just curious if Im alone on this.

[mommyof3goingon4]

I have 3 children already. When they were babies I slept with them in the bed next to me, never had any problems, I was somehow aware of everything going on with the baby. I am re-married now and my husband has never had any kids. We were talking about where to put the baby crib, and I told him that I would probably just end up with the baby in bed with us. He looked at me like I was crazy, and said "wouldn't you roll over on him?" So I was wondering how many other moms would be okay with the baby in your bed, and how many moms are opposed to that?  

[MissouriMommaofthree]

I will Co sleep with my baby.  We will move to a different room because of night diaper changes and whatever else we do in the night.  Hubby gets a good rest this way.  I am a stay at home mom.  We have a three year old as well.  She does okay sleeping in her own bed.  But her and I co - slept for almost three years.  I don't drink or do drugs.  If I was under the influence of something then no I would not Co - sleep.  Co - sleeping is a wonderful way to get good rest and baby sleeps better too, with mommy.  Tried to put my firstborn in a different room in a crib.  What a nightmare.  Finally gave up and we all slept better.

[Kathy2015]

Bypassing most of the posts. Sorry.
I haven't asked my bf about this. I need to do that. Thank you for posting this because I forgot about it.
I do bring my baby in bed in the middle of the night. My ex worked nights so it wasn't much of an issue but I will have to see with this father. He likes to elbow me in the head when I'm sleeping so it might not be a great idea.

[mommyof3goingon4]

I thank everyone for your points of view, and opinion's! Obviously there are pro's and con's to both crib sleeping and co-sleeping. I think that the important thing is that the parents are always paying attention to what is going on with their little one and think about safety issues. I hope the very best for you all and your babies!  :)

[mommyof3goingon4]

ZLtwins, and wyattsmom2015, I see both of your points. However it really is not necessary to attack others and make rude remarks toward other people's comments.We are all adults here. I know when I see a comment that I like or I feel like making a rude reply to that comment instead I decide not to put anything. While I do appreciate your opinion on co-sleeping I do not appreciate the arguing and the insults in your comments.

[lady_panama]

I'm a FTM but I'm choosing not to co sleep just because of the dangers I've read about which incidentally are not the parents rolling over the children but from suffocating from the bedding and pillows on the bed. But I think its what your comfortable with.

[chriru79]

I think if you have doubt about it, don't do it. The co-sleeper cribs are great - you can hear the baby breathe, look right over at him/her any time, reach over & touch the baby. I am so sorry you've had to deal w/ such drama in your post.

[ZLtwins]

Hmmmm yes parenting advice from the person claiming to be a nurse on bed rest that gets out of bed to go outside to smoke. By the way your jacket hat etc is not protecting your unborn child. I have not attacked anyone I simply replied to you making fun of my post. You really should read the stuff you post. you change what people are saying.to feel better about your post. You first make fun of my.post by saying sids are more common in a crib yes a lot about sids is still unknown BUT ROLLING OVER ON YOUR CHILD IS NOT UNEXPLAINED.  Thank you for posting and proving my point i am glad.you finally got it or you would have been posting all day to make yourself feel better. Once again just incase I was not calling anyone else a bad parent just simlpy stating people do in fact roll over on their babies even if they think it.will never happen and.your.post about your husband shows my point so once again thank you. For anyone else.that makes to choice to co sleep if it works for you go ahead BUT BE SMART AND DONT THINKNIT ONLY HAPPENS TO OTHER PEOPLE

[wyattsmom2015]

You flat out attacked people who co sleep. And not all people sleep so hard that they are unaware of what they do while sleeping. Smoking around a baby is thought to increase the risk of sids. I will not deny that but I do not smoke around my baby and take all precautions like smoking out side, wearing a smoking jacket with a hat and washing my hands and face before holding or being around my baby. That is also my point you said smoking can increase the risk of sids. They do not know for sure that is even the case it is THOUGHT to increase the risk. They have no clue what causes sids the precautions they give are things they THINK you can do to decrease the risk. Studies done have given no real evidence that is why they call it sudden infant death syndrome because it is sudden and unexplained. Once they find out a direct cause they will rename it, until then all they can do is try to get parents to take as many precautions as possible and hope it will reduce the cases seen. Has it reduced the cases not really so far but does that mean people should not take precautions NO every parent should do ever thing possible to prevent it.

I myself admit that I break a lot of infant and baby so called "rules or no no's" but I make choices that are right for my baby My family and myself. For instance I don't worry about pillows or blankets or stuffed toys for that matter. But I have not had to deal with a baby with such little head control that they get their face stuck in such items, is that saying that this new baby will not have that problem NO and I will watch to see and make changes as needed. I don't make my parenting decisions from other people's children, I make my choices based on my children because they are all different.

For your comment on my husband yes I did say that and I also stated that he has not laid on them because I was aware of what I and other do while sleeping. Your statement is making it sound like no one is aware is asleep and that is not the case. You also stated that I was putting blame on others which I am not. I am stating facts you are just stating things that are thought or what you believe and using them like they are fact.

[ZLtwins]

I am not aggravated with anyone people can parent anyway they they want I know lots of people that co sleep and thats their choice BUT you clearly stated your husband bragged about the fact that he THINKS he has never rolled over on the baby and in fact has. That was my point to my post people think they know what they are doing when slwwping and they dont. You want people think they are bad parents for letting theor kids sleep in a crib. Taking drugs or drinking or going to bed sober with a kid in the bed are all acts that COULD end in rolling over on a baby.Soking can increase the risk of sids.

