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D&C VS natural discharge/miscarriage??

I had some bad news today just came back from my doc and told me that baby stopped growing and I will have a miscarriage soon. Doc gave me an option to either get a D&C, pill or lose it in natural way? I dont know which one I should choose.... Its my first miscarriage and when she mentioned the D&C kinda freaked me expecially the risk. Can anyone advice me which method is preferred?? The doc told me that any method works that its up to me to choose so she left me with all these questions.... Anyone share their stories?? appreciated.. thanks
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the baby finally came out tonight. It looked so weird and scary. It was just thick blood and a grape looking shape. It was kinda whitish and pinkish color with a thick blood clot attached to it. I didnt have the guts to flush it in the toilet so I took it and buried it at my backyard with the ultrasound pics. I felt so bad but at the same time I was relieved knowing I can move on with my life. Thanks all for your support..
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330481 tn?1309488243
At least you got some answers today. My miscarriage has gone as well as one possibly can I guess. I still feel emotional pain but my cramps are less and I stopped bleeding yesterday for good (i think) - so all in all it took just under a week (6 days). The bleeding was rarely ever heavy for me but there was a lot of tissue 2 times on my pad so be prepared for that. I wish you the best of luck - keep us posted and I will be praying for a quick recovery and speedy future BFP for you.
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hello everyone... Got back from my OBGYN officially I have a missed abortion. The baby stopped growing at 6wk n 1 day, I was supposed to be 8wks. So, doctor told me to let it happen naturally bec i started spotting today but if it doesnt comes out in a week I have to get a d & c which I really dont want to bec of the risk that comes with it.
Well, ty all for your support and advices. Deeply appreciated...
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Whats weird is the tech told me I was going to miscarry last night or today but i never spotted nor bleed. Today I feel nothing. its weird. Last night I had very mild cramps, no  spotting. Its just weird. Tomorrow Im going to my regular doc appt because the other it was just a second opinion doc and tech i spoke to. So tomorrow will finalize everything. I just wish i will miscarry sooner coz the thought of knowing im pregnant and cant have it is more painful than anything else..
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325319 tn?1220588398
when i miscarried a few years ago i chose to have a d&c so that way i didnt start to miscarry at work or anything. i was really scared of that. my d&c they put me out and then i woke up and was groggy and sore and bled a few days heavily and had cramps for a few days, then the bleeding lightened up just like a period and lasted about a week
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327668 tn?1224792350
I have had 3 mc, and 2 I did naturally. The 3rd I tried to do naturally. I found out on a wednesday that we lost the baby. I told them I didn't want a D&C, I felt it was unesscary surgery when I know it can just pass naturally, and that I had done it twice before.
They told me I may have some pain in my arms. By Saturday My arms started to hurt, from my shoulders down to my fingers.... almost like bad growing pains. Sunday on the way home from a 4 hour trip, I noticed I had some yellow like discharge  after stopping at some places for bathroom breaks. My arms still hurt pretty bad. I got home around 6pm, and about 10 pm started to bleed. Within 20 minutes it got out of hand, and I was gushing blood. I had to go to the er, and they told me I was bleeding too much, and had to do an emergency D&C.

I know this all sounds horrible, but from my expierence I figured I would just let you know what I went through, and how it made me feel. I had to have the D&C done, despite the fact that I didn't want to. There was very little pain, you just go to sleep and wake up. But I felt like something was ripped from me, instead of it going away slowly like a natural mc. It made it a bit more difficult emotionally for me at least. Then when I went for a follow up 5 days later, my doctor talked outside my room with another complaining and moaning that he didn't get paid for my D&C. it was a horrible expierence and I am glad that I reported him for his lack of caring for my feelings.

If you can, I would say wait and go natural. If you expierence a lot of pain or bleeding go to the ER right away.  It is a difficult thing to do, I know..

