How do I cope...

[aowens]

I just lost a baby at 19 weeks and I have NO clue how to cope...I came here so long ago when I had my first miscarriage and everyone helped me get thru...Being 19 weeks, I had to deliver the baby and am so grateful that I got to hold her and kiss her little head...We will have her cremated on Monday and bring her home..But I do not know what to do from here..Last week I was buying maternity clothes and baby clothes and now I am looking for a urn for her ash's I am completely devastated but I have a 2 year old that NEEDS mommy to stop crying...Please any help and suggestions would be most appreciated

[Niqueniq]

I'm so sorry for your lost keep your head up and keep your faith high God will help you through this also try to find a group in your area where you can go to release it feels good to let everything out don't hold it in stay strong

[crisram]

Time... that is the ONLY way to cope. Time doesn't heal all wounds either, it just makes it easier to cope with.. and you are so right, that beautiful two year old needs mommy... God gives and God takes--we never truly understand our pain until we've really learned from it.. I've miscarried three times.. I thought being a mother wasn't in the cards for me. But it's all in His timing. His plan is a marvelous thing that is difficult to understand, but there is always beauty in chaos. Look at that baby you have now, THAT is your purpose. Your little girl was here for a short time, but I've come to accept that God takes the best, first. To teach us things, to help us grow, to makes us that much more grateful for what we do have... my two babies are my saving grace and by all means, your child is your strength and your backbone..take your time in healing! It doesn't make you any less of a mother to cry... it's your way of coping..

[valarie21]

I can't begin to imagine your pain & what you've been through so I won't, but I do feel for you & wish I could reach out and hug you. Im so very sorry you've had to go through something like this. Like you said your little girl needs mommy so try to focus on her. And it is ok & healthy to mourn the loss of your baby girl... It's only natural. God will help you and your family through this hard time. He must have bigger plans for all of you. Wishing you the VERY best & I'll keep you in my prayers.