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having another baby right away??
My son is 19 days old & my husband told me today he wants another one right away because he wants a total of 3 kidskids. I really want to wait before having another baby but he doesn't. I tried to convince him to wait at least a yr but it didn't work. I don't mind having another one but not right away. We are both 32 yrs old & he wants to be done having kids by the age of 35. I love my husband & want to give him what he wants but not as quick as he wants them. Any suggestions on what to do or say?
I think your husband panics about the age. I'm 37 yrs old and 25 weeks pregnant with my first one. My husband is 41. I know some will say we are old parents. Who cares? We feel young and having kids later will keep us young.
We will definitely try to have another baby in a couple of years.
Btw, I think that men need more time to grow up and mature to understand complicated laws of nature ;)
My advice: trust your instincts and listen to your body more than you listen to your husband's demands.
Didn't mean to be harsh, just reasonable.
Good luck!
We will definitely try to have another baby in a couple of years.
Btw, I think that men need more time to grow up and mature to understand complicated laws of nature ;)
My advice: trust your instincts and listen to your body more than you listen to your husband's demands.
Didn't mean to be harsh, just reasonable.
Good luck!
I was told after my misscarriage that I should wait atleast a year for my body to go back to normal before trying again. Pregnancy takes a big toll on your body. You dont want complications.
I was told after my misscarriage that I should wait atleast a year for my body to go back to normal before trying again. Pregnancy takes a big toll on your body. You dont want complications.
Getting the dr.s' imput is a good idea. I wouldnt recommend going behind his back and getting a depo shot. That could really hurt your relationship. But im sure if he had a better understanding from a medical perspective what your body has gone through and needs to heal from he may see reason.
He wants a girl now? Good. Tell him he gets what he gets and if it's another boy, it's his fault...LOL. Before you both bring another child into the world. You BOTH need to be on board...period. I know there are times in life when "things happen" and we have to make the best of those, but is bullying you into having another child right away really a reasonable solution? I have two children 20 months apart, now 14 and 15. I am 38 and pregnant again with my third. I did have issues getting pregnant, but the issues were not mine...they were my husbands. Against the odds, we did it on our own without meds or interventions. I am 16 weeks old, and other than some recent bouts of morning sickness, I feel great! What's the rush? Take each day as it comes.
Bullying often results in resentment. I'm glad he has agreed to wait. I hope he honors that, and you. Take care.
Bullying often results in resentment. I'm glad he has agreed to wait. I hope he honors that, and you. Take care.
I think your husband needs to think about your health. Physically and mentally. Sure you may love your husband, but hopefully he will love you enough to see the importance of waiting. I'd say a year minimum. Your not some baby producing machine! Sounds like he has some underlying reasons as started before. Having children after 35 is certainly not old! We are expecting our 4th and I am 41 (42 by the time baby gets here) and my husband is 50. Of course there is a lot to be said for getting your child rearing days behind you...but rushing it will be hard on you physically and emotionally.
I know I have to wait 6 weeks before having sex, but according to my doctor I can't get on birth control until 8 weeks....just hoping nothing happens in that 2 week time frame. I had my son natural. I want to wait a yr so that I'm able to enjoy my son as much as possible. I also have a 14 yr old & a 9 yr old & I think that's the reason why my husband wants to have another right away because of the big gaps in between all 3 kids. I will try my best to convince my Dr to give me suggestions on ways I can't get pregnant right away & talk to my husband some more about why we should wait. Thx everyone for your ideas.
Thanks everyone. Yes we are waiting 6 weeks to have sex, but as I explained to my husband, I want to enjoy our newborn son & having another one right away won't allow me to. He did finally agree to wait 6 months to a yr to try to have another one. He wants a girl now. I had my son natural, no c-section but I would at least want to wait 1 yr before even trying. I did talk to my Dr about birth control & she said I have to wait 8 weeks...just hope nothing happens between my 6th to 8th week lol
Tell your husband to relax and to give your body time to relax and also give your self time to get use to the baby and the financial part and when you and him are more stable health and money wise then think
I think u should wait at least Six months to give ur body time to heal ! Men have no clue what it is to carry a baby for nine long months and give birth!! Your the one who has to feel ready for that again. .not the man! I would get on some type of birth control if u feel he will try sooner then ur ready for it and maybe have the doctor talk to him about how ur body needs a healing period !
I agree with your husband, especially if u plan on having more kids. They will go up close together being near in age. Also, you probably won't have a problem conceiving another now, but if you wait, it may be harder.
You can suggest that you wait for baby to grow then in 2 years time you can have a doctor assisted twins conception, if he can afford it. He can try saving money during the 2 years while you are enjoying your baby growing, am sure you will be meeting him halfway :-) keep us posted.
Did u have a natural birth or c-section? cause with c-section d doc recomended to wait 1-2 years becausevof the scar...my husbang is 40 and we had teins 5 month ago and he is doing well!"try to talk to him see if he is scared to have baby when he is pass 35 yrs old...even if u wait 1 and half to 2 years in betwen kids you will be done by 36 at least...I dont see whats wrong with that....try to see whats underlying his mind...must be something...I dont know if you should push it where u just take d control with contraception tools just yet!!and wait few weeks...u have a newborn....he might change his mind along the next few weeks asbur baby grow.....
And he is still alive lol. i think i would tell him if he could carry the child then feel free to have another. you just carried a baby for 9 months and went through labor. your body needs time to recover and to get used to being a mom. Alot of work falls on the mother and its your body.
Totally agree with Flickan... If all else fails and the man won't listen, get on the depo needle or implant to protect you until your ready to nurture another child inside of your body whilst nursing a newborn. Its your body that's gotta give home what he wants so I'd say you have the last say :) hope you find your solution x x
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