Good luck and Im sorry for your loss.
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297280 tn?1226706405
Here's my story & decision- I bled and spotted for about 2 weeks before the baby's heartbeat stopped.  I was around 8 1/2 weeks.  My mom had a m/c about 35 years ago around that same timeframe (9-10 weeks) and had it naturally at the hospital.  But she had a lot of cramping and passed a lot of blood.  Now, I'm a chicken when it comes to pain but I was also terrified of being put to sleep and having a surgery.  But when I weighed the options of which one I was more afraid of the pain won out.  So I had the D&C.  I didn't like the idea of waiting indefinitely for it to happen and that it could start at any time and be painful.  (Plus, at the time I was working a job where I had to park several blocks away and ride the bus to work.  The bus only ran certain times of day, so I was afraid I would need to leave work when it started and I would be stuck there.)  Anyhow, that was my choice.  I liked the idea of it being over and done and moving on.  Of course I grieved for a long time, but physically I could move on.  And I think having the physical part over may have helped me cope emotionally, too.  I did have some soreness afterwards and some light bleeding, less than a normal period; I took a week off work to feel better.  They gave me pain pills but they made me feel dizzy so I didn't take any more after the first one, but I didn't notice any difference.  
I'm sorry you're having to go through this and wish you a speedy recovery.  
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202436 tn?1326474333
Personally I would choose to wait a week or two to see if my body did it naturally.  Recovery wise and risk wise I believe it's much better for you.  IF that didn't work I would request the pill next.  D & C would be my last option.  I've had a d & c and I've had a natural miscarriage...I FAR prefer the natural way even if it means more cramping...there's less risk involved.  Either way, the docs should recheck your blood in a few weeks to make sure the levels have gone down...if they haven't they may do an u/s to make sure all the tissue was passed.  If your body will do it NATURALLY you will most likely expel everything, but with either option there is a small risk that something will get left, albeit a small risk.  Once the m/c is complete, if you don' thave your period back in approx 6 weeks, get rechecked.
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I am supposed to be 9 weeks but the baby stopped growing at 6 wks. I am feeling cramps right now but just mild. When I went to get my ultrasound the tech told me I should start bleeding tonight or tomorrow so i guess I'll just have to wait till it comes naturally but if it doesnt and the pain continues definitely d &c im juts scared of the risk.
Do you guys think that if i get miscarriage naturally would it be possible for any tissue that will be left inside?? Do doctors give u ultrasound to see everything comes off?? Thanks all for the support..
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So sorry to hear about your loss.  I understand how tough it is.  I didn't have those options as I was 15 weeks along, but I did have a D & C last Sept.  I had no bleeding after the 1st day and just extremely MILD cramps.  Nothing to write home about... I was more tired from the anethesia and from the sadness that a miscarriage brings.  But, about 2 weeks after my D & C I had severe cramps and they did an ultrasound and found "something".  That is when they gave me the options of going back in for another D & C, taking the pill, or seeing if my body disposed of this "thing".  Due to the risks of having another D & C so soon after my 1st one, and the nasty risks of the pill, I opted to let my body get rid of this "thing" naturally.  My period arrived about 8 weeks after the D & C and the "thing" came out.  You should do what is right for you though... everyone is different.  I am not sure how far along you were, but if you were towards the end of your 1st trimester, you might want to consider the D & C.  Emotionally, I think that it will be easier for you.  Waiting to see if your body does it naturally could be pretty difficult and if your body does do it naturally, you might get more upset seeing what it expells.  Good luck and know that many people understand what you are going through.  Sorry again to hear about your loss...
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i just had a DNC Monday cause the baby stop growing also. I wasnt in any pain they put me to sleep.I had a little pain after but they gave me something for it.I had heavy bleeding after but its not heavy now.the dr also gave me something for pain to take at home if I need it. it didnt take but 30 mins then they were done and i woke up.i stay in the recovering room for 30 mins then they took me back to my room.i was able to go home as soon as i could pee. it hurts to pee for the first day. then i went home. hopes this helps.if you want to know anymore please messages me i will be glad to help you. also the dr said we can try again in 3 weeks.
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it is very difficult for me. I am going to wait 48 hrs and then I might going to have D&C if it doesnt come out because the waiting and the thought of it that the baby is still inside of me really bothers me. Also,  I am kinda scared because I have this thought that I might get complications on my second pregnancy, get a miscarriage again or something but.... oh well...... When the tissue came out??> Was it big?? Thanks all for your stories
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354373 tn?1299184526
I had a D&C in Dec.....I had an U/S on a Wed. in which they found twins with no heartbeats measuring at 7 1/2 weeks (I was 9 weeks along), and they more or less suggested that I have a D&C due to risk of hemmorhage with there being twins....I chose to have Hcg levels drawn before making the decision, and waited the weekend to see if anything would at least start to happen on it's own...It didn't.  So on that Mon (12/10), I had a D&C.  As the others said, it was painless (physically anyway), minimal bleeding, and it gave me peace of mind knowing that I wouldn't have to deal with the chance of there still being tissue inside me.......Ultimately it's your choice.....if your Dr. thinks it's OK to M/C naturally, then I'm sure it's safe.......I just couldn't wait around any longer waiting for it to happen and knnowing that it was going to happen.
I'm sorry that you are going thru this.....It's a difficult situation.  best wishes.
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330481 tn?1309488243
I just had a natural miscarriage (I wasn't given an option since I had already started to bleed and most of it had moved out of my uterus by then). This was last Tuesday. A week later I am barely bleeding and I didn't have alot of pain. I didn't like that I had to see all of the tissue come out but I feel like it helped with the closure issue. My HCG had dropped to 86.5 when I started to bleed so I guess it depends on how far along you are and how long it will take for you to miscarry on your own. Do what you feel is right and what will help you the best. God bless you. And big giant hugs to you!!!

Jen
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436469 tn?1248973845
I had a D&C in November and it went fine.  I did not have any pain afterwards.  I was nervous about doing it, but for me it felt like the best option, since I just wanted it over with so I could move on and try again!  I should add that not all the tissue came out though, and so my HCG levels never went to zero after the procedure, and I had to have another D&C...which also went fine, but my situation was not common.  Good Luck! My advice is to follow up with your HCG levels so you know that they get back to 6 or less.
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187316 tn?1386356682
I ended up getting a D&C. My baby stopped developing at 6 1/2 weeks and at 9 weeks I still hadn't miscarried naturally. The D&C isn't really bad at all they just put you under and the next thing you know you're waking up in recovery. Afterwards I wasn't really sore at all either. It ultimately up to you to decide what you want to do. I was afraid of the D&C at first too but its wasn't horrible at all.
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447391 tn?1205761630
hey girl....i had a miscarage last september and i didnt take the pill i just let it come out natural and everything turned out ok...if i were u id let it come by its slef even if everything doesnt come out ok you can always have the doc clean u out i wouldnt take a pill with those kind of risk...good lick
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