Am I wrong for this?

[Ccarter313]

I'm 39+5 weeks and I have been thinking about when I go into labor I know I don't want a lot of people there and a lot of my friends have invited themselves just saying I'm gonna be at the hospital and my bd is in jail for a year and all his family is calling and texting my phone saying thy want to be there but my family doesn't get along with his family and his mom is a crack head that I do not want near my daughter is it wrong that I am just ignoring his family because I don't want them to be there? I really only want my mom grandma and maybe my sister there am I wrong for just wanting it to be us

[Sydneylilyrose]

You are not wrong at all. My advice would be don't tell anyone you're in labour, just your mum and grandma. Don't facebook or tweet it, just plain don't say a word until after the baby is born. That way they won't know & won't be hassling you during your labour, that's the last thing a labouring woman needs :-)

[sorenr]

What a nightmare for you! Its so different in the UK, they will usually only let 1 person in the room. When I had my first, my mum came to see me when I was in labour and wasnt allowed in! Just dont tell anyone you dont want there when you go into labour and contact them later.

[mrssnazzybell]

NO YOU ARE NOT WRONG. L&D is just what it says, labor. You need to be as relaxed as possible because your mind needs to be on your little bambino coming through safely, you don't need people there stressing you or there just as spectators. Just love belongs in that room whomever that may come from. Mommie_3 has it right, get with the hospital so that is the last thing on ya mind, I am very particular about who will be in my room I'm not even allowing people to come by till a few weeks of us being home. Good luck!!!

[mommie_3]

Talk yo the hospital... u can have it where they have to call ur room and ask if the person is welcome there. U can make them provide id so they can lie who they are and also ask that information doesn't say whether or not u r at the hospital. I had it that way when I had my son.  

[wendyyx33]

I was the same way I told everyone not to come to the hospital but they did anyway. The only people I wanted in my room was my fiancée my mom and his mom. I told the nurses and they made everyone else stay out. All of my friends and other family members stayed anyway just in the waiting room so I didn't even see them or have to deal with the stress.

[sim89]

No its not wrong....I wouldnt let a crakhed newhere near my new baby(even if it was his mum)I dnt want my m.I.l. when I give birth just coz of the fact she's been a ***** to me! If I see her newhere near me I will be asking themidwives to get rid of her.if you don't want them there and their imposing themselves you can always ask midwife to tell them to leave coz they stressing you....

[Morrisfamily2012]

No you're not wrong at all. It's your baby and your bd isn't even around so why should his family be there when you need support not stress. Let them meet your little girl after you leave the hospital if you want to. I say while you're in labor and the days after you should only have those around you that you want to be there.