[wyattsmom2015]

No I do not smoke in my house, by the way read away. I am not blaming anyone for anything, I have had no troubles with sleeping with my baby or having a low birth weight baby.

My point was not to judge another parent because you do not agree with their parenting choices. People may not agree with yours and could judge you on your parenting. You seem really aggressive about people not thinking your way though, you should really be more understanding to other people's choices.

[ZLtwins]

so you smoke in bed to since you have smoked with all your pregnancies????  After reading your post on here I am not shocked at your ignorance. You would find a way to blame anyone or anything other than yourself.

[wyattsmom2015]

No3ontheway- I know what you mean but I am a mom that could not sleep if my baby is not right next to me. My husband tried to put one of our kids in the crib but gave up when he woke up to me asleep on the floor by the crib. When I delivered in the hospital they had a policy that encouraged you to room in with baby but did not allow baby in bed. They found me asleep with baby in bed but did not bother me again after they tried to remove the baby from my bed while I was sleeping. They got a very bad reaction from me and did not bother me again.

[wyattsmom2015]

I said he rolled over toward her and my arm blocked him from laying on her. I am not the one complaining I can't sleep with my baby. I have five girls and they have all slept with me never had one get injured. My first had sleep apnea that I noticed because she was in my bed, she had no choice but to sleep with me because when she stopped breathing I had to wake her up. Her pediatrician said she did not need a machine for sleep apnea because she slept with me and I woke up all the time to check on her, that is why I sleep with my arm across my baby. I can feel if they were to stop breathing. If I had not had my oldest sleeping with me she would have been another sids statistic.

Yes I did post the information like that to poke fun at your post but the information is still true. I bet I have seen more sids cases as a nurse than he has seen roll over cases as a police. Every roll over case I have seen by the mother was because of alcohol or drugs and prescribed drugs also count. If drug screened I bet those people would have something in there system. Just because they did not look drunk or high does not mean that their system was clean and what they took was not still affecting their sleep. After sleeping you will not show physical signs of taking something.

I am a great nurse and have people trying to get me to watch their children all the time because they know they will be safe. Co sleeping is a personal choice and your post made it about bad parenting. Some are comfortable with co sleeping and some are not. If you are then that is the choice for your family,if you are not then that is also a choice. I would not urge a mother who is not sure to sleep in a bed with a newborn baby. My post was in no way ment to urge people to do so, it was ment to show you people can look at it both ways and just because you are not comfortable does not make it wrong. You seem very closed minded and should really come to realize that your way is not the only way.

[ZLtwins]

Wyattsmom2015 so I guess your poking fun at my post. But you think is ok to blame a parent that places a child safely in the crib to sleep for not checking on them???? Really you even said your husband has rolled over on your child. That fact that you say you're a nurse is scary I would not leave you alone with my child for two minutes.

[no3ontheway]

I guess I don't see the benefit of sleeping with your child. If you are half awake making sure your child is safe you are not getting the proper rest you need to recover from childbirth and pregnancy.  Also, if your child gets in the habit of sleeping with you it will make the transition to a crib that much more difficult. I know in the hospital that I deliver in sleeping with your baby is not an option.  You can hold them all you want but when you sleep they must be with someone else or in their bassinet.

[wyattsmom2015]

It always makes me sad to hear of people leaving their kids in the crib alone to sleep. I am a nurse and all babies I heard of that died of sids was in crib alone. Parents are less likely to check on a baby that on a seperate bed.

[ZLtwins]

It always makes me sad when I read that people sleep with their infant in the bed with them because its easier for the parents. My brother in law is a police officer and has been to more then one call for parents rolling over on their child and its always the same tthing I'm a light sleeper I never roll over in my sleep etc etc etc and none of the calls have been for people being drunk or high. I had twins and I dont care how much easier it would have been to have them in the bed with me I never did it and wont with this baby. People rolling over on their baby happens all the time its just not plastered on the news.

[allisontaylormoseley]

I used a co-sleeper for the first few weeks. And, then the baby slept in between us in a snuggle nest.  Neither me or my husband are deep sleepers, so there was no chance in rolling over her and not noticing. I think alcohol and drugs are usually the reason for that happening,  as the other ppl mentioned.  Every single mother I know has slept with their baby. I think it's totally natural, especially when you are breastfeeding. I think your body just knows the baby is there and it's just a mom thing.  

[mjp0325]

It was actually recommended to me by my lactation consultant when I was breast feeding my first 2 years ago. A lot of women just sense their babys movement when they are laying next to their baby especially if you are breast feeding as well. There is even research being done that shows the possibility of cosleeping reducing the risk of SIDS. A lot of the time if a baby is killed by cosleeping it is because the mother is drinking or smoking or taking some kind of narcotic where it makes them sleep heavier than most. Also make sure that the bed you sleep on is not overly soft or has any real divits where the baby could roll.

[Mommypearl26]

You can purchase a mosses basket from Walmart for about 35 bucks it allows baby to sleep in bed with u and u don't have to worry about rolling over on him/her!

[newbabyak]

My little one went back and forth between our bed and the bassinet- until one night at about 2 months I woke up and she had pushed her way up under the pillow. From that point on she slept in her own bed until she was big enough to fend for herself.

[76Mommalizzy]

My babies always slept with me. If he isn't comfortable with it I wouldn't let the baby sleep in the middle. My daughter had a baby and the father sleeps to hard so she didn't let her sleep in bed. I think woman just don't sleep heavy when they have a baby

[wyattsmom2015]

Oh and just for the record I use bumper pads in crib and give my baby a pillow and blankets. If I can't sleep with out the items then why should I expect baby to. Never had any problems with those things before. I do wake up every half to hour and check on baby though.