EXTREME Paranoia of SIDS... sleeping positions.

[Riot_Queen]

I was reading up about SIDS a few weeks back, and said it happens the most when babies are between 2 and 4 months.
Ivy just hit her 2month mark 5 days ago, and I haven' hardly slept since then.

I'm afraid to put her down to sleep, go to sleep myself, and wake up to find her dead or something.

I dunno why I'm so paranoid about it.

I don't let her sleep on her stomach.
She doesn't really like to sleep on her back either.
She's okay for a little while when I put her in her baby bumper next to me on the bed, on her side.
She likes it best in her bouncer or her sweing.
And honestly I feel safer with her sleeping in them.

She absolutely, flat out REFUSES to sleep in her crib.
So I let her sleep in her bouncer, next to my side of the bed on the floor.
And I don't like her in the bed with me.
I don't mind it if it's just me in the bed taking a nap while hubby's at work... but at night time when he's sleeping too... cuz I'm a light sleeper and I don't move once I fall asleep [[something I picked up during pregnancy once I got too big to roll over in my sleep and had to wake up to change positions.]] But her daddy is an EXTREMELY heavy sleeper, and he's also a very violent sleeper... he kicks, knees, elbows, headbutts, slaps/backhands... etc... and he rolls over alot too... and I don't want her getting hurt.

I dunno what to do with my paranoia sept to try to cope with it and try not to think about it.

What do y'all think I should do about her sleeping arrangements?
Do you think I shouldn't be letting her sleep the way I do?
I know she'll have to sleep in her crib eventually, but while she's still tiny, I feel better if she's right there, y'know?

Ugh, I HATE being paranoid n worried all the time.
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[Riot_Queen]

I don't think she has acide reflux.
She'll lay flat with me in bed, but she just don't seem to like being in her crib.
She is extremely attatched to me and screams if she wakes up n doesn't see me anywhere in sight.
And I think that's why she doesn't like her crib because she can't see me in it.
The sides of it are mesh, but the top surrounding part isn't, and because my bed is higher than her crib, when I'm laying down, that solid lining at the top blocks her veiw from me because the crib is almost right next to my side of the bed. lol

[BTS1022]

The only possible thing that can happen if you allow Ivy to keep sleeping in her bouncer/swing, is that she can get an arch in her back or crooked spine...something my doctor told me to do because I was allowing Conner to sleep in his swing, because it helped keep him at an incline for his Acid Reflux...but it does make him bend to an extent. He (doctor) also told me you have more of a chance that baby will develope a flat head in the back...the falt head does go away eventually.

I have what your talking about as well....it keeps baby from rolling over. I didnt like mine, because I had to put an insert for Conner to be on an incline in his crib cuz of Reflux, and had a tendancy to slide down enough to where his face smooshed againt the thing that kept him from rolling.

I found this thingy online, I have to look for the link...But it attaches to your crib/bassinet, it is a blanket thing that lays over them like a normal blanket, but it velcros to the crib or mattress so baby doesn't slide down the crib, or roll over, and also allows you to have comfort in making sure baby is warm, but not going to suffercate herself with the blanket.

Also swaddling has been proved to reduce the chances or sids. I have a swaddling blanket made by kiddopatumas, it uses velcro to make it easier for baby to get swaddled, and it keeps them from rolling over too. I will have to upload a pic of it and conner in it so you can see. It is amazing.

Have you ever thought that Ivy may have silent reflux, babies can have acid reflux but not actually spit up, so you dont know they have it. A lot of babies with silent reflux like to sleep on an incline such as swings and bouncers because it keeps the acid from burning their throats. Conner has it so bad that he is on Prevacid and Zantac plus that baby can NEVER lay flat, because it makes the acid flow up his throat and burns.

Anyways this is long lol, I have to go get the rest of xmas from toysrus lol

[Riot_Queen]

No no no I don't mean like those soft things you put around the crib so the baby don't bash it's head on the crib bars.
I don't even have a real crib, it's a portacrib/bassinette thingy. lol

And what I ment by "baby bumper" cuz I dunno what else to call it-

it's this lil peice of cloth with these lil soft things that you can velcrow onto the cloth, and then you put her in it to keep her from rolling over.

Mine came with 2 peices for her sides, and one little pillow looking thing to keep her head a little more elivated than the rest of her body.
They're soft peices, but they're firm, almost like a matress but slightly smooshier.

I dunno wth it's called, a lady friend gave it to me along with a carseat cover for bad weather.

[JoyRenee]

Mothers usually know best and you have to do what is right for you and your family. Our first daughter slept in bed with us, in the crook of my arm, for 10 months. I did not sleep for almost a year but it was what worked for us. She obviously doesn't do that anymore.

So I'm definitely not judging you or saying sleeping in the bouncer is completely horrible because our infant slept in bed with us for so long.

SIDS is such a scary thing but the rates are lower than they've ever been. I wouldn't worry too much. With the bouncer on the ground, you will have "drafts", especially with the heat on, so you may not need to have the fan on.

[kelliestarr]

I with you on this one. I'm paranoid too because my baby is 3 months old.

