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Daycare?
What do u mommy to be and already mommies think about daycare and what age would u recommend starting them?
Not a big fan of it but I'd use it if I needed it. I'd go family day care first so there were only 2 or 3 other kids if possible.
I do challenge the idea that children need daycare for social skills though. The more I read about it, the more I'm convinced it's a myth western culture has just made up. It takes some guilt out for mums.
Until they're 2 (on average), babies don't really 'play' with other kids much, they generally just choose a toy and play by themselves. They get adequate social exposure from family as that is basically their world (and meant to be), and their health is better protected at home too. By 3, they can talk to people around them, and are learning from them. Family, relatives, friends, shops, neighbours etc become more important, you don't need day care (an artificial social environment where everyone is a uniform age), in fact they will develop a much more complex social understanding if they are around all ages and learn the differences in broad ranges of communication.
As to what social skills they are learning at day care, well they are learning from a lot of other kids with similar undeveloped social skills. Perhaps they are learning the social benefits of lying or covert pinching to manipulate others - these skills may help them climb the social ranks in day care, but will not contribute well to long term social skills, and I won't be there to undo it or guide them. I'd rather teach and demonstrate appropriate social skills to my toddler than leave it up to age-peers.
Anyway, I'd use day care if I had to once my kids were weaned (nearly booked the kids in 4 months ago but cancelled due to logistics). I'm sure they'd enjoy it, and I'm glad it's an option, but there's no way I'd believe it's necessary (especially under the age of 2) or more beneficial than being at home with me.
I do challenge the idea that children need daycare for social skills though. The more I read about it, the more I'm convinced it's a myth western culture has just made up. It takes some guilt out for mums.
Until they're 2 (on average), babies don't really 'play' with other kids much, they generally just choose a toy and play by themselves. They get adequate social exposure from family as that is basically their world (and meant to be), and their health is better protected at home too. By 3, they can talk to people around them, and are learning from them. Family, relatives, friends, shops, neighbours etc become more important, you don't need day care (an artificial social environment where everyone is a uniform age), in fact they will develop a much more complex social understanding if they are around all ages and learn the differences in broad ranges of communication.
As to what social skills they are learning at day care, well they are learning from a lot of other kids with similar undeveloped social skills. Perhaps they are learning the social benefits of lying or covert pinching to manipulate others - these skills may help them climb the social ranks in day care, but will not contribute well to long term social skills, and I won't be there to undo it or guide them. I'd rather teach and demonstrate appropriate social skills to my toddler than leave it up to age-peers.
Anyway, I'd use day care if I had to once my kids were weaned (nearly booked the kids in 4 months ago but cancelled due to logistics). I'm sure they'd enjoy it, and I'm glad it's an option, but there's no way I'd believe it's necessary (especially under the age of 2) or more beneficial than being at home with me.
I started my son at two months in a home daycare. He's now almost two and has done great. I think he probably does get sick a bit more than if he was at home but I feel the education and socialization he gets is well worth it. My daycare provider is great. I will be starting my new baby with her between 8 and 10 weeks.
I hear what everyone says/feels about daycare.
I stayed home for my pregnancy plus 18months with my first. Not having the second income really meant so many sacrifices on my part but I'm glad o got to be home. I want my daughter to start part time daycare this fall because she needs the communication &social skills being with other kids. I'm still scared but also excited to see her pick up new things.
I am pregnant & expecting February 2016, I will give that baby 6months. I plan on starting a career as a teacher next Aug. I'm hoping he/she will be able to stay with my mother until he/she begins to walk before going to daycare.
I stayed home for my pregnancy plus 18months with my first. Not having the second income really meant so many sacrifices on my part but I'm glad o got to be home. I want my daughter to start part time daycare this fall because she needs the communication &social skills being with other kids. I'm still scared but also excited to see her pick up new things.
I am pregnant & expecting February 2016, I will give that baby 6months. I plan on starting a career as a teacher next Aug. I'm hoping he/she will be able to stay with my mother until he/she begins to walk before going to daycare.
Some of us don't have the option to stay at home or have family watch the baby. My baby is going to daycare at 6 weeks. I have to work. But we found a family daycare and we really like the old lady. She will be watching 3 kids counting my daughter and the other 2 babies are toddlers. =)
My husband and I will not have a choice but to put out little one in daycare at 16 weeks. Out son will attend the same school his brother attended so we will not really be worried. FYI, make sure you research the day cares and take the newborn to the site to see his or her reaction to the caretaker. I did that with my firstborn and my son felt comfortable in some while uncomfortable in others.
Oh yea. My 1 year old stays SICK. WHICH MEANS I STAY SICK. AM SO READY TO GIVE UP DAYCARE BUT I KNOW IT ALSO GOOD FOR HER TO HAVE THOSE communication skills
It's sad to hear all the negativity about daycare because of other horrible people. I personally work at a small daycare and all the caregivers here love these children as if they were their own. My four month old is here with me in the other room and I trust those ladies whole heartedly. We are very professional. But honestly if it wasn't for me working here too I wouldn't put my child in daycare till they are at least one. Babies need a lot of attention and care and some daycare have too many babies for all their needs to be met. But not all daycares are bad. There are still good people in this world who truly just love children.
I started my baby when she was able to walk at 15 months. I didn't want her to be crawling around on there floor. They tend to find every little thing on the ground. I also didn't want her to rely on them picking her up.
I don't like the idea of daycare. At first, I'm gonna be a stay at home mom but when it's time for me to go back to work, I'm either gonna leave him with my mom, or my mother in law or find a job where I can work from home. I don't want my child in daycare. I hear way too many stories on the news about what happened to people's children in daycare for me to be okay with it.
Me personally daycare and having someone that's not my mom or mother in law watching my child terrifies me, so I won't be putting my daughter into any sort of thing like that. Kinda ***** because I want to work but it can wait for now. I hear to many bad things about people watching other people's children
me as a mother who doesnt feel comfortable about putting my baby in daycare I had family watch my little one until information got pregnant again now I'm a stay at home mom with my 2 year old and my baby girl will b here in October I feel if they can't tell you what goes on in daycare they shouldn't be in it I hear to much bad things about daycare but that my opinion many people put their kids in daycare and do just fine I'm just not comfortable with it I'm very lucky that their father can work and take care of us
Well I started myself around two or three and picked up a bad habit that I am still dealing with to this day and I am 23yrs old. So I am not putting my little one in daycare I am trying to get a stay at home mom job so I can take care of her without daycare.
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