BF is stealing my thunder - or am I way off base?!

[bigbrownk9]

I am 34 and am 13 weeks into my first pregnancy. My boyfriend of 2+ years has 3 kids from a previous marriage. He is close to them, but they live out of state, and visit us on their school breaks - the next one is coming up in a week when we will share our news with them.

I am thrilled and excited to be pregnant, but at my bf's request, I haven't told anyone except my parents and one trusted workout friend for safety reasons. It is important to my bf that his kids hear the news from him, and not by seeing someone post something on my FB wall or something like that. However, he continues to tell EVERYONE, and not even in my presence, so I can't even enjoy watching people's reactions. He even told one of my friends because he went to her birthday party (I stayed home with nausea) and got drunk and blurted it out to her. He's told friends of his I haven't met, and friends that have become both of ours. I really wanted to share the news at Mother's Day with his mom, and he refused to let me say anything, but then he told her separately a week or two later.

It's killing me. I realize I may be emotional, but I've kept so quiet about this exciting news to honor his wishes and respect for his family, and he's just blurting it to everyone. He's had 3 kids - he's gotten to do this before. And worse, even if it is telling, I don't even get to be present to see anyone's reaction! Am I being selfish to think that this is MY TIME and I should get to share? I'm so hurt I can't stop sobbing. I've asked him repeatedly to include me and it just falls on deaf ears.

THX

[kerriekab]

I think he is being a bit selfish! Tell some of your friends but ask them not to put anything on your facebook page, at least that way you will get to share someone's reaction!!!

[angela418]

I agree with all the other ladies, especially tinkerbell.  If he's blabbing to the world, then by golly, you should get to tell some people, too - so go for it!  It's your exciting news and you deserve to see some reactions from people, too.  I understand that he wants to be the one to tell his kids, but that doesn't mean you can't tell other people - just tell them not to post it on FB yet, if his kids will see it.  And what's to stop someone from posting something on HIS facebook wall?  I'm sorry he's being that way and I hope you get to enjoy telling the news to some people, too.

[tinkerbell1124]

Well if he's telling everyone, there's NO reason you can't!

[Linzola1]

I really don't think you are being selfish at all to be honest. This you both of your news not just his and espicallys ince he has gotten to do this before with 3 children I would think he would let you share the news. I really dont have any advice but I really hope he settles down and understands this isnt all about him it about the both of you and maybe his ex allowed him to be like that with her kids but make it known you wont!