Here is what my book says:

The Joint Statement on Ruducing the risk of SIDS suggests that bumper pads be avioded, along with other products such as pillows, comforters, and soft mattresses. An infant who rolls up against the bumper pads may become overly warm, and overheating is yet another risk factor for SIDS.

Also it is more common in males than in females. Other risk factors the age of the mother (mother age 20 or younger).

Anyway what I do is I always wake up through the night and put my hand on his chest to make sure he is still breathing.

[Riot_Queen]

I don't think either.
My MIL keeps telling  me not to let her, but my mother told me all 5 of me n my siblings slept in our bouncers/swings the first 4 er 5 months of our lives. Either in those, or in the bed with her.

[GRose]

Now that I think about it he slept in his bouncer on the floor lots of nights too. I don't think there is anything wrong with that.

[GRose]

From birth on Noah never slept on his back, no matter how hard I tried. I bought a side sleeper sleep positioner, it had a large wedge for behind his back and a smaller triangle wedge for in front of him tummy which prevented him from rolling onto his tummy. Some nights he would only sleep in his swing and so that is what we let him do, we just kept it close to our bed.
I know it's hard but try not to worry too much.

[Riot_Queen]

I'ma look into that sensor pad, but until then, I prefer what she prefers... in the bouncer next to me on the floor.

She's strapped in on the waist/butt, so it's not like she's goin no where.

And we have a ceiling fan, but it gets so cold with it on!! lol
Do you really think I should turn it on?
I think I'd much rather her have a cold than die from sids.
I'll go turn it on and get her a lil blanket.

[rambopeep]

I was paranoid too, and got very little sleep with my dd was an infant too. Like you, I am a very light sleeper and wake up to every sound or movement. I am also a very restless sleeper, so having a baby in the bed wasn't an option for me.

Our bedroom was also very tiny and didn't have any space for a infant bed either. I had her sleep for the first 2 weeks in her car seat beside me on the floor, but I didn't feel comfortable with that, because she was beside a radiator in the winter. I then put her in her crib (car seat and all) for another week after that. I didn't like her always being upright and not stretching out, so I then tried laying her in her crib alone, which she immediately hated. Once I finally managed to get her into her crib, which was down the hall, I always wake up to every sound and would rush in to check on her.

The best thing for me was to get the angel care monitor which, has a sensor pad that you place under the mattress and is sensitive enough to detect slight movement from breathing. It put me a ease and I know it worked because sometimes she shifted herself to the bottom of the bed, the pad would not get enough of a vibration, so the alarm would go off. It freaked me out the first time she did it, but it gave me the peace of mind that I needed, with her being so far away from me. The worst part was remembering to shut off the sensor every time you went in the middle of the night for a feeding or changing or it would wake up the hubby too. My dd is turning 6 now and we are ttc for #2. I saved my monitor and plan to use it again one day. Definitely one the best baby items I ever purchased.

[JoyRenee]

They make breathable bumpers (onestepahead *******) because other bumpers are a SIDS danger.

My first daughter started rolling over when she was 2 months old, no joke. So she'd roll onto her stomach and sleep on her stomach. Eventually it was the only way she'd sleep. FREAKED me out!

Second baby slept in her crib, on her back.

Every little one is different. There are monitors you can buy and other measures you can take. I'm not sure if sleeping in a bouncer or swing without supervision is recommended and might be more of a hazard then sleeping in the bed on his back.

[Linzola1]

When Julian was 2 months I had a severe parinoia and now he is almose 6 months and I am still. Its hard to deal with but I have heard that you should put a fan in babys room to help with ventalation. (sp) Try to get some sleep. oh there is this thingy called a angel moniter that goes in the crib and if baby stops breathing fox x amount of time it alerts you! hope this helps!

[Avanaar]

I know SIDS is a big, scary thing for my DH.  His sister's baby boy died of SIDS years ago, and when he had my step-son, he and his ex kept him in the room with them forever!

I'm sure I'll be paranoid about everything, including SIDS.  But, as long as I try to do everything the best I can, I know if it happens that it wasn't my fault.  Don't try to worry too much about it either.  The stress and lack of sleep won't help you when its time to take care of your little one!

[neasyc]

here it is recomended to put your baby in the cot with their feed touching the bottom and the blankets only up to their shoulders dont let them get too hot and on their backs to sleep the slogans are "feet to foot" and "back to sleep" to help us remember

[ashiepooh]

It's usually the babies preference at this point.  Some times babies are scared of the big openness of the crib, so they don't want to be in it till their older.  I know plenty of people whose kids slept in swings or bouncer seats.  For 4 to 5 months.  And it was a little harder to get them to sleep in the crib after that, but it worked for them.  

I'd ask your doctor what s/he thinks.

[Mumita]

from what I've read on SIDS it's mostly to do with lack of fresh air and ventilation. I'd say get rid of the bumper guards on her bed so there's more fresh air coming on her crib.  Then put a ceiling fan in her room so there's more circulation of air in her room and only let her sleeep on her side and face up.  There's those baby pillows that brings her head up a little which is good too.  Don't worry too much about it.
Also, as long as she falls asleep, if she's sleeping in her carrier, bouncy seat or whatever, as long as she's sleeping she's ok.