Difficulties conceiving

[Sarah61086]

Hi all

Well it's now been 12 months since I misscarried and 12 months since I started trying for my second baby.
I have only have 4 periods since my misscarriage so have had verly few chances of attempting to get pregnant.
Im soooo irregular and its just making it that much more difficult to conceive.
In August i bought ovulation sticks, they went positive and I have sex all over the fertile phase but it didnt work, and last month I ran out of sticks, so missed my ovualtion day by one day which i was gutted about.
Im starting to average out now of having a period every 7-8 weeks, but its still such a long time between each cycle.
However the ovulation sticks really help as they make me aware of my fertile phase and it helps me to know when my period is due.

Im just trying everything I can to get pregnant, but its just not happening. I was soooo lucky with my first, I conceived him straight away, but this time for whatever reason its just taking a very long time. Im starting to think it wont happen for me again. Ive been tested for hormone imbalances and PCOS and that was all normal, so i dont think there are any issues with fertility esp as we already have a son

In a way im starting to feel like im letting my husband down because if it wasnt for my irregular cycles we would have more attempts at getting pregnant.

Im starting to loose face and i would love so much to give my son a sibling and expand our family. My son is 3 now and he keeps asking me for a baby sister which makes me feel even more guilty for not being pregnant yet.
Im starting to become concerned about the age gap that there will be between my children as the last thing i want is for my son to get jealous because he is used to being on his own.

If there is anyone out there like me who is having difficulty, feel free to respond to this.

[Sarah61086]

Thank you, I am going to hopefully be fertile in about 3 weeks or so, so ill wait and see if i get pregnant or not and then consult a fertility doctor. Im hoping so much it works

[Eirlis]

You need to see a Reproductive Endocrinologist (ie, fertility doctor). Irregular periods are not normal and there is medication that can help. They will probably start you on Clomid and do IUI assuming you test normal otherwise.

Good luck and don't beat yourself up about this. Infertility is something that alot of women experience and you can get treatment for it.

Hang in there!

-Eirlis

[Sarah61086]

but i thought if i went on the pill i would have the same problems when i came off it again?
I'll try and spk to my DR again.
Although funny you should say that, i was on the pill b4 i had my first child, came off it had a pill period and then fell pregnant.
Thank you

[Beccabb]

You should go on the pill to regulate your period, I never had periods maybe once every 3"4 months  went on the pill had 3 cycles with it stopped taking it and bam straigh away pregnant, you NEED something like the pill to get you regulated or you will be waiting around forever

[Sarah61086]

I spoke to my DR about giving me somthing to regulate my periods and all they said was "we can put you on the pill" I said i dont want to go on the pill because I want another baby and then they said "there is nothing we can give you to help" so pretty useless DR's really.

[Higgins1107]

If your periods r all messed up its going to take u later.. i would have the dr put u on med to make u have your period each month..

[ftmAmanda]

well. have fun. and try to relax. and i promise you it will happen faster than you think. it is good that you have no issues. besides af just showing up when she pleases. have you spoken to a health care provider to see If they can give you anything to regulate you'r menstrual cycle

[Sarah61086]

Thanks, but on some level I cant help but feel guilty because im struggling to give my family what we all want. Im trying not to feel guilty because I know I cant help having irregular periods, but I do partly feel responsible.
Thankfully enough every time me and my husband BD it doesnt feel like we are doing it just for another child which is nice and it never feels like there is any pressure and there is no scheduled sex etc. I think your right about the jealousy thing, i was expecting that regardless, I just dont want there to be a huge age gap as id love for my children to have a close bond.
I will keep at it and hopefully one day soon it will happen. My fertile phase will be approacing in the next few weeks, so here I go again lol

[ftmAmanda]

first of all do not feel guilty. i have faith that it will happen for you soon. as for you'r son. he will be jealous at first no matter what age gap there is between him and his new sibling. good luck and have fun making that baby