better to wait.  That way, hopefully they can come up with an answer for you, and do what needs to be done to prevent it happening again.  Think of the peace of mind it will give you next time you are pregnant.  I hope you get the answers you need, and I am sure all will work out well.  In the meantime, you are in my thoughts and prayers.  

(((Hugs)))

Amanda