Getting out of control!!

[unborn13]

I am 25w and I been stressed out alot to the point when I get mad my baby starts to kick and get crazy inside my stomach I even get chest pains and get nauseous. I been having problems with my bf because of his son not obeying me! Which I got tired of it we talked it out we came into some agreements but yesterday we got into a huge argument because I had a appointment and I dropped his son and my daughter off at my moms for like 3 hrs so my bf calls me it was already 7 in the night and I was eating what,my mom had made so he tells me that after im done eating to go home so I said ok. But when he calls back im still at my moms and I was getting ready to leave.and he said u dont respect my decisions so I went off on him and I said well before we usto have a rule when we want to go out we had to be at home by 2:30 the latest 3 but no when ever he goes out he comes at 4 and I said well when I have the baby im gna come at the same time you come to I said you dont even ask me oh is it ok if I go no he says im gonna go I will come later but I dont trust him and I told him I dont trust him cause he cheated on me twice and recently like two months ago I cought some text messages on his phone that were deleted but I was able to see them on his history he was talking to some other girl while I sit at home take care of the kids and he said im sorry it was a mistake and I said you say that I am selfish but look at you, you didnt care not even about our baby so I told him hes the selfish one and is just I been having trust issues and I told him that I regret getting pregnant by him now I feel like I want to just leave him :(

[baby2_on_the_way]

you will have to make the decision to truly forgive him (and let it go) or leave him. a relationship is nothing without trust and by keeping your relationship together after him cheating you made the decision to forgive and forget. it is hard but the only way things can work. I think that you both need to sit down and set some ground rules to the relationship cause saying things you don't mean cant be taken back and will stick in both of your heads. maybe try only going out together? other than very few occasions, me and my bf only go out together...granted he does get to go to darts with the guys on Wednesdays, I know where he is, when it starts and when it ends, and he by NO means considers me an overbearing girlfriend, its just common curtisy to let your loved one know whats up. I would also say that the cheating doesn't get brought up, even in the heat of the moment! and if there are other problems that should be addressed like maybe having the complete phone history for BOTH of your phones come on the phone bill every month, so that he doesn't fall off track would also be a good idea, and if you do that I wouldn't suggest reading through every text everytime you get the bill and getting mad over everything, but maybe just skim over it when he isn't looking to make sure there is no cheating, but let him do the same to you (since you have nothing to hide anyways)...hope it helps on both ends. good luck

[pqbabydea]

You need to leave him. He sounds like a controlling jerk. You need to be home by a certain time? Yeah, that's insane and if he can't let you have dinner at your mom's without an attitude like that, that's insane. He cheated and he probably has stopped of you're suspicious. If he's having trust issues now, he's up to something.

[BalancedWifey]

Act or accept.