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16 weeks & 4 days pregnant

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Im almost 17 weeks pregnant with my second child, and im utterly amazed at how different this pregnancy is to my first pregnancy. Everything is virtually the opposite to last time. Apart from having a small firm uterus, (and now the sickness has passed) i wouldnt even know i was pregnant. It makes me feel wierd as unless i get a flutter in my tummy from the baby, i dont even feel pregnant and lm worried i wont feel connected to my baby as i really dont feel like anything is there. Ive seen the baby on a scan so i know its there, it just doesnt feel like its there. Im probably not making much sense, but has anyone else felt this odd during a pregnancy? I cant seem to just relax and enjoy, im terrified something will go wrong, i feel a total mess to be honest.  
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1609228 tn?1316005141
Hi,

I'm just over 16 weeks and am just the same!! I keep trying to feel for kicks and flutters but nothing!! had a few scans so know it's there and heard the heart beat yesterday. I think its because I had a miscarriage in December so ive kind of disconnected and dare not get too excited. But I forget I'm pregnant with my first I was obsessed!! I just can't wait till November!! good luck
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875268 tn?1332768851
I'm 38 weeks pregnant with my first and felt the same up till about 20 weeks.I wasn't very big yet, didn't feel much and quite often just forgot that I was pregnant at all. I think that changes over time, at one point you can't get around it any more! Don't think you should worry too much, it'll come :)
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349463 tn?1333571576
I am almost 16 weeks with my 3rd and feel the same way. I told my dh last night that unless I get little kicks I forget I'm even pregnant. I feel guilty for not relishing every moment like I did with my daughter. I mostly feel constant guilt for picking up my daughter, not eating right, drinking enough, taking time to rest and general care issues. I don't have that connection to the baby yet. This time around it's more worry and discomfort rather than joy and excitment. I know that will change once the baby is born if not sooner. Try to relax and enjoy these last few months with just one child before the circus starts!
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1654035 tn?1332425178
At this point you still have over half the pregnancy to go! You have not even hit the time when you grow the most. I wouldn't stress about how pregnant you feel or don't feel. As time goes by you will get bigger and bigger and feel more and more pregnant.
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